Posted on June 10, 2007,

How to: Get a Girl Into Gaming

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The odds were stacked up against you. As gamers, we are socially accepted as overweight, violent, awkward, and unattractive. So congratulations, you managed to get a girl to like you. Some of us have to downplay our true passion for gaming from our significant others, leading a double life of sorts. I know it has happened to me. Walking through the local mall, the girl you are with casually points out the giant Halo advertisement in the Gamestop window. “Have you ever played that?” she asks. “A couple of times, I’m not really into games that much.” you reply. Secretly, you want to blurt out how last night some n00b totally rocket-whored kings on tombstone, and you totally owned that scrub. Instead, we remain silent.

It’s time to take action. The easiest way to get your significant other to accept your passions, is for her to become passionate as well. But, how? This topic has been debated countless times, and remains one of the truest mysteries in gaming. How exactly do you get girls into video games? Here’s a short list of some of the best ideas I have come across:

5. Introduce her to an MMORPG. This method seems to work pretty well, depending on how accepting the girl is of new ideas. The important thing with this strategy is to play up the “social” aspects of the game, and how much time you both will get to spend together exploring an imaginary world. Be sure to let her create her own character, as I doubt she wants to play as your level 70 Orcish Blood Warrior.

4. Start her off with “training wheels”. You want to introduce her to games that are incredibly simple. Not that she isn’t intelligent enough to understand complex games (she’s probably smarter than you are), but girls by tradition seem to shy away from games with deep learning curves. Cooperative games are exceptionally good in this regard. As funny as you might think it would be to run her over countless times in the Warthog, just remember she is playing this game as a way to get closer to you. Jerk.

3. Know what she likes. It’s really not that hard. Does she really like Lord of the Rings? Show her the game. Does she love crossword puzzles? Show her Bookworm Adventures. Cater your game choices based on her hobbies, and it’s a surefire way to get her interested.

2. Party games. I can basically put the word “Nintendo” here as well. The Wii is a great new way to get her into games, as it uses many of the same principles listed in the options above. Girls seem to be drawn to the “social” aspects rather than the core game play. So invite a bunch of friends over, crank up some DDR and Wario Party, and the rest will pretty much take care of itself.

1. Find out what games she might have played before, especially in her childhood. This method may not work for you older readers, but the Gen Y-ers will definitely have a place to start. There are very few younger women that have never, ever, played a video game before. Whether it was Mario on the NES, or Tetris on their graphing calculators at school, you can usually find some gaming experience that she remembers with fondness. Once you know what she used to love, then all you have to do is make the extra effort to attain whatever game that was. Once she starts playing that game again, she will be much more amiable to other titles as well.

So there you have it. I think the key point in all of these is knowing your girl’s tastes. So sit down, start talking, and maybe you’ll be able to get her into gaming yet. Then maybe she will be able to forgive you for forgetting your anniversary again, maybe.

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17 Comments on How to: Get a Girl Into Gaming

noooo

On June 10, 2007 at 11:37 pm

:lol: :eek: :!: nah…. this is dumb you get a girl and your that in the hole drop every thing :D :oops: :razz: :roll: :wink:

Kat

On June 11, 2007 at 12:49 am

That’s mildly insulting. I love my level 70 warrior.

Just date a gamer girl in the first place. You what makes you think it’s easy for us either.

theDECAY

On June 11, 2007 at 12:50 am

If I ever find a gorgeous woman who would rather play a Metal Gear Solid game instead of go on a date. I would marry her.

IchimonTheGreat

On June 11, 2007 at 12:53 am

…so girls don’t game? Well… (please Nintendo, help them find us) I guess the article has some substance (stereo-typing us…yep I hear it all the time), but I’m a cool dude. To get girls to play, you do the same thing you did to get them to like you: by paying attention to her needs. And then totally wrecking her in bed. :oops:

Evan

On June 11, 2007 at 1:19 am

Okay. You guys are ridiculous. I mean i love videogames (maybe not as much as you guys). But think about all of the other things you guys could be doing? go to the zoo, a movie, dinner. bottom-line: girls are just not really into videogames as much as guys. So to quote Mr. theDECAY:
“If I ever find a gorgeous woman who would rather play a Metal Gear Solid game instead of go on a date. I would marry her.”
You have to take what you can get… be grateful of even having her.
Seriously though the the starting out with easy games is a good idea. Smash Brothers; not a good idea. Fusion Frenzy; great idea.

Eva-Lise Carlstrom

On June 11, 2007 at 1:38 am

Article assumes gamer readers are all male (and straight). Pffft.

Dilemma

On June 11, 2007 at 1:41 am

It’s werid when it’s the other way around, I have dated heaps of guys who would rather go outside for a walk then play coop games with me… :cry:

William

On June 11, 2007 at 2:40 am

hey Mazz..I submitted this story and it’s on front page of N4G.com :) :)

William

On June 11, 2007 at 4:55 am

I thought about picking up a pink PS2 .. just to piss people off.. not sure if I should though.

Magdalena

On June 11, 2007 at 5:19 am

Well this gamergirl does not want a pink ps2, simplu attract her with a new grapich card and a real good horror shooter F.E.A.R FTW

Stephany

On June 25, 2007 at 10:14 pm

I would rather kick my boyfriend’s ass at Wii boxing any day of the week than go on a sissy-assed picnic. Give me a bottle of wine, pizza, and a Wii and I am a happy gal. Yet, on the same token, he must understand that when I am in Oblivion mode, you talk to me, you die. Plain and simple. And like Kat said, if you date a gamer gal in the first place, you will have no worries.

Xboxlenny

On June 26, 2007 at 9:14 am

Give them a controller and let them play, ive seen chicks play Rainbow six Vegas, and others play Tetris, Golf, anything goes. im sure if i was a chick id play what ever, just take her to dinner or a movie, cuz chicks want more than just a good game. there is no set way to get a chick to play games, either they like it or dont. like anyone else on other things.

LaChandra

On June 26, 2007 at 1:42 pm

I agree with Stephany and Kat for the most part. I started gaming with the Atari thanks to my father. From there it went to the Nintendo, Sega Genesis, Playstation, PS2, and finally the Wii. I also believe in giving them something simple to start off with. Also you might not want to get your girl that into it then you will never have your space or a chance to play your favorite game because she’s always on. Oh and theDecay what about a decent looking girl, do I qualify?…lol.

Shawn Sines

On June 26, 2007 at 6:40 pm

Gaming is not a gender based thing. I have known so many female gamers.. so many.. and I’m raising 3 myself these days. The key here is really to find games that appeal to everyone – are good, tell a good story or are just plain fun to play. Gender has no bias to fun. Also involve them, invite them, encourage them and don’t be s when they beat you or condescending– you know the same things that work in having a conversation or a relationship with a woman.

Though I just don’t get the whole Sims thing… really.. I… Don’t..

Stephany

On June 27, 2007 at 2:30 pm

I agree with Shawn, although Sim Farm was fun… I could care less about the others… of course this is coming from a farm girl.

Lezzimoo

On July 1, 2007 at 12:27 pm

I love my Xbox 360! It’s one of my most fave things in the world =] F.E.A.R has to be my all time fave fave game, I could spend hours on that thing! Yes I’m still a very typical girl, and if I lose, I scream and I cry, but if I win, HAH! You’re in for one hell of a frustrating night :P

Personally though, give me a tabletop game such as Warhammer 40k or Dungeons and Dragons any day, thats the best sort of gaming you can get! Woo! And I kick a** at it too :P

LadyLethal

On July 14, 2007 at 6:30 am

OMG FEAR is the best game! I play as much as my partner does, recently had someone say ‘aren’t you like the best Aussie girl FEAR player?’ a real compliment. I know guys that have had to give up their games for new girlfriends. My fiance had to build himself his own pc just so he could play as well. LOL.