SupaStarAsh;3283535Lets see how much I "advice" I can get before I log off. This being in relation to tomorrow. Same story, guy likes girl, doesn't know what to do. - She works at the same place as me, though slightly different hours (she starts before me, and finishes before me also). The only chance we've got to speak would be upon passing, unless one went directly up to the other (which would probably not happen). All I've currently got from her is the occasional smile, and I got a "Hi" (though I spoke first). The question: If I am to ask her out, how to I start, and what to say? My first thought was to ask her if she is seeing anybody, and if not, whether she would like to. Every person who I've told that too has said it is a bad idea as girls don't like it. Thus I'm taking that advice. The other advice is to ask her out (just go up to her and ask her out) - though if I am to do that, I don't quite know what to say first, or do I just randomly "ask" and hope for the best? The only other bit of "advice" given my way, was not to directly ask her out as she may not like it. I'm not opting for this one. Any wise advice? I've got about 45 minutes before I log off, and I wont be on here again until tomorrow night (possibly) - I intend to ask her tomorrow in the day. Edit: All I currently know about her is her name, and what she looks like (obviously). Oh, and I don't want the "tell someone to tell her you like her" - That hasn't worked for me in the past, thus that is one approach that I'd rather not take this time.
Well I can only speak from experience on this as the person being asked. This is what I think may increase your chances or her saying yes. First and most important, make sure the girl knows you a little before you ask. Nothing is worse then some guy you never met before asking you out of a blue for a date. The chances of her sayin "No" is greatly increased if you do this. A girl must feel a little comfortable with you. So sort of be around at the right moments. Talk to her. You can sort of tell if you will be sucessful by the way she makes eye contact. Play it cool and be yourself. Find out what her interests are. It could be a paticular band. Find out as much as you can about that band and sort of bring it up. You will share something in common. It could be horses, Polly Pockets...etc. Kinda do you homework a little if you can. DO NOT asked her out by saying.... "What are you doing Saturday night?". Tell her what you are planning to do. Make is sound fun and interesting. After you do your best salesman pitch for this date, ask her if she would like to join you. Don't make it a big deal or put a lot of pressure on her. If she likes you she will say yes. If she says no, it is not the end of the world. There are lots of girls out there that would love to be your date. Thank her and be a gentleman. This will help you earn points for a possible future date. Special Note: The above is my opinion and I do not speak for all women, especially [COLOR=blue]Inyri Forge[/COLOR], or every female on the face of the planet.
The "getting to know each other" sounds good. But it is getting to that stage that may be the bigger problem. As I said before, we are on different sections, we work different times, and we don't have any related friends (I don't know any of her friends, and she doesn't know any of mine). Talking to her would be by passing by, whether it is asking her out, or generally chatting (and if I were to try to bring up a convo, I can't see it working as we wouldn't be walking past each other by chance), one of us is likely to actually be going somewhere important, like home, or to see to a customer etc. I thank you for your advice nontheless...
JillIf I may, Id like to make my own opinion heard here. Alot of the advice given to you appears to be telling you to back off, and let it die. I however would like to say something different.
If you truly believe this girl is worth it, and you can have a happy relationship with her, then stick by it. But be careful. In a way she is marked territory, you invade her boyfriends relationship with her, and that can quite well upset him. Id say your best bet is to keep being friends with her, and yes, somedays (most days :p) emotions will tear you apart because you're restraining yourself.
Keep being this girls friend, work towards what you hope for, the best things in life always take time to earn.. apparently so anyways. If you find out more about this girl, show interest, and see if you can be more than what another guy has ever been to her, she might see something in you and return the favour.
This is my own opinion, and I say it from experience. If you do take my advice, please becareful, as I dont want you to end up with a black eye and sore nose.
Good luck! :D
First off, thanks much for taking the time to give me advice. (Same of course goes to anyone else who has responded to this.) It's much appreciated.
Nothing much has changed, so the faint hope that this was some passing fancy is fading fast. Trust me, I'm not the kind of person who's going to work in underhanded ways to break up a relationship or blatantly try and steal this girl. For some reason, though, this is the only advice my friends who know have given me so far. Not very helpful.
Fortunately, I'm no longer on the verge of going insane over the whole matter, so I can stand to wait. I have a follow-up question in this matter, though: what should I do in-between time in terms of dating? On the one hand, it seems like a bad idea to just sit and wait on this one person no matter how strongly I feel about her, but on the other, being in the middle of another relationship and suddenly having an opportunity open up is not a position I would like to be in. Any thoughts on the matter would once again be greatly appreciated.
Thanks for helping through my personal episode of "The Petty Teen Dating Soap Opera",
Remember folks, in the end its all semantics anyway. There are literally, thousands and millions of fish in the sea. If one relationship lets you down, dont obsess, get over it because there is always Mr/s Right, just around the corner. Long as you learn something from it or enjoy yourself, no relationship is ever truly a waste of time. even the short ones.
especially the short ones
I am writing a love letter reply but first I need to concentrate... I started thinking about the letter at 3:00 p.m. ... it' s now 7:00 p.m. and all I wrote is Dear Linda... I think I won' t sleep tonight and my full packet of cigarettes will be empty by midnight... Wish me luck...
Roaming East;3290526Remember folks, in the end its all semantics anyway. There are literally, thousands and millions of fish in the sea. If one relationship lets you down, dont obsess, get over it because there is always Mr/s Right, just around the corner. Long as you learn something from it or enjoy yourself, no relationship is ever truly a waste of time. even the short ones.
especially the short ones
Agreed, good advice there. Just learn from it and move on and aplly what you know to the next relationship, eventually you'll be successful lol.
Radiation is good.............
16th September 2006
i thought my piece of advice wa spreety good, afterall, thats what i did :P now im halfwaya cross the globe
Haha well few chicks are worth that