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Aeroflot

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#1 11 years ago

Well I'm obsessing over this girl that rejected me a while back. She and I are still really good friends and we hang out quite a bit, which is odd seeing as she rejected me. I'm having trouble interpreting the situation. My friends say she might just need some time to think before getting into another relationship since she had a bad break up with a guy this past summer after going out for almost two years. However, when she told me she didn't want to go out she said she didn't like me in that way. She did hint that she wasn't 100% sure if we'd never go out, but I'm not going to have hope for that. What are some of your opinions given just this little bit of information?

The reason I'm asking is because I think about her all the time and right now I'm at my house in Houston kinda by myself and since I'm bored I think of this girl more. So she's on my mind at the moment and I need people to talk to even if I know I have to do whatever my heart tells me in the end. If she won't go out with me I seriously need to forget her. I can't keep on going on pretending to just be friends with her. I would tell her we need to break up the friendship right now, but she sits next to me in class and that wouldn't work. I was thinking of telling her after the semester is over in about three weeks. What do you think? Is it right to do something like that because I need to forget her? If I keep on going on trying to be friends eventually I will get jealous, which I sort of am right now admittedly. It's not healthy for me to keep her in my mind all the time unless she is with me.

I plan on telling her how I really feel if I do say we need to have a closing to our friendship. I think maybe when I asked her out and talked to her the next day about it, that maybe she thought I wasn't serious about her. I didn't fight for her all that much, maybe because I'm a little bitch or because I wanted to respect her decision. However, since I think about her all the time it is serious. I know it's not infatuation or lust, because I think about what we do together and not about her body. I plan on telling her I feel so I can get that off my chest, and then telling her that I think about her all the time and if we continue to just be friends it will be all a lie.

I'm really lost right now guys. I don't know what to do. All this sounds right to me because my heart hurts when I think of her not with me right now. Tell me from your view if this sounds right.




Flodgy

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#2 11 years ago

Your the last one I would have expected to post something like this Aero, but hell. Nevermind that.

I went through a similar situation late last year where a girl I had a serious thing for broke up with her boyfriend and started spending time with me. One thing I learned was, never assume things about those hints. Women (and guys for that matter) seem to enjoy dropping them and they almost always get interpreted the wrong way, resulting in a worse situation.

What I ended up doing was looking at what I could gain, and what I could lose. Time heals things, remember that. I ended up telling her how I felt and she said she would think about it. I never got a response from her, but I eventually moved on. If she was willing to keep me waiting like that, not worth it.

If it is seriously affecting your life mate, go for it. No harm in explaining it too her. Or you could just work on building your relationship with her up to a level you like. Ask her to the movies, go for a drink or something. Build it up, and when you have the confidence in yourself simply ask her. Then go from there.

I wouldn't close a friendship with her. She had true feelings for her and it's not worth losing a friendship like that.

Go for it mate, I say, take a chance.




Roaming East

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#3 11 years ago

Trust me. Ive been in exactly the same situation as being friends with a woman id prefer to have had as a romantic partner and the feeling never really departs. The only thing you can do is carry on and try to find that special girl elsewhere. Chances of her suddenly about facing and falling for you the way you desire are slim and holding out hope that it will occur will only make it hurt more when it doesnt.

By all means carry on being a friend but dont expect it to progress from there. Once a woman becomes friends with a male in a non-intimate fashion, its exceedingly hard for them to view that person in any other fashion.




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#4 11 years ago

time is probably the best cure, not that you should sit in your basement until you get over her, but you'll move on eventually




DarkstuareZ

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#5 11 years ago

Seems to me like the gate's closed bro.




Captain Fist

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#6 11 years ago

Time is the best cure my ass. I knew a girl a few years ago, I still haven't forgotten her, or seen her, since the 8th grade.

Then again, we weren't an item. We were just friends. So I guess my I don't apply for advice then, eh'?




rebornintheglory

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#7 11 years ago
Aeroflotte;4052611 The reason I'm asking is because I think about her all the time and right now I'm at my house in Houston kinda by myself and since I'm bored I think of this girl more. So she's on my mind at the moment and I need people to talk to even if I know I have to do whatever my heart tells me in the end. If she won't go out with me I seriously need to forget her. I can't keep on going on pretending to just be friends with her. I would tell her we need to break up the friendship right now, but she sits next to me in class and that wouldn't work. I was thinking of telling her after the semester is over in about three weeks. What do you think? Is it right to do something like that because I need to forget her? If I keep on going on trying to be friends eventually I will get jealous, which I sort of am right now admittedly. It's not healthy for me to keep her in my mind all the time unless she is with me.

And just remaining friends with her would drive you crazy, right?

How brutal.

You've got to get out, is all I can say. Whether time heals all wounds or not is debatable, but enough time and distraction certainly dulls the pain. So go, get away from her because it will be the worse for you if you do not, but if you are brave enough getting everything out in the open first would make it a whole lot better for the both of you.




arcadeplayer987

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#8 11 years ago

I had the same situation a while ago and believe me after a while you will lose your interest for her. In my situation she reject me, then after a while she wanted to be with me but I lose my interest for her and it was all over but I didn't get sorry for that, there are many girls to look for




rebornintheglory

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#9 11 years ago
arcadeplayer987;4053067I had the same situation a while ago and believe me after a while you will lose your interest for her. In my situation she reject me, then after a while she wanted to be with me but I lose my interest for her and it was all over but I didn't get sorry for that, there are many girls to look for

"There are plenty more fish in the sea?"

Yeah, it's true. But you're not in the sea, are you? You're in the middle of a huge desert. All alone.




arcadeplayer987

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#10 11 years ago

rebornintheglory;4053069"There are plenty more fish in the sea?"

Yeah, it's true. But you're not in the sea, are you? You're in the middle of a huge desert. All alone.

Desert??No Depends from a person to another but after a story like that, does not meen you will be alone at least for me it was not like that




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