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SnuFFeh

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#1 14 years ago

Ok, feeling pretty.....strange at the moment. Not sure what to do. Recently, I finished with my girlfriend, we had been seeing each other for about 9months, but oddly enough, I wasnt upset by it, as we didnt have a great relationship. Were still great mates, and speak pretty often, as this is the way we both decided it should be. Anyway, I have a great friend, ive known him since we were both about 5, so quite a long time, he recently finished with his girlfriend too, anyway, me and her had been speaking as good friends for a long time even while we were both already seeing someone else. The problem is, its now escalated into something else, we speak on the phone everynight for about 3 hours. Bearing in mind she finished with my friend about 2 months ago, and I finished with my girlfriend about a month ago, we both now really like each other, its hard to explain. Unfortunately, my friend, is being very annoying, he moans at her for talking to other lads, its doing her head in. We havent told anyone else how we feel about each other, but we agreed we should wait a while, before we kick anything off between us. My friend, is acting all depressed at school, and not talking to me, most likely because of this, TBH I think he's being pretty damn immature, and needs to get over her, but at the same time, I dont want to lose a lifelong friend. But I really like this girl, and she feels the same about me, wtf do I do? Alex/TS




the1chaos VIP Member

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#2 14 years ago

well, he is acting immature, but perhaps you should wait a while (2 or 3 weeks should be enough, perhaps even too much) and try to explain your friend what you feel for his ex. it might be hard for him to understand, but if he cares about you and her he would see you would both be happier with eachother then appart. and if you dont take that girl, someone else will ;)




NiteStryker

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#3 14 years ago

Ah sticky situation....tell me if I am reading this right:

You broke up with ur girl and want to date another girl who your best friend just broke up with?

Man that is one of the hardest questions ever, and the subject of at least one episode of any sitcom....

I honestly would ask your friend before going out with his ex....because if u dont then he might get pissed off at you...if he says no, respect his wishes, wait some time and try agian. If he says yes, then dont hang out with him and her at the same time unless he has a girl as well....because he still might have feelings for her....and absolutly refrain from affectionate displays infront of him.

Thats a very tough situation you are in tho, so tread lightly. U make a wrong move and u could loose a friendship, make a different one and u might get them both pissed at you.

But whatever happens, dont spend more time with the girl than your friend. The worst thing that can happen to two close friends is a girl, espicially your best friend's ex.




Biggus Dickus VIP Member

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#4 14 years ago

You have to choose between your friend and the girl. Don't dream, you won't have both. In one hand, you don't know how long you will stay with that girl. Does she deserve that you loose a friend? In other hand, if your friend is likely to end your friendship because of a girl, maybe he's not your friend that much. My advice is to go with the girl anyway. If your friend is really your friend, he'll understand. Else...




NiteStryker

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#5 14 years ago
Biggus DickusIf your friend is really your friend, he'll understand.

Not entirly true....would you want your best friend dating your Ex girl? Espiciially if she broke up with you....u would see her all the time and then see them together....

Its a delicate situation.




AzH

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#6 14 years ago

if this old man can give you one piece of advice it would be to never choose a girl over your buddy. ever!

'nuff said...




SnuFFeh

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#7 14 years ago

Its just, I cant see why he cant get over her, she has made it clear that its better they werent together, but thanks for the advice guys.

As Biggus said, if he was my friend he would understand. But regardless, I intend to wait a few weeks/maybe another month before saying anything, I will most likely speak to my friend, be deadly honest with him, tell him that I dont want to lose him as a friend, but I do have something for his ex. (By this time, they will have finished about 3 months ago, thats a long time, right?).

But yeah, by this time, I expect my friend to have had the maturity to have let her go.




AzH

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#8 14 years ago

no, if you were his friend, you would understand. i did, once, what you are considering. experience tells me it isn't worth it. don't learn the hard way like i did.




SnuFFeh

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#9 14 years ago

I feel lately we are drifting away, (me and my friend) he seems impatient towards me, and tbh doesnt act like that much of a friend, but this is not because of this crap.

Thankyou for your help, but I will speak to him, and tell him honestly, that I dont want to use a friend, but I also feel for his ex.

Someone Kill me please.




AzH

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#10 14 years ago

/me kills you