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Vantage

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#1 10 years ago

I'm hesitant to ask any kind of relationships on a gaming forum, but I think this question is somewhat simple enough that I can get something useful out of asking.

Plainly put, there is a girl I am interested in and wish to express my interest by sending her some flowers while she as work (she is a resident assistant at a different dorm in my college and works at the front desk there for multiple-hour shifts a few times a week).

Now, I've given flowers to two girls I had interest in prior, and found a failure of results. One responded well but seemed condescending, the other essentially rejected me, not speaking to me about it until the next day. However, while neither of them I knew very well at the time of the "wooing," this girl I've known since college started for us both (I'm in my fourth semester) and I talk to her on a fairly consistent basis by instant message or facebook comments.

At the end of the previous semester she also seemed to suggest at least some interest, asking if I would walk with her to an event we were both attending (for a club; not something just us two had previously arranged) having never asked so before, and seemed especially focused on the fact we would not be in any of the same classes this semester.

So I'm asking a two part question: First, are flowers a good gift in this situation to begin with? Assuming they are not an overly expensive arrangement, and are not too suggestive (so nothing like twenty red roses or another intense type of flower). I want this to catch her by pleasant surprise, especially if they are delivered to her. And second, if you don't think it is a good idea, I would like to hear an alternate suggestion. Should I simply ask her to go out with me some evening? Should I get her something that is less romantic, like a book or something similar?

I'm all ears for the opinions of men who've had a bit more romantic success than I have (or for girls who are in the position of my lady friend).




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#2 10 years ago

Don't give her flowers or gifts, ask her out on a date. Go ice skating or something, just the two of you. Make it clear to her that its a date. Don't go out and eat at a fancy restaurant, bitches ain't worth the $50 or so dollars that would cost.




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#3 10 years ago
Vantage;4780863 I'm all ears for the opinions of men who've had a bit more romantic success than I have

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#4 10 years ago
Vantage;4780863I'm all ears for the opinions of men who've had a bit more romantic success than I have (or for girls who are in the position of my lady friend).

It's a sweet gesture, but without a follow-up on your part it may be confusing. If you're going to send flowers make sure you initiate the follow-up contact; don't wait for her to come talk to you. If you're timid you could always use the card to ask her out, then approach her afterward and see her reaction.




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#5 10 years ago

ask her out to dinner or a movies take it slow until u guys get comfortable together then take her out to like a spa and get her some relaxing time then tell her she can come over anytime if she wants another massage lol




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#6 10 years ago
csirca;4780954take her out to like a spa and get her some relaxing time then tell her she can come over anytime if she wants another massage lol

wtf :Puzzled:

Has that actually worked for you?




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#7 10 years ago

yea dog its called flirting




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#8 10 years ago

Inyri Forge;4780958wtf :Puzzled:

Has that actually worked for you?

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@Vantage: I only wish I could give relevant advice like Inryi and Seinfeld :/




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#9 10 years ago

I'm not your dog, and taking a girl out to a spa is not flirting, it's a waste of money. :lol:

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#10 10 years ago
csirca;4780954ask her out to dinner or a movies take it slow until u guys get comfortable together then take her out to like a spa and get her some relaxing time then tell her she can come over anytime if she wants another massage lol

foolproof way to get kicked in the nads