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#1 1 year ago

Two key ones for me;

  1. Bills / taxes and;
  2. Having to manage a monthly budget.

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#2 1 year ago

To this day I still don't like setting up things like Doctor's appointments.

There is always a small part of me in the back of my mind that just wishes that my mom would call them and set it up for me.


I'm a grown ass man.


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#3 1 year ago

I don't have the endless days to spend on guitar anymore.

(Also, a month since my last post? Have I really been gone THAT long?)


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#4 1 year ago
Posted by RadioactiveLobster

To this day I still don't like setting up things like Doctor's appointments.

There is always a small part of me in the back of my mind that just wishes that my mom would call them and set it up for me.


I'm a grown ass man.


TOO REAL


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Nemmerle Advanced Member

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#5 1 year ago

The responsibility can at times be a bit excessive. When you're a child you're just responsible for yourself. Being an adult you become responsible for other people; children, staff, clients, etc. 

Being responsible isn't all fun and games. You live with the knowledge that people are going to screw up in really stupid ways that harm them and the group. Ways that in all honesty tend to have more to do with their natural character strengths than just straight intelligence. That you're going to do the same, because you're the one that's responsible for providing that... stability... for dealing with those errors. And you're sure as heck not perfect either.

I don't think people who are in positions where they're responsible for just themselves are aware of how fragile things really are. Like, even if you're permanently employed, you've got maybe three months worth of real safety.

By way of example, I'm aware of an event a while back where a director just forgot about a regulatory requirement. Some staff had been told to complete some training to comply with it a while back, they hadn't been too diligent about doing so, the director had never followed up. As a result about twenty people lost their jobs.

And that's happening all the time, everywhere. Oh not that specific scenario, but the general theme. The director probably wasn't that diligent themselves, and maybe they struggled with having hard truthful conversations so perhaps their mind strayed away from following up on that, and maybe they trusted someone else to follow up on it, and perhaps they were overworked. You live with the knowledge of that sort of thing. That there's probably something going on in the background, because you know what a system with a low error rate looks like, and tired stressed people who have too much work and too many responsibilities sure as heck don't look like such a system.

When did you last do an entire system-state check? Of everything? Weekly? You have liabilities that operate on timescales of less than a week and you don't check system state on everything every week. How would you even know if something was on fire right now? You wouldn't.

So being responsible places you in this weird place where... you know you're more or less living in sin. You know that there are certain consequences for living in sin. e.g. 

V02wDDY.jpg

And if that image isn't in the hypothetical handbook they give you when you become an adult it damn well should be, because that's what the step up in the hierarchy means. That's the difference between being a direct contributor and a manager. Or a child and a parent. Or whatever the other step up on a hierarchy is. It's scope of responsibility that changes when you move between status levels. In every single instance that's what changes.

You're not god. But within restricted domains that's what being responsible is. You're expected to be this lesser god-like figure. 

"Nem, my client's dead, what do I do?" 

"Nem, my client's pissed off what do I do?" 

"Nem, we've lost twenty thousand pounds, can you get that back for us?" 

"Nem, we screwed up this bit of paperwork and now people are angry..."

"Nem, we forgot about this potential new client and now the lead's angry..."

There's this sort of infinite responsibility for your people. However you constitute 'your people', and you either accept that or remain a child.




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#6 1 year ago

Having to deal with immature adults is at the top of my list.  Civility requires patience and restraint, when in fact, a baseball bat to the head would solve the problem.  Other than that, meh - could always be worse.  Live each day at a time.




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#7 1 year ago

As far as I can tell, the only difference between childhood and adulthood is that I'm allowed to drink beer now.

Otherwise I fail to see a distinction. But then, I refused to grow up.




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#8 4 months ago

Taxes and keeping up with pretences, cause you can't avoid doing that completely. 




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#9 4 months ago
Posted by Nemmerle

The responsibility can at times be a bit excessive. When you're a child you're just responsible for yourself. Being an adult you become responsible for other people; children, staff, clients, etc. 

Being responsible isn't all fun and games. You live with the knowledge that people are going to screw up in really stupid ways that harm them and the group. Ways that in all honesty tend to have more to do with their natural character strengths than just straight intelligence. That you're going to do the same, because you're the one that's responsible for providing that... stability... for dealing with those errors. And you're sure as heck not perfect either.

I don't think people who are in positions where they're responsible for just themselves are aware of how fragile things really are. Like, even if you're permanently employed, you've got maybe three months worth of real safety.

By way of example, I'm aware of an event a while back where a director just forgot about a regulatory requirement. Some staff had been told to complete some training to comply with it a while back, they hadn't been too diligent about doing so, the director had never followed up. As a result about twenty people lost their jobs.

And that's happening all the time, everywhere. Oh not that specific scenario, but the general theme. The director probably wasn't that diligent themselves, and maybe they struggled with having hard truthful conversations so perhaps their mind strayed away from following up on that, and maybe they trusted someone else to follow up on it, and perhaps they were overworked. You live with the knowledge of that sort of thing. That there's probably something going on in the background, because you know what a system with a low error rate looks like, and tired stressed people who have too much work and too many responsibilities sure as heck don't look like such a system.

When did you last do an entire system-state check? Of everything? Weekly? You have liabilities that operate on timescales of less than a week and you don't check system state on everything every week. How would you even know if something was on fire right now? You wouldn't.

So being responsible places you in this weird place where... you know you're more or less living in sin. You know that there are certain consequences for living in sin. e.g. 

V02wDDY.jpg

And if that image isn't in the hypothetical handbook they give you when you become an adult it damn well should be, because that's what the step up in the hierarchy means. That's the difference between being a direct contributor and a manager. Or a child and a parent. Or whatever the other step up on a hierarchy is. It's scope of responsibility that changes when you move between status levels. In every single instance that's what changes.

You're not god. But within restricted domains that's what being responsible is. You're expected to be this lesser god-like figure. 

"Nem, my client's dead, what do I do?" 

"Nem, my client's pissed off what do I do?" 

"Nem, we've lost twenty thousand pounds, can you get that back for us?" 

"Nem, we screwed up this bit of paperwork and now people are angry..."

"Nem, we forgot about this potential new client and now the lead's angry..."

There's this sort of infinite responsibility for your people. However you constitute 'your people', and you either accept that or remain a child.


Nice post and picture. It is way too easy to become that sinful person.

Nothing like getting nervous phone calls on a Sunday because of angry e-mails from security...


My great luck is that there is the concept of delegation and people who are really meticulous.



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What I dislike most about adulthood is the loss of joy and wonder. It happens gradually, but becomes really obvious when you deal with small kids and watch the astonishing degree to which they can take pleasure from all sorts of things.




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