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themanclaw

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#11 11 years ago

Its not even that. My friends don't even insult me that often (including my best friend who never seriously insults me; we've know each other for 10 years) and as for my other friends in that group, we always insult each other, our insults are never anything serious, and we don't pick on one person specifically.

Its just that when someone doesn't listen to me and starts running their mouth off, thats when I start getting angry; and generally when people don't listen to me they are stoned.




Liquid fire

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#12 11 years ago

I get angry too. People run their mouths and dont listen to me. They never give me a chance to express my whole opinion, let it develop , my side. They all start arguing with me right away with the first few statements. It enrages me. They never wait for a sentence , idea to develop. They never wait for someone to stop talking before they begin. I just want to prove Im not stupid or anything , but they just keep running their mouths never let me explain myself or anything about myself to them. Perhaps you have a similar situation. Just sharing in case you do or if anyone here does .




themanclaw

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#13 11 years ago

I think I share a very similar situation with you, not the same, but similar.




crisissuit3

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#14 11 years ago

well the fact that you hit your FRIENDS then i guess you do have a problem.




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#15 11 years ago

themanclaw;4237926It seems like whenever someone insults (even if its just my friends joking around) [/quote] I'd just like to point out that real friends do not insult each other.

In addition, it sounds like you need to learn to control yourself. Certainly, some people are naturally angrier than others - they're just born grumpy. These people (like you) have a low tolerance for frustration; they can't take everyday annoyances in stride (especially someone insulting them; friend or foe). And then there are people who like their angry side; their rage makes them feel powerful.

If you are prone to internalising anger, expressing yourself may be a better path (not however by "smashing your friends head on concrete or wrapping your hands around their throat"). The key to successful expression is assertiveness, which is not to be confused with being pushy or demanding. Making your needs clear without hurting others is a healthy way to deal with anger. I usually use humor to end hostile moments when I'm feeling aggressive; it often diffuses intense confrontations.

Edgecution;4237944 IF you don't have any of those, then just walk away.
For many people, that is much easier said than done. [quote=Edgecution;4237944] If you are 21 or older, drink boose, it clears your mind

I don't know what you've been intoxicating yourself with, but it certainly isn't alcohol if it's clearing your mind. On the contrary and call me old fashioned if you will, but alcohol will no doubt leave him less able to control himself during a tense situation.




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#16 11 years ago

Yeah you've got problems. If you can't shrug off being insulted then people are like as not going to be insulting you for an awfully long time.




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#17 11 years ago

Don't really know what to say, just try to focus your attention on something else when they insult you?




The_Geek_With_The_Gun

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#18 11 years ago

It seems like whenever someone insults (even if its just my friends joking around) and I tell them to shut up (multiple times) it seems like I come about an inch from punching them until I break their face.

see also: Violently choking them to death. see also: Smashing skull against concrete

The only time I've ever actually acted upon this is when one of my better friends was insulting me, and refused to shut up and I hit him on the head, but fortunately my best friend who is much bigger and stronger than me was there to stop me from doing anything else.

Is this normal, or do I have anger problems?

Yeah you have a problem. im sure there is alot about your life that i dont know, but you need to learn to control yourself. its ok to get annoyed at times but attacking what friends you have will leave you with none. if you truely are offended by what they say, dont tell them to shut up, that just encourages them to continue and annoy you further. they probably know you get mad easily and do it to provoke a response. if you tell them how you feel about their insults they might listen to you. they wont listen if you start attacking them. If they cant be nicve enough to understand that they are hurting you, and continue, then they arnt good friends anyhow.




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