I would die without GF
2nd May 2003
I've been thinking for the past couple weeks that I really have some major anger issues. My last relationship which could have turned into a really good thing was probably ended because of some hidden issues I have. It's not that I go around hitting people or calling them names all the time (I have enough self-control to stop that). I have hit people before and called my last girlfriend a bitch, but those things are kinda rare. Usually I'm just really sarcastic and put other people down unknowingly. I'm just not sure what it is that is causing the trouble right now because I don't know how long I have been angry for.
And another thing, I don't really talk too much because I just don't like talking for a long time and my conversation skills have hit rock bottom. I used to talk all the time but now unless there's someone who clearly knows more than me or I feel can help me, I don't like talking. Not sure if that is part of the anger or not. What do you think?
Does anybody know any good ways to deal with anger or find the source? I appreciate any help.
I pretend I'm cooler than AzH
10th June 2006
In times like this breathe, think and act. You sound like you are too self centered, and just need to learn to socialize with others. Learn to atleast listen to what they have to save, and you will learn to handle it properly.
You already stated your problems, as they are also your concerns. Progress takes motion. You just have to learn to be more reserved and make the effort to say the right things.
It sounds like you are self centered, or simply poor at talking to people . Maybe not by choice, but certainly by habit. To break a habit, you have to continuously nab it.
Life is not that bad, just today I had news that my sister was dying in a bed...that hurts I am going to visit her right now.
Just calm down its ok man. I will talk to you more later, hope I helped out.
Take it easy .
High as a kite
29th May 2008
If you do feel angry just think,always think,don't stop Do not let the adrenaline take control just think also with verbal be careful what you say and who to,someone may take it major offensive and others not,also if they don't take it offensive they may get a bit pissed off with it constantly especially the sarcasm as you stated,will get very annoying after a while
The Carbon Comrade
14th July 2004
I think one of your problems is that you don't talk. At least, not much. If people have problems, on occasion, they can talk about them, but as you've stated, if you don't enjoy talking, then talking about your problems isn't really the most ideally suited option for you. For Anger, there would be anger managment people you can see if you think that would help? Of course, you'd have to pay for that, so unless you've got some money saved up somewhere, you aren't going to get there... Can't really think of much else to add to be honest. :(
I used to have those problems when I was like 8 or 9. It just stopped for me. Try being over polite. That worked for my other friend who had the same problem. Then after that you loosen up more and don't offend people.
I would die without GF
2nd May 2003
Thanks guys. Yeah my friend who I talked to today basically said to be really nice and that should change the way I think. That is probably the solution, because there have really very few times when I've been really nice to someone or done something out of the ordinary. My mother hasn't received a present from me in a long long time and so that might be an indicator... Anyhoo I think I'll just focus on that for a while and hopefully that will work.
God Send Death
10th January 2004
You may not be able to just "be nice." It's a lot harder than it sounds. I've always been a very angry person myself. I've gotten a little better though... There were a few things that helped me. When I found that angry rage building up inside, instead of flipping out I would go to my room and listen to some of the heaviest angries metal i could find (Dead to Fall, Through the Eyes of the Dead, Unearth, etc), that usually helped me calm down, then I could think of the reasons why I was getting angry, and how I could prevent it from happening again, or what I could have done instead of just getting angry. I also used to smoke a whole bunch of weed, that honestly helped me chill out a good deal...
Piercing the veil.
9th August 2003
Admitting that you have a problem is the first step. I'm sure you'll improve.
Dealing with anger is sometimes difficult. (depending on situations) Normally I just try and sleep it off if it's nothing major. If it harder than that, I talk it out to those that are close to me. Or I go to the weight room to blow off some stream.
2nd October 2006
A punching bag is great for anger release (the energy side). If you really wanted you could take ritalin...