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bry648

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#1 9 years ago

well im haveing a few problems cuaseing so much stress for me let me kinda overview of my problems. worries history project (my group not doing anything im the only one) scince grade ( i just try to keep with the class but i have so much to worry about and it alot hard to me) friends and popularity (well i have alot to do i feel like im loseing touch with my friends like we drifting apart and seem like my popularity feel like it going down) keeping shape ( i been lacking my work outs) my clan (it hard to keep it togther) im try to get rid of my I.E.P. (indvusal education progam) doing to extra work to lose it driving permit test party(throwing party only a week away) paratime job (for some reason i stop eating i cant eat anymore) and im starting get deprisson and sucdial thoughts some plz try to help me any suggetion would help




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#2 9 years ago
bry648;4793928some plz try to help me any suggetion would help

Relax. Best advice evar. :D

It's high school. Everybody goes through these things and at the end of those four years you make it through okay. Take a deep breath and realize that it's just a phase of your life when things are a little more hectic, but if you chill a little and go with the flow most things work themselves out.

The best thing you can do for yourself is focus on your academics. It sounds depressing, but a lot of the friends you make in high school you won't talk to again after you graduate until your 10-year reunion, so if they're going to make you fail your science class or something like that it's best to kind of let them go. On the other side of the coin they've got a lot going on too, so if you guys don't seem as tight-knit as you used to that probably has something to do with it. You may want to have a chat with them, and the interwebs makes that really easy, what with e-mail, MySpace, Facebook, IM's, etc.

Clan should be really low priority compared to the rest of that stuff. They're fickle enough as it is.

You need to sit down and ration out your time. It seems like you're taking on more than you can realistically expect to achieve. Sit down, write out all the things you need to do, then allot each item a certain amount of time. Things that are low priority may need to be cut down on or removed altogether. For instance I can't imagine having a part-time job in high school. Kudos to you for doing it, but unless you absolutely need it you may want to consider waiting on the job-front until you get to college.

Oh, with regards to your history project, most of us have been there. I was always the one doing all the work too. Explains why they were all stupid idiots throughout high school, though, so I always felt good about being the responsible, intelligent one. Look at the bright side of things and you'll be happier. ;)




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#3 9 years ago

Beat your meat.




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#4 9 years ago
Inyri Forge;4793940Relax. Best advice evar. :D It's high school. Everybody goes through these things and at the end of those four years you make it through okay. Take a deep breath and realize that it's just a phase of your life when things are a little more hectic, but if you chill a little and go with the flow most things work themselves out. The best thing you can do for yourself is focus on your academics. It sounds depressing, but a lot of the friends you make in high school you won't talk to again after you graduate until your 10-year reunion, so if they're going to make you fail your science class or something like that it's best to kind of let them go. On the other side of the coin they've got a lot going on too, so if you guys don't seem as tight-knit as you used to that probably has something to do with it. You may want to have a chat with them, and the interwebs makes that really easy, what with e-mail, MySpace, Facebook, IM's, etc. Clan should be really low priority compared to the rest of that stuff. They're fickle enough as it is. You need to sit down and ration out your time. It seems like you're taking on more than you can realistically expect to achieve. Sit down, write out all the things you need to do, then allot each item a certain amount of time. Things that are low priority may need to be cut down on or removed altogether. For instance I can't imagine having a part-time job in high school. Kudos to you for doing it, but unless you absolutely need it you may want to consider waiting on the job-front until you get to college. Oh, with regards to your history project, most of us have been there. I was always the one doing all the work too. Explains why they were all stupid idiots throughout high school, though, so I always felt good about being the responsible, intelligent one. Look at the bright side of things and you'll be happier. ;)

thanks ill do that drop my clan get off my part time job and ho on vaction with my close friends and just relax:)




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#5 9 years ago

I take 9 classes at school, outdoor track, band, jazz, and I do the whole network administrator thing. How do I do it all? I hate to condone this, but I love to drink coffee after track or after school sometimes. If I have a big project due or if I need an extra push when posting more files, I'll take a shower to relax, get on my computer, and cuddle up with a blanket with some coffee/tea. The heat is relaxing and the caffeine pushes me that extra mile to get things done.

Last week I had to a overview on The Red Badge of Courage, and I did not read the book at all. I was very tired from school and really did not feel like doing it. I did what I mentioned, and pumped it out in five hours, comprising of seven pages. It was a lot, but I found my happy place and did it.

To be honest, I used to be depressed and still do get depressed sometimes but it's just part of life, you cannot be happy all the time. And like Inyri said, School > Clans. Budgeting your time will also keep the stress off. Oh, and exercising helps with depression and relieves stress; I highly recommend it.

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#6 9 years ago
Mr.Funsocks;4794044Oh, and exercising helps with depression and relieves stress; I highly recommend it.

Go go Mighty Morphin' Endorphins!




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#7 9 years ago

yeah but i tend not get on this website that often cuase i alwasy arguee and ussualy get referals




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#8 9 years ago

well for one. i would probably not worry about being popular. popularity is a huge mind killer, especially when you start worring about because that means ur not confidente in urself enought (or something like that) i say just keep ur really close friends and u will be happy. also drop the clan since that shouldnt be a big part of ur life. as for everything else, just manage ur time a little better. like an hour for the history project. next hour for science, and next hour for exercise. and dont try and put friends on the top of ur list. instead just spend a bunch of time with them on the weekends. also the exercise and time with ur friends should clear ur depression. as for ur suicidal thoughts. just think about it, will it really be that pleasent to put a bullet into ur head? or jumping off to ur doom? personally those are some pretty scary things to do and that slaps me out of suicidal thoughts... not saying i have any.




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#9 9 years ago

Don’t sweat the small stuff…and it’s ALL small stuff. Life is too damn short to tweak over things you have no control over. My son has the same problem with his study/project groups, and I quote: “bunch of useless dumbasses”. My suggestion, request another group or let your instructor know what is going on. If your instructor is a useless uninvolved boob then do the best you can on your own and screw your group. If your required to do a class presentation, make a point (smoothly) that the project was mostly, if not all the work of you as your group mates refused to assist with the project.

Do you mean science? Hey man, I love science. I grasped some of the concepts but it wasn’t always my best subject when it came to test day - did better in college. Do your best – what’s important is that you feel you came out having a fairly good grasp of the concepts regardless of what letter is assigned to your final grade.

Popularity – whatever.:rolleyes: If your friends are truly friends they will understand and be supportive, otherwise they are not really friends are they? Popularity contests are great until you graduate and then the world doesn’t give a f’ck about you anyway. Don't believe me - wait until you meet some of your high school stars serving you at McDonalds or bagging your groceries at your local Wal-Mart. People will judge you based on your actions/words and the person you strive to be – and those people who admire that in you are the ones you want to surround yourself with. Don’t worry about the ones that require consistent/constant maintenance – that will just bring further stress you don’t already need.

Keeping in shape, yeah that one can be difficult – especially if you’re stressing. Stress leads directly to your inability to metabolize food properly causing weight gain, depression and vulnerability to your immune system. Eat healthy when you can – a good walk and positive outlook will affect your metabolism more to your liking. I’m busy as hell and don’t get a chance to do the full workout routines I’d like, but I do pushup just about every chance I get, I keep a few barbells next to my bed so I can do a few reps and then crash until morning – really, a brisk walk will do wonders.

Your clan, is gaming really that important just now? Just a suggestion, place it on the back burner until you get the more important things noted above in order first.

Not familiar with the IEP – but if the extra work gets it out of your way so you can focus on more important things, keep with it. Sure you’ll appreciate the fact that you are done with it when others are not.

Driving permit…guess this a priority? Good luck.

Party – not a bad gig to release some stress, just be sure the nature of the party doesn’t place the whole damn thing on your shoulders…unless this is a popularity thing and your trying to impress, well then if this be the case that’s your problem – learn to say no.

Job is good, as long as it doesn’t interfere with your schooling and ability to hang with friends, as your fear of loosing them is paramount. If you can do with out the job – do so, it will come later when your social life is more evened out.

Eating issues – stress does this. Eat health foods that energize the body (LOTS of berries, vegetables, etc.). Eliminate or learn to manage your life – seek a counselor if you must or speak with your parents (if that’s an option) but don’t be a douche and consider suicide.:cort:

Going back to my original statement it’s all small stuff. May not look like it just now, but eventually you’ll look back on this time and realize it was just a phase and not the norm. Trust me friend it’ll work out – been there done that.




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#10 9 years ago

If you fail a project or something it's not like the end of the world. Provided you don't go completely nuts with drugs and the like there's not a lot you can fuck up too badly when you're in high school. My more specific suggestions are as follows.

[INDENT]history project (my group not doing anything im the only one)[/INDENT]

Working with lazy fucks is one of the most important things to learn to avoid in life. Pretty much every job you'll ever get will include these folks by varying degree and if you can see them coming and get assigned away from them beforehand you'll save yourself a lot of grief. Unfortunately it's a bit late for that this time around. I can think of a few ideas. Firstly and most obviously: If you don't really need the grade then don't bother with it. No point in pushing yourself for something you don't really need. Asking to move to another group might also be an idea if you can scout one out that's actually doing some work. Alternately do enough to make you look good; tell them what you need done and assume that they're going to do it. If they don't do it then you can just blame them for the eventual screw up anyway.

[INDENT]scince grade ( i just try to keep with the class but i have so much to worry about and it alot hard to me)[/INDENT]

Study in thirty minute chunks and then take a break, that's the realistic maximum for the human attention span anyway. How are you revising? Make flashcards or something with questions on one side and answers on the other. Just reading the books is an incredibly crap way to learn anything.

Above all don't sweat it. Maybe you're just not provided with a very scientific mind; not everyone's good at numerical abstracts and so on. Plenty of people walking around with all that numbers stuff in their heads who can't hold down a job to save their lives and most of it gets forgotten shortly after high school anyway.

[INDENT]friends and popularity (well i have alot to do i feel like im loseing touch with my friends like we drifting apart and seem like my popularity feel like it going down)[/INDENT]

In a few years chances you won't know each other at all. Just be yourself and socialise when/if you feel like it. [INDENT]keeping shape ( i been lacking my work outs)[/INDENT]

*shrug* If you want to work out more, work out more. You only really need like ten to twenty minute a day to stay in reasonable shape anyway.

[INDENT]my clan (it hard to keep it togther)[/INDENT]

Delegation; the key to all good leadership. Find someone reasonably responsible who can take care of some of the work. Don’t be afraid to drop it if it’s too much trouble though.

[INDENT]driving permit test[/INDENT]

Driving is easy to learn and hard to master. 90% of the people who pass their test know how to move a car around but don’t have a clue how to drive. I gather the former part of that is somewhat easier in America since you have a proliferation of automatics, which leaves the second really: Observe the road, check your mirror every four to five seconds and before any manoeuvre, predict what’s going to happen and alter your speed/direction accordingly. Remember you don’t have to brake to slow down, just let off on the gas. Most of good driving is being aware of your environment. Even if you fail, no biggy, cars are a big expense themselves.

[INDENT]party(throwing party only a week away) [/INDENT]

Snacks, drinks, music, people. The rest fills itself in.

[INDENT]part time job[/INDENT]

Nice to have for the money, if you don’t need the money I might consider dropping this though.

[INDENT] (for some reason i stop eating i cant eat anymore) [/INDENT]

Snack attack! The solution for those of us that don’t eat big meals.

[INDENT]and im starting get deprisson and sucdial thoughts [/INDENT]

Statistically speaking pretty much everyone gets suicidal thoughts at some point or another. If you get really run down find someone who can actually do something about it to talk to, a school counsellor or something.

[INDENT]some plz try to help me any suggetion would help[/INDENT]

People tell you hard work is the key to success, and those people are usually wrong. The people who succeed are the people who work out how to do the same things other people do, but to do them more easily. When you’re given a task work out how to put the least effort in to get the maximum rewards. Don’t assume just because everyone does something a certain way that it’s the best way. As the cliché goes: Don't work hard, work smart. If it still seems hard when you're working smart it's worth looking at it again to see whether it was worth doing in the first place.




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