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Randomguy0287

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#1 14 years ago

I have a problem and I could use some advice.

I'm in love with my best friend. I know for a fact she doesn't feel the same way back towards me, I've hinted on occasions and shes hinted back that she only likes me as a friend.

I can't help it though. Shes been through a lot, and everytime I see this beautiful perfect girl upset and crying, it breaks my heart.

I don't know what to do. I can understand that she doesn't feel that way, and I always want to remain friends with her, but I can't stop thinking about her. Shes one of my best friends, but won't be anything more.

Sorry for the random depression. I think this smily comes in handy: :madman:




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#2 14 years ago

In love with ones best friend... It can't get any worse than that. The way you describes it, it sounds like there's nothing to do to take your "relationship" any further. If she is unhappy the way you describes it, I think she needs you more as a friend than a boyfriend. Just be there for her and don't push her.




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#3 14 years ago

I know exactly what you feel. Happened to me once. Only that the person I was in love with didn't even care for me... hhhhhhhhhhhh... But trust me... It will go away with time... At least it should... Well when she gets a boyfriend you'll suddenly start to wonder how is it possible to hate someone you don't really know... Or haven't really ever saw... (If it will be a person you never saw or know) I don't know what to advise really. And I think no one can. I got cured thanks to shock-therapy. I saw the happy couple my beloved one formed with that... that fu*... Oops... That *lovely* person. But I guess that depends on who you are...




Randomguy0287

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#4 14 years ago

I've been close to her throughout her boyfriends (some of them have been real ass holes, every time they made her cry I just wanted to be able to be the person that could make her feel better).

We don't go to the same school, but we live near each other so I see her every weekend. Shes also not somebody I don't really know, its not like this is a sudden fling. I've known her for years.




Nusentinsaino

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#5 14 years ago

There are billions of fishes to fry in the sea, not only your bestfriend.




madmanfrommars

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#6 14 years ago

Dude its not that easy. If they've been best friends for a while, obviously something is clicking there, even if its only felt one way.

Randomguy: I completely understand how you feel and I'm going through something pretty close right now.

I've found that the best thing you can do is not be the person she wants, but be the person she needs. If she has gone through a string of bad boyfriends and in a low period in her life, you need to be the person she can turn to, the sholder to cry on, and you have to be there to let her know that no matter what, there is always someone there that loves her.

*sigh*




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#7 14 years ago

[color=red]man madman, I need to stop reading your posts...acctually, I need to stop reading threads in the pub...they always make me so depressed...

...:madman:...[/color] [edit][color=blue]oh, and as far as advice, try litsening - to some extent* - what the guys here have to say, some of us are actually pretty smart.

*I say "to some extent" because they can't completly form a possible solution to your problem, your probably thousands of miles away from them and that makes it kinda difficult to.[/color]




pismofilmdude

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#8 14 years ago
'Dreadnought[DK']In love with ones best friend... It can't get any worse than that. The way you describes it, it sounds like there's nothing to do to take your "relationship" any further. If she is unhappy the way you describes it, I think she needs you more as a friend than a boyfriend. Just be there for her and don't push her.

"Don't push her" Exactly! Either that or just leave the whole thing behind if you can't stand to be with her w/o thinking about what it could be like if you went to a different level...




Nusentinsaino

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#9 14 years ago

You are just lucky that you dont have a girlfriend to worry about, because my girlfriend and i are broken up and she keeps tellin me to leave her alone so that she can hang out with that other boy :( but still she says that she loves me and likes me and wants me... she still cares about me... she still finds me attrative.. but anyway... Just move on, if she wants you as a friend, that means you CANT get her as a girlfriend, im sorry but its the truth... its how people feel... Unless u can be very nice to her and sweet to her and offer her things and just be nice and maybe she will think about you or something, IM NOT GOOD AT ADVICE SO DONT TALK TO ME




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#10 14 years ago

it will get better in time, your'e gonna care in a different way for her. in the mean time just be nice to her and like said before, DON'T PUSH HER!!!!!!!!!! that could cost you the entire friendship.