ok well my boyfriends ex (whose tried to split us up a few time) may be teaching him for a class he has at uni. She says she doesnt want to do it because he can upset her (she says he used to upset her and he says it was the other way around before they split up) i know that if he goes round to her flat so she can help she will try to get him into bed because she's tried it before and we almost split up because i was scared of getting hurt, he assured me nothings happened and i belive him, i also trust him but i dont trust her and i know that if she comes onto him she will tell me that it was the other way around. Should i tell him point blank that i dont want him to go to hers or should i let him do it?
any help is appreciated.
The Carbon Comrade
14th July 2004
Well, if you trust him, you have nothing to worry about! If he sleeps with her, that trust is lost, if he cares for you, he wont sleep with her. Thats all put simply enough! However, she is going to be teaching him at University? How old are these two people?
She's 21 and he's 20, they went out for 3 years on and off. (most of the time he tried to avoid her because she annoyed him (she made him break his phone) and his friends told me he didnt like her very much too) (we've been going out for nearly 4 months.
Shes not teaching him at Uni. Theyre both at Uni and he needs help with a part in his course that she helped him with for the last 2 years.
The Carbon Comrade
14th July 2004
Well, the best advice I can give you is to simply trust him. If he loves you (or cares for you) he wont make a move on her, and any move she makes on him, he will repel. I wouldn't worry too much about it! If you fully trust him, then trust him to get her help without any funny buisness. If you are told (by her) that something more happened, don't believe her unless you have proof, in order to get that, you ask him face to face (make sure you look at his eyes, and he is looking into yours when he is giving his answer) - You'll know straight off whether he is telling the truth or not. If it does turn out that something does happen, it's down to you on whether to forgive and forget, however I'd end it and let it be. If he can cheat once, he can do again. Put, for now. Just trust him! :) I wish you luck.
Thanks. shes on another forum that she knows i look at and shes making a big deal of saying she doesnt want to help him etc, even tho she says she will to him.
i think im gonna just take your advice and trust him. He says he loves me and doesnt want to lose me so im gonna trust him for now i think.
thanks for your help, any more help is certainly appreciated tho :)
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15th March 2005
ok well my boyfriends ex (whose tried to split us up a few time) may be teaching him for a class he has at uni.
The university probably wouldn't like that, as it's a conflict of interest (ie she might falsify his grades for sexual favors, etc etc.). You could try talking to the university's administration.
The All Seeing Eye
5th June 2004
Let him do as he wishes, if he is to do something that you definitly do not like, then he is simply not worhty, so even if you lose, you win, and you shall find someone better than him. Cheer up and do not worry :nodding:
Well like i said i do trust him but definatley not her as i think she'll say stuff that didnt happen. She constantly tells him that he still loves her, and then tells me that he still loves her and thats its not right with me, but i think its just a jealous ex thing because ive been told my all his friends that hes the happiest he;s been in a long time.
i know he's kept things from me before but he siad he genuinely forgot. he told me he was going to stop talking to her because he knew she affected me so much but then he strated talking to her again thru MSN and she told me he was saying he loved her again, and im still not sure wether i belive that or not. i really realy want to trust him, but im scared of being hurt because ive been messed around big time before. (not by him) so i find it hard trusting people.
22nd December 2003
he's 20 and you're 16? isn't that a bit uh... um uh..... age of consent?