Man Arrested for Stalking Girls Through Xbox Live


I’ve been saying Xbox Live is chock full of weirdos, but this one takes the cake so far. In Saratoga Springs, New York, 20-year old Joshua Stetar met a 15-year old girl, who was living in Spokane, Washington, through playing Halo online over a year ago. He apparently found her address online and began sending packages and flowers to her home, all of which her parents returned. He also sent several hundred text messages to her cell phone, which forced her parents to change her number. But he managed to find her new number by “Googling” her and then drove 40 hours straight to her neighborhood. At around 9 pm on Friday, he sent a text message saying that he was driving by her house; her parents in fact saw his car pass by. Then at 9:36, he sent a message reading, “Tell the cops that I’m gonna rape you and your sister.” The girl’s parents called the police, who found Stetar at a nearby motel. After interrogating him, police learned that he had actually visited Spokane earlier and drove by the girl’s house in a rented U-Haul truck, which the girl’s parents were unaware of. He also had apparently been sending numerous text messages to the girl’s cousin, who lives in Billings, Montana, over the summer, until the police called him and told him to stop. He was booked in the Spokane County Jail on one count of felony stalking, but was released on Saturday on bond.

Wow, what a creepy, creepy guy. Let this be a lesson to you kids: Xbox Live is full of freaks and weirdos, so don’t give them your real name or anything. Man, it’s like the new MySpace or something.


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42 Comments on Man Arrested for Stalking Girls Through Xbox Live

used cisco

On December 31, 2007 at 12:17 pm

Its bad and its getting worse all the time. Kids like this need to protect their information and not be posting personally identifiable online. LIVE is not the problem, but it IS a facilitator so kids need to be careful.


On December 31, 2007 at 1:05 pm

There are some really messed up people in this world…….


On December 31, 2007 at 1:13 pm

“Tell the cops that I’m gonna rape you and your sister.”

Not the most successful chat up line in my experience :lol:


On December 31, 2007 at 3:16 pm

kids just need to stay the hell off XBL if you ask me. I would never let my kids play on live without some sort of supervision. They play all their games offline whether they like it or not.

Honestly, stuff like this is rare too, but still something to think about. Usually the kids are the problems on live.

Iku Tri

On December 31, 2007 at 11:41 pm

Thats just wrong.

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On December 31, 2007 at 11:42 pm

Wow that guy is sick person.


On January 1, 2008 at 2:05 pm

Here’s the story from the Albany, NY newspaper this morning…

da stalka killa

On January 1, 2008 at 2:13 pm

dayyyyum dawg if i seen dat ugly man come up in hiz car id pull out meh gap n bust 100 clipz inta hiz car an hopefully kill him too mann


On January 1, 2008 at 2:21 pm

Wow. This reminds me of what my friend told me once. On Xbox Video Uno, some dude exposed himself to a five year old, and I think was arrested.


On January 1, 2008 at 3:34 pm

i just finished reading this article about females in gameing:

Now i read about this story and its a step back for women and gaming.


On January 1, 2008 at 3:35 pm

lol what a worthless life


On January 1, 2008 at 3:40 pm

That is just wrong! i play live and it is crazy. there should be a filter for that kind of stuff! :sad: :!:


On January 1, 2008 at 4:11 pm

I dunno, I’ve had fair success with “tell the police I’m going to rape you and your sister”

I give him an A+ for effort.


On January 1, 2008 at 5:00 pm

wtf his name is my name joshua….lol i want that achievement


On January 1, 2008 at 5:34 pm

Keep kids away from adults in xbox live . . . not just because of this, but because everyone would benefit.


On January 1, 2008 at 5:42 pm

Why don’t we kill people like this? Improve the gene pool maybe…

wtf d00dz

On January 1, 2008 at 7:03 pm

“Why don’t we kill people like this? Improve the gene pool maybe…” – because we’re not nazis!

This dude needs lots of therapy, hopefully he’ll get it soon..

Sounds semi fishy though, most parents are in denial about their daughters ‘growing up’…You’d think a dude doesn’t go that far into the deepend without being provoked in someway.

Either 20 year olds should stay away from jailbait.


On January 1, 2008 at 7:24 pm

This story is hott.

a guy

On January 1, 2008 at 9:25 pm

It’s the stupid girl who gave out her information’s fault, not Xbox Lives.


On January 1, 2008 at 10:44 pm

First of all, let me get started by saying that this article reads like it was written by a twelve year old, seriously, jonathan, or whoever you are, get some writing skills.

Second, while occurrences like this are rare, I think it is best for kids to be told not to give their information out. Xbox Live is a great service. I always have a great time online. But I would put up all kinds of parental controls and always be in the room if my -10 kids were playing.

If the girl was 15 then it is her own fault for being so desperate that she needed to resort to giving out her information to older strangers.


On January 2, 2008 at 2:01 am

The girls are stupid the xbox is made for men not women so stay the off u sluts


On January 2, 2008 at 7:42 am

Would never have happened if voice & text communication had been set to ‘Friends Only’ in the first place. The single best feature of the Xbox 360 by far. Now I can actually enjoy playing Call of Duty with my friends without interference.

Just don’t accept friend invites from people you don’t know. It’s just common sense.


On January 2, 2008 at 9:35 am

Ummm, please correct the title of this article. The man was not arrested for stalking girls through Xbox Live. Rather, he was more likely arrested for physically stalking the girl and sending threatening messages through a telecommunications device (a federal crime).


On January 2, 2008 at 10:39 am

@ S.T.A.L.K.E.R. you and I appear to be social darwinists, and i agree, ppl like that just need to be shot

Quinlath Noturas

On January 2, 2008 at 2:03 pm

Lets see what line to use…….

I could try “Does your feet hurt, cause you’ve been running in my mind all day.” No No No she’ll never go for that.

hmm…. “Are those your eyes or are they the stars from heaven”. No, that is too cliche.

Oh I know…. “Tell the cops that I’m gonna rape you and your sister.” Perfect!!


On January 2, 2008 at 2:46 pm

Yeah but that stupid achievement only gives you 5 gamerscore and you still have like thirty two others to get, not worth all the trouble


On January 2, 2008 at 7:29 pm

I do not condone this kind of this at all.

but o be honest this story sounds bollocks, where is the sources.??? the story doesnt make sense. and the headline should be “man arrested for stalking girl he MET on xbox live” even if it was true. he didnt “stalk” them on xbox live. if he used google etc to get there number and sent messages on cell phone drove there… none of that stalking is on xbox live. this is just another crappy “shock” story to get hits to his site blogs and stuff don’t fall for it people.


On January 3, 2008 at 12:04 am

People Like That Should Be Permanately Locked Away. Thats Sick. The Guy probably couldnt get any girl his own age.

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On March 22, 2008 at 4:26 am

Very Very creepy. Of course, I would like to know how much money that guy spent traveling everywhere.


On July 15, 2008 at 9:15 am

Man that guy is sick….i just wish that the girl was smart enough to know that there are crazy people in this world…I know that she knows now…but its a process everyone has to learn 4rm experience..aka the hard way.So i wouldnt call the girl dumb..she was just introduced into the Xbox community and there just so happen to be wierdos and Xbox gangsters in the community…i just wonder how the did he get her address did she tell him or did she have it on her profile…or did he google her and find it…this world is ed up if u have not noticed you can get anything off the internet…i mean damn her address… ….well if u wanna hit me up my email is


On August 6, 2008 at 11:42 pm

that is very bad i want that guy arrested and prisoned


On November 18, 2008 at 9:53 am

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: HA WHAT A :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:


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On December 4, 2008 at 6:51 pm

hey guys you know when he sent that message saying he was going to rape her sister and her well i dont hate to say this but if i knew her and i was next door when he came or drove by i would follow him and break his legs but thats just me ha


On April 15, 2009 at 7:16 am

This story is just crazy! there really are some weirdos out there. But to say that everybody that plays on xbox live is weird just because of something one person did is even crazier. You can delude yourself if you think xbox live is full of weirdos, but the reality is: America is full if weirdos. For every story you find me like this that happened outside the US – I’ll find you 1000 that happened in America. Land of the “brave” and home of the FREAKS


On July 24, 2009 at 8:28 am

people are so dumb, now he’s in jail and guess what he ain’t playing 360 no more.


On August 9, 2009 at 2:09 pm

Yes def sounds fishy, she had to have giving him at least her phone number. She was most likely leading him on even after the parents changed her number she probably gave it back to him. they should have just taken her xbox away. But yes there are some 18+ girls out there that act like sluts on xbox giving out their phone numbers and leading guys on and except every friend request from everyone and then wonder why guys stalk them. ITS BECAUSE YOU GAVE OUT YOUR PHONE NUMBER CALLING GUYS MAKING THEM THINK YOU LIKE THEM THEN YOU WONDER WHY THEY STALK YOU. SOME GIRLS WHO PLAY XBOX LIVE ARE NOTHING BUT ATTENTION SEEKING EMO GIRLS STAY AWAY FROM THEM.

backforthefight BFTF

On September 15, 2009 at 11:30 pm

Ive had about 4 people stalk me on the xbox 360… One even said where I lived and that kinda freaked me out a bit but, Turns out a guy found out where I lived and posted it on his blog because my friend carelessly gave out my information… Carefull who your friends are.

Megan Sweeney

On November 10, 2009 at 4:01 pm

OH MY GOD. i know him, well, not really. he ofound my myspace and is stalking me my friendds allie mary jane and gabbi. he keeps messaging us saying he loves us and would do anything for us and its in creepy. this is no lie. dont trust him!


On September 12, 2011 at 12:55 pm

sounds like this guy needs help.. really if he spent so much time online finding out all this girls numbers and address he will understand how old she is and know that she was not really into him ….


On November 8, 2013 at 11:17 am

A followup:

This guy passed away this year (2013) at age 25:

A later run-in with the law:

His Facebook is currently public, looks like he “found Jesus” after all this:

He seems to have posted to Twitter as/close to dying: