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#1 11 years ago

Right, first off this isn't meant to be a sympathy topic more of an explanation to why I haven't been online lately. Let me explain.

About a week ago, my friend was run down by a car and was knocked out. He was rushed to hospital for serious injuries to the back and head. After several hours in surgery, he was beginning to make a slow and steady recovery. However, on Saturday night for some unknown reason, his lungs collapsed. There was nothing they could do as he was already too weak from surgery. He was pronounced dead at the scene. I'm gutted. I really don't know what to do with myself. He's been my friend since primary school, and I just feel like dying now. I'm a complete mess; I spent yesterday drinking myself silly and curled up in bed. I don't know what the fuck I'm going to do.




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#2 11 years ago

Darth Anonymous;3555748Right, first off this isn't meant to be a sympathy topic more of an explanation to why I haven't been online lately. Let me explain.

About a week ago, my friend was run down by a car and was knocked out. He was rushed to hospital for serious injuries to the back and head. After several hours in surgery, he was beginning to make a slow and steady recovery. However, on Saturday night for some unknown reason, his lungs collapsed. There was nothing they could do as he was already too weak from surgery. He was pronounced dead at the scene. I'm gutted. I really don't know what to do with myself. He's been my friend since primary school, and I just feel like dying now. I'm a complete mess; I spent yesterday drinking myself silly and curled up in bed. I don't know what the fuck I'm going to do.

Well, Im sorry to hear about your loss mate, and I can promise you, things will always get better. Always. There isnt really much I can say, but best of luck to you, honor your friend, I know what its like to lose a good mate, but time heals things, and we will always have memories.




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#3 11 years ago

It just doesn't feel like things will get better. I've tried everything to try and take my mind off it. Drinking didn't help, drawing didn't help - I even went down the park to meet Charley, and that didn't help either. She was supportive, but I just feel alone right now. I feel like I've lost a chunk of my heart or soul or whatever - I just generally feel crap.




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#4 11 years ago

Well, that's a sad thing for sure, and I agree with everything what F|odgy said, even if of course it will take some time to get better. It wasn't your fault, so no reason to ruin your own life/health/etc.. Yeah you will miss him, but you still have some other friends, don't you ? And they will miss you too should you "disappear" from their lives. You don't want them to be sad like you are now, do you ? If you want to be alone for some time to think about stuff, alright, just try to avoid doing anything wrong. I guess that's "easy to say", but time will make its work and the pain shall decrease. Bon courage.




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#5 11 years ago

Oh man, that's just awfull! There isn't any real support I or anyone else can give you over the internet. Nevertheless, we can give as much advice as possible; don't start drinking too much, it won't help at all and you'll only feel worse afterwards. As for your friend, honor him, think about the nice times you had together. And most important: time WILL heal, but it takes more than a couple of days/weeks...


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#6 11 years ago

You'll get better. Life goes on. Oh, and-- in case you were thinking about it --suicide isn't really gon' help ease the pain. Well, actually it is, but you'll inflict that very pain onto your relatives.

Anyhow, just work your way around it. Deal with it; this is a part of life. If you keep the same things up (don't drown yourself in self-pity), eventually it'll hit you hard, and then you'll be through with it.

So, yeah, just do what you normally do and you'll cope with it sooner or later.




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#7 11 years ago

This might sound harsh but you HAVE to get over it, dont let your friends death get the best of you, try not to think about it and if you have to cry, cry, get it out of your system.




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#8 11 years ago

Whenever death presents itself you must ask what it is your friend would have wanted. If he was truly your friend no doubt he would want you to get on with your life. I'm sorry for your loss man. I've never lost a friend like that but I can imagine what it might feel like.




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#9 11 years ago

Drinking won't do you any good at all. Show your support as his friend to his family. My condolences.


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#10 11 years ago

I had a friend die a few years ago... alcohol poisoning. It is hard, I can tell you that. However, you will get over it, and good things can come of it too. I met a chick at his funeral, and we started talking and later became friends, and we've been good friends ever since. It will always be painful, but eventually when you think of him/her you'll think of all the good times yall had instead of the pain of the loss. You can do it man.