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#1 10 years ago

Ok, so theres this girl that i like... Same old same old. Anyway, to get straight to the point, she liked me in Year 7 and 8, i now like her and have done since Year 9, 10 and 11. Yesterday though, she was eating some sweets on the bus (on our way home from school) and told me to start eating the other end, and... you can guess what happened. Anyway, i was really confused, since at the start of last year she told me she didn't like me. She didn't mention anything about it today, so i talked to her on msn about it. She basically said she had had an urge to kiss me and she was confused about it as well. I asked her what we should do about it, so being tactful, she changed the subject for a minute, then told me that we should just leave it at that and whether i was ok with it. So being her best friend, i just said yes thats fine etc etc... Except i'm not. I am so f***ing angry it is unbelieveable. Rejection i can take. Kissing me (and not a quick kiss on the lips, let me tell you now), then rejecting me, i can not take. While i'm fine with the rejection, i am not fine with her not realising how much it has hurt my feelings. So i've been wondering what i should do about it. Do you think i should just be really angry with her and tell her as it is, or just tell her fairly calmly how much its hurt me. *SERIOUS* advice please?




Penguin_Unit

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#2 10 years ago

Bleh, I think it's not necessarily a good idea to even attempt to further it in any way. She sounds rather...flip-floppy. Somebody you don't want to get hooked up with, usually.




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#3 10 years ago

If she said leave it at that I think its best to leave it at that.




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#4 10 years ago
RickyL;4607828Ok, so theres this girl that i like... Same old same old. Anyway, to get straight to the point, she liked me in Year 7 and 8, i now like her and have done since Year 9, 10 and 11. Yesterday though, she was eating some sweets on the bus (on our way home from school) and told me to start eating the other end, and... you can guess what happened. Anyway, i was really confused, since at the start of last year she told me she didn't like me. She didn't mention anything about it today, so i talked to her on msn about it. She basically said she had had an urge to kiss me and she was confused about it as well. I asked her what we should do about it, so being tactful, she changed the subject for a minute, then told me that we should just leave it at that and whether i was ok with it. So being her best friend, i just said yes thats fine etc etc... Except i'm not. I am so f***ing angry it is unbelieveable. Rejection i can take. Kissing me (and not a quick kiss on the lips, let me tell you now), then rejecting me, i can not take. While i'm fine with the rejection, i am not fine with her not realising how much it has hurt my feelings. So i've been wondering what i should do about it. Do you think i should just be really angry with her and tell her as it is, or just tell her fairly calmly how much its hurt me. *SERIOUS* advice please?

Again, people shoulden't ask for advice or help of the internet. Burn her house down. Ok, when she says leave it at that, leave it at that. Fuck her, go for someone else.




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#5 10 years ago

This is a gaming forum. You might as well be asking for advice on /b/.

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But, since I'm a nice guy, I'll do what I can. If I were you, I wouldn't pursue the matter further. She's not bound to change her mind, and if she does, it'll be because she chooses to. There's plenty of other girls around. Best not get tied up too early anyway. You're 15, you've got plenty of time. ;)




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#6 10 years ago

Thanks for the advice guys, but i also wanna see what other people think as well :) And i've asked a couple of friends for advice, but i just wondered what you guys thought. Meh.




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#7 10 years ago

The fact that she kissed you means that she still liked you, but she was probably struggling to just be friends so nothing bad would happen between the two of you--because she likes you and rather have you as a friend than take a chance and potentially ruin the friendship. Then all of a sudden she couldn't take it anymore and wanted to take action (i.e. kiss you).

She's probably in turmoil inside.

And if I'm wrong about that, then I'm wrong. But, either way, don't do anything, because if she is confused in any way, which she is I promise you that---she's not making that up, then she wants time to reflect. This is the time when YOU don't do anything and leave her to settle things for herself. This is called the 'Patience' period. Girls think too much, so I know this 'event' is on her mind.

If she seems to distance herself from you now, then let her have some time, and if she stays distant, then ask her what is wrong.

Cuz I'd be pissed off with the girl, I'd be like WTF YOU BITCH YOU STUPID? Yo ass... is stupid.




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#8 10 years ago

RickyL, my advice to you is not to go asking on the internet, not unless its something really serious. Something like this is easy to solve, just relax and think by yourself in a quiet room. I'm not being harsh, but only giving advice on solving problems in the future.




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#9 10 years ago

It's actually not easy at all...




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#10 10 years ago

From my experiences it is easy, you just need to relax.