I just found this article totally by accident while using 'StumbleUpon' in Mozilla.
I know we have more than enough threads about being gay/lesbian and views but I wanted to a nice clean post just to show you a view from a heterosexual guy who seems to have a very clear understanding of homophobia in our society.
That is a nice article. The parts of the priviliges he had as a heretosexual automatically were interesting.
17th June 2002
Not entirely wrong. But a couple of points...
I assume, as most people do, that everyone around me is heterosexual, unless they make it clear that they aren't.
I make this assumption because the vast majority of people still are heterosexual, not because I am afraid or or dislike homosexuals. Just like I generally assume that everyone is a human rather than alien, unless they prove otherwise.
That and the fact that the author seems to have gotten the words 'tolerance' and 'acceptance' confused. Tolerance is all that matters. Forcing people to accept anything is removing certain freedoms -- people don't have to agree with something they don't like, so long as they go by a 'live and let live' policy and understand that what people do in the bedroom is their own business; it makes them no less of a good person and no more worthy of disrespect.
"understand that what people do in the bedroom is their own business"...you were making a valid point with all you said except that one sentence; if you had a child and saw 2 men holding hands would you try and make the child look the other way, if your child asked you why, would you lie?
You also said "forcing people to accept anything is removing certain freedoms" but why should we need to force anyone? If as a child we were never ever told homosexuality was wrong we'd all grow up to accept it as a totally normal part of life and would have the attitude of shunning anyone who says it is not normal.
" make this assumption because the vast majority of people still are heterosexual" this is also not really true, just because someone acts like they are heterosexual and will even deny an out right "are you gay" question doesn't mean they are heterosexual, it simply means they don't feel safe about coming out which is something he covers. More people are gay or have gay tendencies than most people realise or want to believe.
I'm not arguing with you, you do clearly say you have no problem with what other people do together; I'm just saying there are still a few things that I still can see problems with, no matter how small. If anything I appreciated the friendly feedback.
17th June 2002
Well, in regards to the child instance, I'd tell them no more than I would about a heterosexual couple, lol.
I was never told homosexuality was wrong by my parents, teachers or anyone like that. It's other kids that tell you this. They find it funny in primary school, and use it as an insult in secondary school. For as long as kids learn from the playground, they'll make fun of homosexuals. They're expected to do so by other kids. I seem to remember that if anyone suggested there was nothing wrong with homosexuals in front of other kids, they themselves got branded as gay in an insulting way. This is where the problem is.
Homosexuals need a more positive influence in the media, more than anywhere else -- it's all the majority of people (especially kids) actually listen to.
It doesn't help when you have the president of the biggest nation in the world trying to ban same-sex unions by amending the constitution, I mean what kind of thing is that saying to kids?
what kind of thing is that saying to kids?
I don't think kids really care for what actions George Bush is taking, let alone thinking homosexuality is a norm.
I'm fine with em, as long as they dont try to hit on me. ;) Hell, I know a homosexual, he's a very good coreographer in my opinion.
I just say if it as if it makes them happy, It generaly scares me silly but As long as there happy I think the majority of people here accept itas a envebelity that some people are this way (Effiles) so fine. and the American constitution has the act of freedom to pursue happines (mind u I wouldn't know I'm Canadian)
"I don't think kids really care for what actions George Bush is taking, let alone thinking homosexuality is a norm." - that's strange because if you go into a play ground, the word gay is thrown around as a major insult. Right now the majority of children/teenagers are more interested in politics than most adults, in the UK at least. "Kids are growing up too fast these days" is something I've heard a lot and it's true.
Children are very receptive of what is going on...and by kinds I don't mean 2 and 3 year olds, I mean 7 onwards.