I normally don't ask or do anything like this on online forums but I find myself unable to find sufficient advice given what I'm about to ask, so any help would be welcomed...
Ok, so I'm a senior in high school and basically I'm done with school - graduation is two weekends from now. Recently I've really taken a liking to this girl in my class and even asked her to our senior prom last weekend. We've talked off and on over the last 4 years and really didn't get to know each other that well until these last two or so months.
Anyway, we had a lot of fun that night but it got a little rocky when she couldn't come to the after party I thought we were going to attend. She instead wanted to/had to go to another one, she tells me that if I don't want to go then that's fine but then she adds at the end: "but I really don't want to split up tonight". Long story short I go with her to this other party with a bunch of ppl I don't know, and don't particularly like too much and I basically am ignored by her the whole night.
The next day, I call her and let her know I had a real good time and all that plus I apologized for not being around much at that after-party (I couldn't stand the ppl there so I sat outside with another kid who didn't know anyone and smoked a ton of cigarettes for quite a few hours). She later called me back and told me that that night was the most fun she ever had and it was all b/c of me, she then apologized for ignoring me.
Later on I asked her if she wanted to go out to see 28 Weeks Later (a movie we talked about at some point that weekend) and she accepted the invite and we went to go see it last night.
The thing I'm looking for advice on is how can I tell if she maybe is having thoughts about getting involved with me. It's a little too soon to tell her how I feel (i.e. I think she's real cool and I like to spend time with her and I, obviously, like her) so all I can do is look for signs...which is real hard to do b/c she's extremely hard to read. She's kinda quiet and somewhat shy (alot like myself) and she has times when she's a little bi-polar. Also, from what I've gathered she's not one to make the first move - the same as me so that makes it kinda hard as well.
I keep going back and forth thinking that at one point she may like me (when I talk to her and she just brightens up and maybe nervously plays with her hair, accepting the invite to prom, going to the movie with me, etc) while other times I'm thinking it might be just a matter of time until she lays down the "just friends" comment or speech.
Overall it's just mad confusing, the last two girls I was involved with were very...outgoing so I never had to worry about making the first move, yet at the same time girls that I've pursued and have been turned down by would've done it by now.
I'm also looking for possible ideas on other things I could spend time with her for. The movies is kinda the stereotypical date (plus is usually a good first date) but I cant really think of anything else at the moment to go and do. As a graduation present my parents offered to buy me tickets to see Tool in July, she absolutely LOVES Tool and really wants to go to one of their concerts (she's never been to one before) so I was thinking of getting two tickets and inviting her along - but that's in like two months.
Any advice, help, ideas, etc would be welcome...thanks
tbh it sounds like your allready involved
I don't know about that...I wouldn't call it that at all. Maybe she wanted to go to the movie with me b/c she wanted to be nice or maybe wanted to see the movie, lol
Take her somewhere interesting, or different from a movie. Maybe go to a beach or a horse ranch or something a woman would enjoy.
UGSAce;3684007tbh it sounds like your allready involved
Agree. Especially after she told you she had the fun in her life because of you is a BIIIIIIIG hint.
Lol, I'm stuck in the same situation.
Crumbs;3685716Lol, I'm stuck in the same situation.[/quote] Same, it seems alot of people on these forums are in this situation. I Can remember 5 others who are having the same problem just these past two weeks. [quote=UGSAce;3684007]The movies is kinda the stereotypical date (plus is usually a good first date)
Thats not true, thats actually one of the worst possible things to do for a first date, because of the lack of communication between you, there's barely any contact, and both eyes are usually peeled to the screen.
Follow A Paranoid
25th November 2006
@ Vop2288 Well.. You two have been close for two months I'd say you already are involve somewhat like a mutual understanding of a sort. But I would not call it love yet somewhere around the grey area if you know what I mean but almost there. A word of advice. Don't blow it like I did.
deaf-man;3685726Thats not true, thats actually one of the worst possible things to do for a first date, because of the lack of communication between you, there's barely any contact, and both eyes are usually peeled to the screen.
Not true for me. We held hands, hugged, and had a blast... We saw Spiderman 3 and found it quite comical. I wouldn't be surprised if the few people that left, left because of us. We did a bit of LOLing.
Follow A Paranoid
25th November 2006
Crumbs;3685736Not true for me. We held hands, hugged, and had a blast... We saw Spiderman 3 and found it quite comical. I wouldn't be surprised if the few people that left, left because of us. We did a bit of LOLing.
Then that means the stars aligned for you that same night or it could be that both of you have good chemistry together.:nodding: