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#1 6 years ago

I haven't posted here much, but been doing a fair amount of lurking here recently. Senior year of highschool (screw school) and I've been really busy with it, as well as being in a band and just finding time for myself and my friends.

Anyways, I just got back from my not-girlfriend's house about an hour ago, at about midnight (we're basically an item, but no title yet. Make sense? Yes, of course it does). We're really close and we're best friends before we got into our romance, so to speak.

Her dad was recently diagnosed with cancer.

Amazing family and needless to say, the dad is a provider and a hard worker. 4 kids, ages 6, 14, 15, and 17, as well as a wife. One son, who is 14. Not trying to make this into a "why do bad things happen to good people?" sort of thread, just throwing that out there.

About two months ago he went in for a check-up cause he's had problems with his esophagus for a few years now. After running some tests, they found cancer in his stomach. However, it (the cancer) wasn't too bad and the plan was to treat it with radiation. So for about a month and a half after that, he was going to appointments back and forth and things we're looking pretty good.

However, this past week and a half, things have started heading down hill. About a week and a half ago, doctor #1 probed his lungs and found cancerous cells on his lungs. Then a few days later doctor #2 (totally different doctor, no relation to doctor #1) found a tumor on his lung. Doctor #2 was hoping that it was only bacterial (his immune system had been down due to treatment and had been recovering from a few weeks of pneumonia) My friend's dad has had trouble breathing for a few months and gets tired easily, so it made sense that he had a large arse tumor on his lung, but the doctors had not found it until now. Anyways, doctor #2 was just hoping it was bacterial since his immune system has been down.

Nope, this morning they found out that the tumor on his lung is also cancerous (this was predicted by the family since doctor #1 had already found cancer cells on his lungs). Needless to say, the family has also been trying to pay off a mortgage and are now at risk at losing their house, as all this medical stuff that has been going on for these past few months is adding up, and even with insurance (which is just a joke anyways), is putting them thousands of dollars into debt.

So not only does he have stomach cancer, esophagus problems, lung cancer, and cancerous tumor, but he is at risk of losing his house. Starting Tuesday, he will begin to undergo chemotherapy for who knows how long.

Its just tough stuff, y'know? I'm very involved with their family, because frankly, I love my best friend, but I've come to love their family. The reason I'm posting about this now is because I spent the evening with my friend. Her and I went to the gym (I died), went out to eat afterwards, and then went to her house to clean up and just hang out. She'd be doing alright, but she just broke down. I spent a couple hours just holding her, telling her everything is gonna be ok, and all that stuff. It just pains me to see loved ones going through something like this.

Anyways, that's my sob story. Just needed to get it out of me, I guess.

tl;dr: Best friend's dad has a ton of cancer, is in super debt and might lose the house, it sucks to see the family like this.

P.S. Its 1am, I may or may not have missed some stuff I wanted to say. Grammar is probably poor. I'll just edit this later if I have to.




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#2 6 years ago

Shit man... I'm sorry to hear that. I hope somehow things get worked out and he manages to have it operated on and keep the house. I knew a girl who died at 15 from skin cancer. It was really sad and has affected meh ever sense. Death is intimidating and definitely something that not even experience can really prepare you for. If nothing is possible, all my best to your friend and her family in the time before... You know when. :)




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#3 6 years ago

Cancer does suck, one of the worst ways to die. My sympathies. Hope your friend's dad can overcome it.




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#4 6 years ago

Cancer is nasty. Last year my dad, grandma and my great uncle's wife and daughter died from it. Our maid of honor has it too, but she will hopefully survive.

Cancer is a horrible way to die slowly and painfully, and it doesn't look to age, my dad's cousin left two very young children, our maid of honor is the same age as my fiancee, and even worse, my grandma's younger sister was a mere four years old when she died from cancer many decades ago.

Anchovy Casserole;5617668 For what it's worth, there are additional ways to fight cancer besides chemo/radiation. It will probably do some good to do a bit of research. Here's one example (I don't want to sound like I'm advertising anything, it just saddens me that the medical system is so broken):

I can't believe the lengths heartless people like you are willing to go for some profit.

Dad's cousin only had breast cancer, which was perfectly curable, but she chose to follow your alternative medicine until she was too weak to be saved when she finally realized her terrible mistake and agreed to conventional treatment. Her husband was left to raise their small children alone.




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#5 6 years ago

Huffardo;5617682

I can't believe the lengths heartless people like you are willing to go for some profit.

Dad's cousin only had breast cancer, which was perfectly curable, but she chose to follow your alternative medicine until she was too weak to be saved when she finally realized her terrible mistake and agreed to conventional treatment. Her husband was left to raise their small children alone.

I don't want to start a debate here, so I'll send a full response via PM. I'm sorry for your loss though, especially if it was out of greed as you say. A few years ago I lost my grandmother to acute leukemia, and it was a slow death that no one should have to endure.




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#6 6 years ago

I got the bad news my last grandparent has colon cancer that spread to her liver and just wants to be made comfortable. I agree, it sucks, man. I'm sorry to hear about your girlfriend-in-training's dad, I'll say a prayer for him.


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#7 6 years ago

Been busy with school so this is the first time I've been able to view this thread. Still short on time though so I'll make this brief.

Wow, Huffardo, that's tough. My first experience with death was two months ago when my grandma suddenly died.

Grim update on my friend's dad. The cancer is stage 4.

Also, Menace, where do you live?




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#8 6 years ago

That sucks man. Stage 4 is not so good.

A friend of mine lost his mom to cancer back when I was in junior high. She managed to hang on long enough to see him graduate high school, because she was a badass. He got through it pretty well. as well as you can expect someone to get through something that horrible.

Remember that friends such as yourself can make a world of difference in peoples lives, especially in situations like this.




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#9 6 years ago

I hope, for his family's sake, he's got his life insurance paid up. If the odds are bad, and the insurance will pay out, it might be time to... you know x_x check out, so to speak.

Poor bastard.




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#10 6 years ago

Cancer's just the worst. My grandma passed away from brain cancer a few years ago after surviving breast cancer about thirty years earlier. Hopefully he's got a good support system and can pull through as well as save the house. Too bad health care isn't better in the U.S. Aside from the devastating emotional and physical impact, it's like getting cancer is a straight path to debt for those who aren't rich or upper middle class.