Well, the only place that ppl are actually nice to me are on the forums, and I congradulate all of ya out there! But, everywhere else, I have no real, true friends. Bah, at school, only the teachers talk to me. At lunch, I sit alone. And everywhere else, I try to avoid the crowds, as it only makes me feel worse about the situation. I also try to stay away from movie theatres, as theres always someone making out in the parking lot(lol) and I rarely see movies... Well, I play my trombone frequently to cheer myself up and forget about life, it works...
[COLOR=black]Ahahaahhhaaa! LOSER! -- I'm just kidding. o_O; ... If anything I'm the same way. ..v.v
I mean, I have friends, sure.. But do they ever try to call me ONCE THIS WHOLE FUCKING SUMMER?! Noooo..! They have more important things to do, and more important people to see.
But, I don't have a problem making friends, and having them be my friend for, like, a year.. But it's having them STAY my friend is my problem. I usually tell them to go play hide-and-go-fuck-yourself, or soemthing... Just so they'll leave me alone. I'm not a very "friendly" person. I have lots of friends that never call me and only talk to me during classes, and such.. but past that, nada. I only have about two friends I've kept as really, reallly good friends but one of them is a year younger than me, and the other one doesn't go to my school. :\!
I see how it must feel.. you should just try to make some kind of social contact with the kids in your school and in your classes, and if you're anything like me.. you think all High Schoolers are extremly immature. And your thing about making out in the parking lot, that's SO true. Just stick it out, and hopefully you'll find someone that you have something in common with.
Well, I hope I helped you to feel better in anyway possible (geez, I seem to be saying that a lot). Good luck, and more power to ya'!
I'm spending a year dead for tax reasons.
15th December 2002
I, Will now be quite frank. This is really personal to me now, so please try not to think wrongly of me or anything.
I was in high school, for 3 years, and although my work was first rate, my attendence was a little scechy, then it was getting worse, then it failed, and i didnt go into school for 4 months.
The school arranged for me to go to a new school. As you can tell, i was panic-stricken about this, as i never got along in this school, so theres no telling whats going to happen at this new school.
Anyway, I wasnt sent to an ordanery school. I went to hospital school, a school that is for depressed children and children that can not cope with a main streem school.
Everyone at my new school is EXACTLY like me, similar to me, its extrodanery.
I will probably never return to my old school, i can manage better at my new school, they helped me out, and its much better.
The problem, is that everyone in main streem school are bullys. Everyone trys to be popular, at everyone elses expence. Its not a good thing, the media are driving these kids wild, and its not doing people who are senceable (AKA; us) any favours.
I cope with everyday life outside of school (where the idiots still remain) by just thinking, your better then them. You know better than to smoke, do drugs and get drunk. In 5 years time, when its time to get a proper job, you will have the qualifications, and they wont, because they spent all there free time, wasting it.
Just dont let them get to you. At the end of the day, if they dont want to be your freand for what you are, there not your freands. Trying to change yourself to fit in with others is not a good thing. Its like trying to fit a square into a circle. The best thing to do, is to find someone who is like you, and even if you only find one person who is like you, then thats better than having 20 freands that arnt.
In a few years, when school is all over, and the real world strikes idiots, then things will change. Untill then, just try to rise above it.
And remember my golden rule: You are who you are, dont change, or this world will have lost one more individual Hopefully my insight will help you, or not, but thats my view on the matter.
Danny King | Editor-in-Chief | GameFront.com
Cpt. SomeguyWell, the only place that ppl are actually nice to me are on the forums, and I congradulate all of ya out there! But, everywhere else, I have no real, true friends. Bah, at school, only the teachers talk to me. At lunch, I sit alone. And everywhere else, I try to avoid the crowds, as it only makes me feel worse about the situation. I also try to stay away from movie theatres, as theres always someone making out in the parking lot(lol) and I rarely see movies... Well, I play my trombone frequently to cheer myself up and forget about life, it works...
Ya just gotta get out there, man. If you can,take an interest in something other than computers and gadgets; ya I know, it's easier said than done. Are you athletic? Do you like the out doors? Even if it's doing something that you would normally do by yourself such as reading or writing or playing your trombone (ok maybe not that), you can take it outside where at least you can be seen socially.
I've been flying RC planes for a while now and that's fun to do, but you can't always do it due to the weather. Rollerblading/skating is fun too, as is surfing (it's not that hard) and fishing and other stuff. You'll be ok, just whatever you do, don't hide from the challenge of life.
I have this horrible problem sometimes when I'll get horridly tongue-tied and I can't speak to strangers, even ppl I work with sometimes. It's like I gotta psyche myself up to say the simplest things. It gets in the way, believe me. I've learned to overcome it though, and usually I just bull my way through whatever I'm trying to say. I'll even make fun of myself. If someone has a probelm with the way I am, then that's just it--their problem, and I don't let it get me down.
Oh yeah--your life will not start until you graduate and are away from school. To put it in perspective, how many ppl are even gonna care what went on in tenth grade gym class 3, 5, or even 10 years down the road? You will look back on your school years and think, "Man what was I thinking back then?" We're all clueless during that time. Incidentally, I don't keep in contact with anyone from my high school. And I don't miss it.
One more bit of advice--learn to laugh at yourself. I used to be incredibly self-conscious of my nose. It seemed like it grew disproportionately to the rest of me. I mean, damn! That thing was huge when I was in 9th grade! Ok, it's still pretty big, but I think I've grown into it ok. It sucks having a huge heatsink attached right in the middle of your face when it's cold outside, and look out when I have a cold. But as long as I let ppl know that whatever I can say about myself is ten time worse than what anyone else can say, I'm alright.
So now, ten years after I graduated, I've got a decent job, lots of friends, and a beautiful girlfriend who is just as much of a geek as I am. It will all turn out alright, dude.
Sorry for the long post, I got off on a tangent. Hope this helps.
Yep, same way i was. Only really had 3 friends that I talked to regularly. I was the social Outkast. It was and still all is about "Popularity" in highschool, middle school, and even elementary. But In the End, It doesnt even matter.
To everyone thats mentioned not being part of the "popular" group. Isn't it stupid that in most cases to be considered popular you have to damage your body/mind in as mant ways as possible? Most people like that grow up to be unsuccessfull in adulthood. My question is this: What's the bigger influence, the media or peer pressure? (I know i'm a bit off topic here, but some of what I've said relates.)
Both sadly. I say "Be yourself". Hell, im not the type to wear FUBU stuff and talk like Snoop Dog. Im more of the "Backwoods" type.
That's good advice. I'm the "put on whatever's handy" type. ANd I mumble, people don't listen to me much so why make the effort to speak clearly?
Lol what do you mean by the "backwoods type" ? sounds funny anyway.
I think people in america are extremely friendly and you can get into friendship real fast, but those friendships are not deep. you talk about normal, daily things. not about real problems. i rather have few friends who i can talk to about everything than a lot of friends.