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#1 15 years ago

A few months ago I split up with my girlfriend of four years. This weekend I saw her for the first time since then, when she helped me sort out the flat we had together and moved all her stuff out. I thought i'd got over her after all this time, but seeing her again has bought it all back. All I had done was push it to the back of my mind, I realised I still had very strong feelings for her.

I said goodbye to her for the last time yesterday and ever since then i've been so down. I don't want to feel like this, I don't want to be in love with her anymore, I just want to forget it ever happened. I can't be with her, she doesn't want it, I don't know if I truly want it and I know her new boyfriend doesn't want it.

It feels like i've gone back months to when it first happened. If I could wish for anything right now it would be to forget the last four years, forget that she ever existed.

Sorry for the moaning, but I need to get this off my chest. It's a heavy weight to carry around.


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#2 15 years ago

Hey don't feel sorry i know how painfull it can be, mate.

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#3 15 years ago

I'm afraid I can't exactly relate to your problem, but I have friends who have gone through similar experiences. They just needed someone to talk to. They usually found that when they'd told someone about the whole relationship and how they felt it helped their depression to disappear.

My advice would be to have a lengthy talk with your best friend or someone who you think would understand the situation.

What you also need to do is look out for new opportunities. My bro found out his old girlfriend was using him, and the worst thing was that they were going through the same company training course together. After they split up he was very depressed for about a month until he met a girl who was also in his course and I must say that I've never seen him this happy in years.

So, just keep a watchful eye out for new opportunities that may arise!

P.S. Forgive me if I'm talking absolute crap, I'm writing this at 1:37 AM. :type:



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#4 15 years ago

I know how you feel there mate, I can't say I've been with someone for 4 years though and had that happen, More like short ones with it happening again and again.

Which is why my mind seems to automatically block a lot of feelings out now to keep me from ending up a total mess again.

That includes feelings such as love aswell, Stuff I can no longer feel but not that I ever did anyways.

Best thing you can do is to talk to someone about it, Or you may end up like me.

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#5 15 years ago

well when I lost someone I cared about I was wrecked for ages, But one morning You just have to get up and say good bye. Certanly you should rember them that is only proper. But you should celebrate the time you had toghether rather than morn the pasing of it . Can you honestly look back on the time you had with her and say you didnt have one happy moment, if you can ,I would say that is a greater tragedy than the loss of her company