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foo_fighter

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#11 11 years ago

Don't chase em replace em dude




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#12 11 years ago
Roaming East;4052693By all means carry on being a friend but dont expect it to progress from there. Once a woman becomes friends with a male in a non-intimate fashion, its exceedingly hard for them to view that person in any other fashion.

Quoted for truth.

I was in a similar situation about a year ago. It was a bit tough for a while, but eventually I just shrugged it off and moved on.




Kilobyte

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#13 11 years ago
Aeroflotte;4052611I'm really lost right now guys. I don't know what to do. All this sounds right to me because my heart hurts when I think of her not with me right now. Tell me from your view if this sounds right.

I don't have any idea about what you are going through. I've never been there.

I have had several friends who just happened to be girls. As a matter of fact, that is what made them good friends. When you meet a nice girl, they are more friendly, more caring, more open than most guys. I've met several girls who are about my age, but are mothers. I can cut-up, goof around, and just have fun.

I can understand that when you start thinking of most girls, as potential girlfriends, it becomes harder to view them as friends. In this respect, I pity you. But, yeah. Listen to Roaming East, and Rookie. If she says she is not interested. Then it is not going to go anywhere from there.

The best advice I can give you, is selflessness. Instead of thinking about what you can do together. Think about what she is going through. Try to understand her point of view, and help her to overcome where she is right now. Help her to trust again. Be there for her. Listen to her. Forget about what you want, she has already said your not getting it. So just be her friend, and be the best friend you can be. Be somebody she can talk to.

Stop thinking about her as a girlfriend, and start thinking of her as a daughter, or sister. Try to help her get to where she needs to be, and where she wants to be.




Aeroflot

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#14 11 years ago

Sorry guys. I was at my house all alone and emo. Sorry for being a little bitch about this. Now that I'm back up at school I feel better. Your posts actually helped me though. I just have to realize that we're not going to get anywhere.

Your the last one I would have expected to post something like this Aero, but hell. Nevermind that.

LOL I know right? This thread totally isn't me.

Milo If it is seriously affecting your life mate, go for it. No harm in explaining it too her. Or you could just work on building your relationship with her up to a level you like. Ask her to the movies, go for a drink or something. Build it up, and when you have the confidence in yourself simply ask her. Then go from there.[/quote]

As much as I liked your post, I doubt we're going to build up to anything. Too bad, because I would really like that to happen.

[quote=Monster_user] The best advice I can give you, is selflessness. Instead of thinking about what you can do together. Think about what she is going through. Try to understand her point of view, and help her to overcome where she is right now. Help her to trust again. Be there for her. Listen to her. Forget about what you want, she has already said your not getting it. So just be her friend, and be the best friend you can be. Be somebody she can talk to. Stop thinking about her as a girlfriend, and start thinking of her as a daughter, or sister. Try to help her get to where she needs to be, and where she wants to be.

Monster, I think you have it right. I really want her to be able to trust me. That is the biggest obstacle in my way for breaking off our friendship. I don't want her to think friends come and go like they did for her over summer. I want her to trust me. I only wish she would then change her mind about me and go out, but I know that won't happen. Son of a...

I'm done being a little emo about all this. If a mod could close this thread I would appreciate it.




Flodgy

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#15 11 years ago

Aeroflotte;4054933 LOL I know right? This thread totally isn't me.

As much as I liked your post, I doubt we're going to build up to anything. Too bad, because I would really like that to happen.

Hah. No worries mate. And I understand. Monster, Rookie and East nailed it I think. I was leaning more towards the hopeful, things-will-be-alright outlook. But as said, things are worth a shot. It's up to you whether or not your friendship with her is worth it.




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#16 11 years ago

This is something that every average guy goes through.

Enough has already been said, keep your head held up high.




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#17 11 years ago

If she doesn't like you she doesn't like you; that's just the way it is. In reality you could be the perfect person for her but she could disagree on that. Just carry on.




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