Ok so here we go.
I had a pretty hefty relationship I have gotten out of recently and finally got myself back to the dating scene. I found a new girlfriend and things are fine but there is something that bothers me. My ex, which is very conniving , is trying to get my current girlfriend to hang out with her. Mind you they were never friends before and didn't even know each other at all (my current gf just moved here). She (current gf) keeps throwin it in my face like she is mad at me because I told her she was retarded for wanting to hang out with my ex. I honestly don't think I'm wrong for not wanting her to hang out with my ex but she seems to think I'm an asshole for it. Being she is trying to make me look like the bad guy, I made this poll to see your opinion as if you were in the same situation.
I didn't make it!
Kill em both... errr ummm I mean...
Personally If I had nothing to hide it wouldn't bother me. If you are desperate to ensure they arn't friends make sure you point out their differences "Suave-ly" and sly-ly. If you go out and say it your GF will think you are a Real Wanker.
Make her realize it on her own (With a bit of help... *Evil laugh* ) But don't tell her yourself because she will think you are just an angry Ex trying to smear his ex's reputation (Which if she had an ex boyfriend too he probably tryed to do the same to her.)
Well, its not about hiding anything, I'm not worried about that. The ex calls her all the time saying anything bad about me she can try to think up to try to get her to not like me. Those attempts failed and I believe she is trying to get her to hang out and do stuff she knows will ruin our relationship in an attempt to either not see me happy or try to get me back.
30th November 2006
Wheres the option "I cant take this bullshit any more so ill just ditch them both"?:cry:
10th June 2005
Well, I think in this situation moderation would be the best way to go. Perhaps you could express your concerns to your current gf that you believe your ex will try and ruin the current relationship by hanging out with her. Then just show your disapproval but leave the ultimate decision up to your gf.
In this way your girlfriend still feels she has some say on the topic, but is also forewarned what your ex might be up to, and therefore will probably take a grain of salt with everything your ex says if they do indeed hang out. Operative word: probably.
Still, the whole situation is somewhat strange. Why would they want to hang out in the first place and wouldn't your girlfriend be wary of your ex moving back into the equation? (unless she is wary and wants to hang out in order to put the beatdown on your ex :p )
Mas stylie por favor...
13th April 2005
Another flawed poll... I dont care and I am nuetral are the same things. Please add in... "love it, makes it much easier to suggest that they lock crotches and swap gravy..."
In Vino Veritas
28th August 2006
Well i wouldnt of called her retarted :P but, we all make mistakes we are only human. Personally i wouldnt care if my Ex was friends with my new Girlfriend, might make things a little bit easier between me and the ex, but if my ex started to break up my new relationship with the new GF, then id interfere.
*TRA* Spsk. Pilotka VVS
22nd June 2005
Ask for a three.....err....I do not think this would end up well at all. They will talk about you, and if this is a wtf friendship then something is up.
stylie;4207644Another flawed poll... I dont care and I am nuetral are the same things. Please add in... "love it, makes it much easier to suggest that they lock crotches and swap gravy..."
Haha true. Maybe that is where this is heading? ;)
I had to put "neutral" bc I know there would be someone that would post...I don't oppose or approve where is the third option :rolleyes:
As for asking for a 3...oh man I could only imagine that scene. Which ever one I would be involved with, I would be hit in the back of the head by the other :lol:
Lo, I am Mudra, za emo soldat!
25th September 2004
I feel that if your current gf likes you enough, then she won't do something like that that will hurt you. I think it would be wrong for her to be friends with your ex...she should know better that that would not be a comfortable situation for you. By being friends with your ex, she's in a way disrespecting you and how you feel, which is wrong.
Personally, I haven't had to deal with this kind of a situation...me and Storm agree that if we ever see our respective exes, we're killing them.