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#1 8 years ago

I'm sure a lot of you remember this thread:

http://forums.filefront.com/general-discussion/421181-views-sex-partners-companions.html

It certainly was interesting and I was surprised to see the poll option that won. But anyways, most of you are familiar with my story in the thread, but now I have good news. (If you don't know what I'm talking about, just read the thread posted starting with page 6 I believe.)

Anyways, the good news is that she's now been single for the past few months, but now I'm still afraid to tell her how I feel about her. So, any advice, cause I probably need it :smokin:


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#2 8 years ago

Wanna me to tell her for you? ;)

You must let go of your fear. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering... wait. That won't help you. =p Take a Tricorder and scan her for the signs of an elevated endorphin level when you're in the same room with her and she's aware of your presence. That should tell you if your presence has any effect on her. Wait, that won't help you either. Tricorders haven't been invented yet. =p

As long as you let fear get in the way, you won't be able to do anything. So, do what Captain Janeway did, face the clown and get rid of him. And remember, the only thing you have to fear is fear itself. ;)

Yes, I'm completely useless. =p




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#3 8 years ago

Still counts as advice =p


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#4 8 years ago

Just go for it. You literally have nothing to lose. Queue blah blah blah about loving, lost, not loved, etc etc. Whatever, basically you'd end up regretting not saying anything so man up and go and ask.




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#5 8 years ago

Just tell her, if she is interested in you, that is fine and dandy and if she isn't, it is better than wasting a semester dwelling on it with the same result.


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#6 8 years ago

If you keep thinking about her and do nothing, you'll regret it forever, you'll find yourself wondering "what if?" Those thoughts and feelings are not fun. Today, at my cousins wedding, I found myself thinking of my ex girlfriend who just moved to England at the end of summer. I had recently been telling myself that I loved her, but that was probably because I was emotionally broken, I've known her for a very long time, she isn't going anywhere. However, I have been in several relationships in the past 3 years, and there was always one girl on my mind, one girl who was always above the girls I dated, or the girls that I "liked", I don't have the courage to tell her, I've had these feelings for her for 3 years, she moved away (only to a close province) for university, now I feel like I missed my chance. I tried to forget about her, and now I don't try, because I know it isn't going to happen. I've told myself many many times over the past few years that I love her. Do I love her? Or am I in love with the feeling of being in love? It could be the same for you (if you think you love her). You actually do have something to lose, it can be quite painful when someone rejects you if you have had strong feelings for them for such a long time, the longer you have those feelings, the more pain you'll recieve. Which is another reason why I may have not told her, I was shy in previous years, which played a factor in me not telling her, but I'm not shy anymore (at least I don't think so), it could be that I do not want the pain, I'd rather live with the feeling that I do love her, she makes me happy, whereas most things do not. My advice to you would be, don't do what I did, you'll regret it as do I, although you have something to lose, wouldn't you rather lose it now than waste X number of years and lose it then? That is my rant, I could come up with a more detailed paragraph, but I'm sure you don't feel like reading about my emotional life.:Puzzled:




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#7 8 years ago

This the fourteen year old kid you had the hots for? In the great scheme of things a few years isn't a massive age difference. However, when you're younger it likely represents a massive difference not just in quantity but quality of experience.




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#8 8 years ago

It's a two-year age gap, which isn't much really, but I do see what you're saying. However, it is something I've thought about for a really long time.

Also, I do appreciate the advice, it does help even if you're not sure it does :)


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#9 8 years ago

So then, I guess I should've read more thoroughly. While my advice remains the same, 16-14 is quite a gap.

While it obviously changes with age (my partner is 3 years younger than me), at 16 a two year gap can mean quite a big difference in maturity / experience / habits. I don't just mean it in the "you'll be more mature than her so she'll annoy you", you might not be. You guys may get on fine. Just remember people change rapidly at that age.




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#10 8 years ago

I think everybody is right so far, if you really do care about her, I would tell her. But I would be carefull becuase like the guy's said, a two year age gap is realatively large when you are that young. But a relationship like that can still work, I have a friend ( he is 19) who has a girlfriend that is 16 and that he plans on marrying when she turns 18. And they've been dating for two years already I believe.




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