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Aeroflot

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#1 10 years ago

Okay, so this lady that lives next door comes over at least once a day to talk to my mom, usually bitching about how all the old people in this apartment complex.

Well, she comes over today a little while ago and talks to my mom on the balcony, and I'm over here in my room like normal. She knows I spend an abnormally large amount of time in my room, and I told her last night that usually I'm learning and doing creative stuff, like painting, playing piano, writing, songwriting, etc. Alright, well she calls me out and tells me to come join her and my mom on the balcony to talk. I don't want to talk. So I try to brush her off. She insists a lot, and I still try to brush her off. My mom is telling her to leave me alone, in polite terms, of course, cause my mom knows how I am: I just want to be left alone.

Later on I go take out the trash and I can hear this lady already talking about me to my mom, but usually my mom's friends always do that (it's conversation, nothing more... usually). So, I come back from taking out the trash and I am standing in the hallway that amplifies their speech, listening and hiding, so they don't know I am back (I'm used to listening around corners to listen to what people say about me, because I get a lot of people talking shit from behind my back). This is kinda how the conversation went:

Bitch: Tommy is extremely smart, but... hm... Mom: He is just how he is. Bitch: But, he shouldn't... Mom: He was really a lot happier up at his college. Bitch: He should respect you more. He shouldn't treat you like this. Mom: No, we just play around like that; we're more of friends than mother and son. Bitch: I think you need to slap the shit out of him.

I'm over here listening to all this, and I don't even remember all she said---she said more than this---because I was about to dismiss her, but after she said that my mom should slap me, that was it. She was talking again about me being smart (but...) and I busted in:

Me: Yeah, I'm a lot smarter than that, because I've overheard your entire conversation, and you need to mind your own business, lady. Bitch: Cool it. Calm down. (she said, turning her head away, waving me off with her hand like the bitch she is) Me: If I don't want to come out and talk, I'm not going to---it's my house and I don't have to.

Then I left the house and went for a bike ride.

She's always talking about how I don't respect my mom "she's your mom, you should respect her" and my mom and I keep telling her that it's not disrespect, it's just how we communicate. We yell at each other, but it's not an I'm-mad-at-you yell. My mom is sarcastic to me, and I'm right back. I learned sarcasm from my mom. If anyone is to blame for the way I act, it's my mom, not me. So when she tells my mom he can't treat you like this, I'm like "what? w-t-f." My mom knows I'm unhappy here, but that has nothing to do with how I act.

My mom tells me later that she told off the bitch for me and she told her that it is my house and I can act however I want. My mom was like "the reason the lady got mad was you didn't extend her 'company manners'" "Her, mad? I don't give a crap, she's the one that pissed me off. I don't give a damn about her." My mom laughed.

"Company manners?" How about the company has the manners and STFU and mind her own business.

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Anyhoo, that lead me to think a bit (and actually I already felt this way before, just never really thought about it).

Why do adults immediately want respect from younger people? How is anybody 40 years old different from somebody who is half that age? Because you're older I have to respect you? Because you've lived this long without killing yourself I need to give you respect? I give who I think deserves respect, I give good people respect, I give whoever has done a lot for this world respect. I'm not going to give respect just because someone thinks she deserves it. That's a stupid old fashioned way of thinking. You have to earn.

What do you think of respect?




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#2 10 years ago

I'm the exact opposite. I'll give everyone respect until they've shown they don't deserve it. I figure if I'm going to judge someone ahead of time, and I judge everyone ahead of time, I'll assume they are a decent person, and wait for evidence to counter this.




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#3 10 years ago

Hey, my name is Tommy too! But anyway, I feel the same way. I have little respect for adults, and I may as well be one (I am the least kid like of any people I know my age). Just because you are old doesn't mean you should be respected with no reason.




Aeroflot

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#4 10 years ago
Afterburner;4604750I'm the exact opposite. I'll give everyone respect until they've shown they don't deserve it. I figure if I'm going to judge someone ahead of time, and I judge everyone ahead of time, I'll assume they are a decent person, and wait for evidence to counter this.

I extend respect, don't get me wrong. I'm talking about extra, bow to me I'm your elder respect. I just don't go around flipping people off and cutting into their human rights.

Older people aren't anything special. They have a lot of the same flaws and problems they had when they were half their age. I shouldn't be bowing down to their holy sage-ness.




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#5 10 years ago

Aeroflot;4604768I extend respect, don't get me wrong. I'm talking about extra, bow to me I'm your elder respect. I just don't go around flipping people off and cutting into their human rights.

Older people aren't anything special. They have a lot of the same flaws and problems they had when they were half their age. I shouldn't be bowing down to their holy sage-ness.

Oh that kind of respect. I only give the above and beyond respect to people who have gone above and beyond in my eyes. I would extend it to people like my childhood hero, Chuck Yeager, and some teachers I have had who were truly great people.




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#6 10 years ago

I think respect should be earned. However, I treat everyone with common courtesy until I have decided more thoroughly how to treat them. This is irrespective of age, gender, ethnicity, etc. If you are polite to me, then I am polite to you right back. If you swear at me, it's no problem, I can swear too.




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#7 10 years ago

Meh. I try to respect people. Until they no longer can retain such, for varying reasons.




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#8 10 years ago

Aeroflot;4604738 Bitch: I think you need to slap the shit out of him. [/quote]In my country, we have laws against that sort of thing. ;) [quote=Aeroflot;4604738] I'm not going to give respect just because someone thinks she deserves it. That's a stupid old fashioned way of thinking. You have to earn.

What do you think of respect?

I'll be polite to people, but respect has to be earned.




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#9 10 years ago

Pretty much what every one has said. Respect is a two way street you give it you get back, you break it you kiss respectable ass good bye!


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#10 10 years ago

I was once in a situation like that. I had to force myself with all my energy to prevent myself from telling her to screw off and go drown in a pond or something. Why do people have to intrude on other people?