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IR15H

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#21 13 years ago

So this is the full story of the topic you made a while ago? Is this the same girl that you were trying to talk to before but didnt give all the details? Anyway I'd say sod the girl, she doesnt seem to be worth the effort. As for your friend Id say tell him that you still wanna be his mate and that he should be *allowed* to spend time with you guys on his own, after all when she goes out she goes out without him. Dont tell him you think he's making a mistake, tell him its his choice and you respect but will be there for him if he ever wants a chat, friendships shouldnt be destroyed because of girlfriends/boyfriends.




Flash525

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#22 13 years ago
Griffin_NLWell. Feeling sorry for you to have such a bitch in your life. Good luck.[/quote]Thanks for the luck, though I'd pass it onto my mate :)
Irwin Rommelno worry, I understood (almost) everything, what a shejerk[/quote]:rolleyes: Well, nice to know I don't have to do anymore explaning as such. :)
Großadmiral DönitzHmm I understand. She can't be around all the time, she must have things to do such as school, work, sports, friends? While she is away he can come over alone not?
heh, if only. She isn't at school, I believe she gave up College due to wanting to work full time, sports (unless it's sex), then no, and friends... To my knowlege she hasn't actually got any (may explain why she is always with him). I'm not aware of any of her friends anyhow, and I've not been told of any, nor have any been mentioned. [quote=IR15H]So this is the full story of the topic you made a while ago? Is this the same girl that you were trying to talk to before but didnt give all the details?
Nooo, this is a completely different matter lol. The girl in the other thread is a close friend, and one that I don't really have any problems with (all *that* is now sorted out thanks). :) [quote=IR15H]Anyway I'd say sod the girl, she doesnt seem to be worth the effort. As for your friend Id say tell him that you still wanna be his mate and that he should be *allowed* to spend time with you guys on his own, after all when she goes out she goes out without him. Dont tell him you think he's making a mistake, tell him its his choice and you respect but will be there for him if he ever wants a chat, friendships shouldnt be destroyed because of girlfriends/boyfriends.

She wont go out on her own (as she has nobody to go out with) - unless maybe people from her works, but they both work at the same place, so one going without the other would seem awkward. As for him on his own, I know she wont let him, and a fuss will be kicked up about it (by her) and even seeing the obvious, rather than getting into an argument with her, he is likely to cancel coming out with us, just to please her. - It's how he is!




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#23 13 years ago

youch. just read the thread.

unfortunately, there is nothing you can do. I've had friends metaphorically run headfirst into walls, despite the warnings by me and other mutual friends. I know how frustrating it is, how much you'd like to remove that leech from your friend....but you can't. He is the only one who can, and if you are lucky, he eventually will.

Otherwise, ask him whether the current situation is really how he wants it to be, with him being on a short leash, being told when and where to go.

Hope it ends well.


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#24 13 years ago

I'm in a similar situation at the moment. This is my plan:

First off, forget about the "bitch." She is no one as far as I can see. Don't try and contact Craig by anyway possible, just put him at the back of your mind. If you see him alone in the street, by chance, chat to him like you haven't seen him in years. If you see Craig and Steph in the street, just say hello.

Soon the slut will cheat on Graig. If he is as dumb as you say he is, he will continue the relationship, don't get involved. She will continue to cheat or cheating on Graig. This where you and your friends step in "individually" to say: "Steph will do it again and done it before, is it really worth the hassle? If she loves you as much as you love her, why is she doing this to you? Imagine you did it to her, how would she feel?"


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Flash525

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#25 13 years ago
Lord Wienerunfortunately, there is nothing you can do. I've had friends metaphorically run headfirst into walls, despite the warnings by me and other mutual friends. I know how frustrating it is, how much you'd like to remove that leech from your friend....but you can't. He is the only one who can, and if you are lucky, he eventually will.[/quote]I saw the 'run into walls' before I saw the 'metaphorically' :uhoh: - As for eventually doing it, I can't see him unless (as said below) she continually cheats on him and he looses his dumbness...
Lord WienerOtherwise, ask him whether the current situation is really how he wants it to be, with him being on a short leash, being told when and where to go.[/quote]As one of my mates said earlier this week, he is 'getting some' - as long as he gets that, I don't think he cares about who his time is spent with.
-SpArKs-I'm in a similar situation at the moment
I hope yours works out for the best :) [quote=-SpArKs-]First off, forget about the "bitch." She is no one as far as I can see. Don't try and contact Craig by anyway possible, just put him at the back of your mind. If you see him alone in the street, by chance, chat to him like you haven't seen him in years. If you see Craig and Steph in the street, just say hello.
I'd do this anyway :) [quote=-SpArKs-]Soon the slut will cheat on Craig. If he is as dumb as you say he is, he will continue the relationship, don't get involved. She will continue to cheat or cheating on Craig. This where you and your friends step in "individually" to say: "Steph will do it again and done it before, is it really worth the hassle? If she loves you as much as you love her, why is she doing this to you? Imagine you did it to her, how would she feel?"

Thats just the thing, she had cheated (with Craig) on this 36yr old guy - different circumstances, however I see it as once a cheat, always a cheat. He must know that there is a chance of this, yet he chooses not to aware himself of it. And yes, I think (like you've said) he will take her back each and every time. Fair play to her at present, she hasn't cheated on him and (from what I last knew) their relationship is strong. Overcame many predictions by me and other friends, I think the max we gave them was 6 months, there upto 9 or 10 at the moment.