How do you deal with it? How do you act, what do you do?
I know before I sold my Xbox, I used to play Call of Duty, or Battlefield, or something violent. Seems rather counterproductive, but it actually really helped. Stress relief.
I deal with it in various ways now. A lot of times, I'll play guitar. Surprisingly, it helps quite a bit, and I'm not exactly sure why. Maybe it's because it takes my mind off of whatever is bugging me because I have to focus; I don't know. Sometimes, I'll read for awhile. Getting lost in a book, in the characters, helps.
I like to pretend I don't, but I often wear my emotions on my sleeve. When I'm upset, everyone knows it; and I'll deny being upset up one side and down the other. I'll typically just want to be left alone; but the friends I do have--the true, close friends--always seem to have a sixth sense about my mood and will text me with a simple, "what's up?" So that helps.
So, back to the main question. How do you deal with your anger?
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I for one deal with anger in a pretty relaxed way. Anger doesn't really occur quickly or often in my case, since I'm pretty much a calm person to start with. But when I do get angry, I often try to negate it by either reading a book, listening to music, or a very ambient and soothing soundtrack.
Usually the former helps the most, considering I have an incredible passion for classical music, which then also serves as my stress relief pit. If it's books, it usually is one that's either focused on philosophy or fantasy. Kind of depends on my day's mood.
Also, since I'm building my foundations in order to be a successful and beloved Opera singer, I try to be as careful with my voice as possible. With proper breathing & support, one can shout without damaging his or her voice, yes, but I try to avoid it anyway – it's needless IMHO, and stress or anger relief can be resolved using different ways – more effective ones as well – anyway.
Formerly known as Graeme and Arld.
Be interesting to see the different responses in this thread.
Everyone gets over anger differently, best to find your own, working method. Everyone is different. I generally keep on the bright side. In my family we always see the funny side of things on most topics. Sick relatives, lost a job etc. Best thing to do is have a harmless laugh. Obviously nothing offensive or if the matter is too dire.
I always joke around, I find it works nicely. Keeps everything to the back of your mind and helps keep you on top. Then again a nice amount of pot or a night out with my mates works just as good.
My advice to most people would be to just chill out, deal with it one step at a time.
When I was a child, and when I got angry it was something you would want to run away from, it was bad. But over the years I have been slowing finding different ways to deal with my anger, and I haven't got insanely angry since grade school.
I try my best to clear my thoughts, I tell myself to be calm and take in deep breaths. Which normally gets me level headed. If I'm at home I play video games or listen to music. But if I'm not, let's say at work or someones house, it's a lot harder, I just have to force myself to think about others things.
Mister Angry Rules Guy
1st February 2010
[COLOR=SeaGreen]When anger begins to take over, I just find a place alone, close my eyes, and listen to this: [/COLOR]
I like to think of ways not to let myself get angry in the first place, but that takes practice, and I'm far from being able to do that effectively. To deal with it, some quiet time alone, doing nothing at all lets me sort through my thoughts, and clear my mind.
I'm somewhat competitive, but not all that great at FPS-type games, so they really bring out my darker side if you will. Not the best anger management program for me.
Mister Angry Rules Guy
1st February 2010
The Soleutator;5614125......but not all that great at FPS-type games, so they really bring out my darker side if you will.[/QUOTE] Indeed. After an hour of killing, you will easily forget whatever you were angry about. [/COLOR][COLOR=SeaGreen] [/COLOR][COLOR=SeaGreen]:nodding: [QUOTE=The Soleutator;5614125]Not the best anger management program for me. Also correct, as killing is not at all a strategy I recommend for soothing yourself. It is for that very reason that in TF2, I play as a Medic most of the time. 1. It is purely helping others, even though you are helping them to kill others. 2. It keeps you aware that you must be willing to repeatedly sacrifice yourself for the good of the whole team. 3. It keeps you aware that you must also be ready to do so when your deaths come. [/COLOR]
swearing, lots and lots of swearing.
crisissuit3;5614137swearing, lots and lots of swearing.
That too, more often than not.
I drink. I will literally be fuming and my best friend will grab me by the ear until we've reached the beer or martini place depending on the weather. Conclusion, I tend to be a very happy drunk :P
Otherwise (if I'm not drinking) I drive and sing along with music.
First and foremost though I will try to solve the problem as soon as possible, if this cannot be done or I cannot make anymore progress, that is when I resort to my other two tactics :P