Mass Effect 3: How To Romance Ashley

Looking for more Mass Effect 3 tips and tricks like this? Check out every easter egg, cheat and guide on Game Front’s comprehensive video walkthrough apps.
Find Game Front’s comprehensive game walkthrough library on our iOS app
Find Game Front’s comprehensive game walkthrough library on our Droid app

Sgt. Ashley Williams is no longer MIA. Returning as a main character, she’ll join your team early to help serve the Alliance in their time of need. Lucky for Male Shepards everywhere, Ashley has chilled out since her first appearance, but you’ll still need to earn her trust. Ashley isn’t a fan of Cerberus, help her understand how you’ve changed and you’ll have a chance to continue a relationship, or even start an all new relationship with Ash. Find all about how below.

Save the galaxy with our huge video walkthrough for Mass Effect 3. For more extra content, browse over to our cheats page.

SPOILER WARNING: Mass Effect 3 Spoilers Ahead!

Male Shepard Romance Guide

Female Shepard Romance Guide

NOTE: All serious relationships are final! You can only have one romantic relationship. Entering one will nullify others.

Rule of Thumb: Always choose Polite or Paragon choices while talking to potential partners. Generally, those are the upper choice, with Impolite or Renegade options below.

How To Romance

  • Prerequisite: She must survive the events of ME1. She will only enter a romance with Male Shepard.
  • After the early events of the game, Ashley will spend time in the Huerta Memorial Hospital. Visit her between missions, choosing Paragon responses (Upper!) to show her interest.
  • Old romances from ME1 can be rekindled, or new Male Shepards can start fresh.
  • During the early conversations before her injury, make sure to choose the Paragon options as well.
  • Even when she’s unconscious in the Citadel, visit her and offer some kind words anyway. While there, you can purchase a special item, a Tennyson Collection, at the store terminal in the hospital lobby. You may have to wait until she’s awake to purchase and gift the special item.
  • Visit her; during your first trip to the Citadel, after the mission on Palaven, and a third time before finishing the Tuchanka missions. Afterwards, she’ll be ready to rejoin you.
  • After Tuchanka, and during the mission in the Citadel, you’ll want your trust high enough so Ashley will side with you during the ending confrontation.
  • If you were in another relationship in ME2, you’ll need to apologize and confirm that you’re interested in Ashley.
  • After she joins again, eventually she’ll offer to meet at the Presidium Commons. If she doesn’t push for a serious relationship, you can. With that, you’ll be well on your way to sealing the deal.

Game Front’s Official Mass Effect 3 Video Walkthroughs

Like our videos? Subscribe to our YouTube channel!

Mass Effect 3 Walkthrough Playlist (w/ Mitch – FemShep Paragon)

Mass Effect 3 Walkthrough Playlist (w/ James – MaleShep Renegade)

Join the Conversation   

* required field

By submitting a comment here you grant GameFront a perpetual license to reproduce your words and name/web site in attribution. Inappropriate or irrelevant comments will be removed at an admin's discretion.

36 Comments on Mass Effect 3: How To Romance Ashley


On March 8, 2012 at 9:24 pm

I didn’t get her the item in the store, will the romance still work?


On March 9, 2012 at 6:16 am

If I romanced Liara in ME1 and tell her just be friends, Romanced Miranda in ME2 and tell her things have changed, can I romance Ashley in ME3?


On March 9, 2012 at 3:48 pm

When does she push for the relationship? Right at the memorial, or after?


On March 9, 2012 at 10:48 pm

Hey Jeff,

Strangely, she’ll only push for a relationship quite awhile after the Memorial. I guess memorials don’t put her in the mood. You’ll have to wait a little bit before she’ll ask to see you, but then you’ll finally get the chance. It actually comes quite far along in the story. Keep cranking away at those missions, you’ll get a message to talk from her eventually.


On March 10, 2012 at 1:14 am

How do you actually go to give the gift to her?…..I mean I bought the gift but I do not know how to give it to her ….help Me plz!!!


On March 10, 2012 at 2:07 pm

You may only be able to give a gift during your SECOND visit to Ashley or Kaidan! If not, just keep visiting them, eventually you’ll be able to give them a gift. Maybe the third visit?

Either way, it’s in the conversation options! If you bought a gift and are still visiting them in the hospital between missions, you shouldn’t miss the option.

Another warning! There are several gifts available to buy for Ashley. But, she will only accept the Tennyson Collection! If you bought anything else, you may not be able to give away a gift.


On March 10, 2012 at 4:50 pm

if i didnt apologize for cheating in the hospital but i did all paragon with everything else with her am i still good


On March 10, 2012 at 8:45 pm

Kevin, Thanks! I was supportive and told her to be strong at the memorial, is that the right thing to do? Thanks again.


On March 11, 2012 at 3:20 am

I left Tali when I got her from Far Rim in ME3 can I now still romance Ashley or won’t it work? I didn’t get her the gift either.


On March 11, 2012 at 3:21 am

I left Tali when I got her from Far Rim in ME3 can I know romance Ashley even if I didn’t get the gift, so far at the citadel there’s been to romancing.


On March 11, 2012 at 8:15 am

I accidentally told liara I want her at the citadel kissed but no more I am now wondering if I’m not going to get the option to go for Ashley even though I’ve been supportive and everything it’s a little while after the memorial I’m currently sorting out quanarian is it too late or just hasn’t happened yet


On March 11, 2012 at 1:54 pm

I said one option where it was on the bottom . Am I still good ?


On March 11, 2012 at 3:10 pm

Hey Jeff,

Being supportive is all you need to do at the Memorial. It’ll feel like an oddly long time before she’ll want to talk again, so just go about the singleplayer campaign until she wants to speak. I don’t know if it’s in the Citadel, or in your cabin, but Ashley will contact you via e-mail or with Traynor eventually. Stop by to check your mail and her between missions, eventually Ash will talk again!

Hey Ali,

The gift isn’t completely essential! And you can still romance after romancing someone else in ME2, you just need to confirm your interest to rekindle a relationship. You won’t actually get into a romance until quite late in the game, and ME3 definately feels longer than the previous entries into the series.

Hey Barny,

If you’ve kissed? That -might- break your relationship with Ashley. Keep a save, if you can, before the kiss. Eventually you’ll be able to talk to Ashley again whether you kissed or not. If you can’t romance Ashley anymore, certain options with be grayed out when talking to her.

Hey Ben,

It’s just a rule of thumb to try and be polite. Choosing other options usually won’t hurt, infact, just talking seems to be enough most of the time. Sometimes you’ll have an important response to make, wake for Ashley (Or any romantic partner) to ask about a relationship, either asking whether you’re friends, whether you want to be more, how you feel about the other, etc. Usually these questions are very blunt, so you hopefully won’t miss them.


On March 11, 2012 at 5:55 pm

Kevin, Thanks. Yeah, it just seemed like it was taking forever, and she would say she was busy when I tried to talk to her. Just wanted to be sure I didn’t have to load an old save. I just started the Quarion mission.


On March 11, 2012 at 6:30 pm

Hi I told Ashley in the hospital I wanted to be with her, but then I met Miranda and not really thinking told her I wanted her in my life…AHHH…. I mean i want to be friends, not be with her…i have a save file right before this but i’ve played alot since, but haven’t gotten to the part where i come back to ashley for the third time. Have I ruined my chances with Ashley?


On March 12, 2012 at 5:01 am

She got drunk and banged James does that mean I can’t have her sloppy seconds any more ?


On March 14, 2012 at 2:38 pm

why wont ashley talk to me? i havent had any romance options yet. i want to be with her help!!!!!!!!!


On March 14, 2012 at 7:29 pm

Hi when i imported my saves they were , Ashley romanced in ME1, Nobody in ME2. Yet when i speak to ash when she wakes up she starts shouting about Miranda. there is no option to apologise only the clean slate or u left me options. Those wee the same options given to me when i did a playthrough where i actually cheated and i couldnt apologise there either. Please help. Thx


On March 15, 2012 at 6:47 am

Hey Mossy59,

The “clean slate” option is the same as apologizing, it just means you want to forget the past and move on with Ash. If you want to continue your relationship with her in ME3, pick that option!


On March 15, 2012 at 10:44 am

I romanced Ashley in ME1 and Miranda in ME2. Is it possible to have romance with both of them in ME3? I romanced Miranda succesfully, but Ashley didn’t came to my room before Cerberus mission. I always choosed paragon answers. Do you know what i did wrong?


On March 15, 2012 at 11:45 am

Check out the article above:

NOTE: All serious relationships are final! You can only have one romantic relationship. Entering one will nullify others.

You can only have one romantic relationship in ME3! Potential pick-up artists be aware.


On March 15, 2012 at 1:22 pm

Thanks Kevin! I wanted to have two romances and I always liked Ash more than Miranda but I made a mistake romancing Miranda.


On March 15, 2012 at 1:43 pm

I want to romance Ashley but i’ve been getting oneliners from her

is it because i invited Allers and Traynor in my room?
I didn’t do anything, i just invited them


On March 15, 2012 at 4:20 pm

Thanks alot kevin it worked great :) lets just hope the big twitter debate makes thm hurry up with new ending DLC. Thanks again.


On March 18, 2012 at 7:23 am

Romanced Ash in ME1
Stayed true in ME2 (her picture was still visible in cabin)
Paragon replies
Visit unconscious
Visit bed rest
Give book
Visit standing up
Visit memorial
I shoot Udina
Ash joins crew
See her on Normandy in lounge a couple of times
Then she vanishes. I cannot find her anywhere. I can find other crew members. Not Ash. Do not find Ash on Citadell. She can be selected as team member.

I’ve looked pretty hard. Even found Space Hamster without spoilers

I am sure to be embarrassed, but slim chance of a bug or something

Thanks in advabce


On March 18, 2012 at 7:37 pm

Me 1 i romaced ashley
me2 i romaced miranda
and I am a female shep
help ? O.o


On March 19, 2012 at 12:36 pm

I romanced Ashley in ME1 and 2. I got the letter to go see her at the memorial but when I go to the Commons she’s not there. Any suggestions? I just found Wrex’s scouts and am about to go save the quarians


On March 19, 2012 at 12:45 pm

Hey Ed!

The memorial is actually located in the Refugee Camp in the Citadel. If you’re ever trying to find someone in the Citadel or on your ship, you can always bring up your map and scroll through the different locations. A marker will appear if a character can be spoken to, making it easy to scan your ship and the Citadel for new conversations.

Hope that helps!


On March 20, 2012 at 5:47 am

I romanced Ash in ME1
Romanced Jack in ME2
In ME3 I got Ash the book, visited her a couple of times at the hospital, have used mostly paragon answers with her except that one time when she got angry at me regarding Jack & I used the renegade answer of “you left me” or something to that extent – Ash’s attitude on Horizin really pissed me off >:-|
Then I wound up kissing Jack by surprise (instinctive reaction to paragon interupt) on the shuttle at the end of the Grissom Academy mission. I have no intention of continuing my relationship with jack any further though…
Am I screwed? Have I lost the chance to romance Ash? Should I revert back to a previous save prior to the renagade answer I gave or kissing jack on the shuttle?


On March 20, 2012 at 2:49 pm

hey Pat, to be honest, you are screwed, since you re-opened romance with Jack you are no longer to romance Ash.


On March 22, 2012 at 12:19 am

Art: Ash might actually be in lounge, but lying on the floor with a hangover so you might not see her if you don’t walk around in that room.


On March 22, 2012 at 5:56 am

i didnt get to romance anyone except liara..a bit but ashley didnt join the normady after the citadel attack..maybe because of wrong decisions but i wasnt harsh on her..and now miranda is dead ..killed by her dad. How can i get ash back?? i didnt import anything from me1 and me2. help!!


On March 23, 2012 at 9:35 pm

Would just like to follow up on my previous post & report back that despite using the renegade answer of: “you left me” (or something to that extent) with Ash when she confronted me about my ME2 relationship with Jack during one of the hospital visits, & despite accidentally using the paragon interupt to kiss Jack on the shuttle back from the Grisson Academy mission, I infact could still start a relationship with Ashley :)
Naturally I had to break off my relationship with Jack when we met at Purgatory, and following that had to ensure I never commited myself to any other potential relationships (with Liara, Allers etc) that might have followed. But it does appear that so long as you avoid any triggers that lock you into another relationship, that you can then persue a romance with Ash with success. She & my Shepard just met at the presidium commons, sealing the meeting with a kiss :)
*phew* What a relief. So glad I never messed this up after all!


On July 2, 2012 at 11:21 pm

so can i do the “private interview” with allers and still romance ashley?


On October 10, 2012 at 10:25 am


I think I’ve done everything right, always paragon answers etc, but I found Ash drunk on the floor of the lounge, and I am worried that’s that over a done with. I’ve not committed to anyone else. Have I missed something?