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SuperSmeg

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#1 8 years ago

We all have THOSE family members that are too lazy to get a job. They always try to exploit you. How do you deal with them, without getting a target metaphorically "painted on your face"?

For example: I was just telling my cousin why I left my last job. He was being all nice and consoling; and then turns around and asks me to invest some money into him for a business. I told him that I couldn't because I am barely supporting myself. Basically, it is not a good idea for me to splash out on anything, especially a business that may end up failing (I didn't say to him that it would, I simply told him that I couldn't). And now he's flipping out and emailing death threats to me. What did the guy honestly expect me to say?! :mad:

If I could cr*p money, then I would. Unfortunately, I do not possess a bottomless pit for a wallet! :mad:




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#2 8 years ago

I don't have any family members like that.

Oh crap, that means it must be me.




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#3 8 years ago

Okay, fair enough that employment rates are at an all time low, but to not even make the effort, and expect other people to bail you out, even though they are struggling themselves, gives a new meaning to the word "douchebag".

I'm not a loan shark, nor am I sponger. If I want something, I work my ass off for it, same as with all of you and most of my family do, but it royally pisses me off when other members of my family basically see me as a 24 year old walking wallet!

Hell, I'd much rather live on the streets than ask for money!




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#4 8 years ago
SuperSmeg;5588484And now he's flipping out and emailing death threats to me.

That's called insanity - normal people don't behave that way under the worst circumstances...




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#5 8 years ago

Give him a complimentary colonoscopy.

No, really. The guy's an idiot unless you did something else to piss him off.

/edit: Complimentary, not complementary. Silly me.




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#6 8 years ago

Kill him before he kills you.

But no srsly, there's really not a whole lot you can do other than tell him off and make sure he understands that you really can't do anything to help him in this matter. If he doesn't like it, that's his problem.


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#7 8 years ago
Biiviz;5588559Give him a complementary colonoscopy.

Quote of the day, right there.




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#8 8 years ago

Those who mistake kindness for weakness, deserve unkindness.




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#9 8 years ago
SuperSmeg;5588484And now he's flipping out and emailing death threats to me. What did the guy honestly expect me to say?! :mad:

Fuck him. Add him to your spam filter, block his number from your phone. Just fuck him. What good's he ever going to be to you; what sort of friend's he ever going to be? Don't let blood delude you. You don't need that sort of noise in your life.

Treat him like you would anyone else who sent you a death threat after a business meeting: Contact the police. Seriously, I'm not joking. Print the emails out go down to them and tell them what happened, say you've been receiving death threats. Hand them the guy's address, email, phone number etc. Ask them for advice. Ask for an incident number and to be kept informed of the investigation - at least in the UK they have to call you back if you ask to be kept informed.... Get it on record so that if he does do something stupid he's high up on the list.

They won't do anything much to him I imagine, at least not if it's like the UK, but it'll put him on notice that people know. It's like making eye contact with someone when they're setting you up for an ambush.

That guy's never had to live with anyone who'll stand up to him in his life and it's high time he learned their are consequences for his actions.




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#10 8 years ago

Nemmerle;5588593Fuck him. Add him to your spam filter, block his number from your phone. Just fuck him. What good's he ever going to be to you; what sort of friend's he ever going to be? Don't let blood delude you. You don't need that sort of noise in your life.

Treat him like you would anyone else who sent you a death threat after a business meeting: Contact the police. Seriously, I'm not joking. Print the emails out go down to them and tell them what happened, say you've been receiving death threats. Hand them the guy's address, email, phone number etc. Ask them for advice. Ask for an incident number and to be kept informed of the investigation - at least in the UK they have to call you back if you ask to be kept informed.... Get it on record so that if he does do something stupid he's high up on the list.

They won't do anything much to him I imagine, at least not if it's like the UK, but it'll put him on notice that people know. It's like making eye contact with someone when they're setting you up for an ambush.

That guy's never had to live with anyone who'll stand up to him in his life and it's high time he learned their are consequences for his actions.

:agreed I wouldn't take the risk that he may be joking and go to the police right away.