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Chris

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#1 12 years ago

This is gonna sound kind of weird that I'm coming to you guys for help, but seeing as you guys are some great people, okay, here I go.

Basically, I'm in 8th Grade now, and since 5th Grade I've had this *teeny* crush on a girl in my class, Amie. Or, at least, I thought it was.

The thing is, all these years I've spent keeping it in, they've been hard. I've been out with other people, hell yeah, but it's never really deterred me from the fact that I like Amie more than them. I don't know why I never told her. Maybe it was fear, but I suppose, I've got over that with other girls, so it probably wasn't that. I'm now starting to believe this was mainly because I was so hung up on her, I felt that I couldn't, for the sake of my own health... if she had turned me down that would have been pretty devastating.

Anyways, 4 months ago her parents suddenly declared to her that they we're moving to France. I didn't get to know until around 3 months ago, but that isn't really that important.

I'm really find it hard, in these last few days of knowing her "in-the-flesh", to decide what to do. The options? Well...

  • I could say nothing. I suppose it'd be okay in the short run, but I'm thinking that I'll regret it if I do as I'll wonder if she loved me too.
  • I could tell her I love her (which in the past few weeks I've realised I do), and see where it goes from there. (Could turn out well, or not so well.)

What do you think I should do? I'm really stuck and I'm finding it hard to cope at school and home as this problem is never going away, I think about it day and night, 24/7. So, what should I do?

- Downy




SikTh

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#2 12 years ago

Tell her how you feel. Hopefully, she'll feel so guilty about going that she'll stay. I know that sounds dumb, but that's what happened to me. My girlfriend was supposed to be moving, I told her how much I'd miss her, and now she's staying. If you don't tell her, you'll just break down when she's gone.




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#3 12 years ago

I don't see a 13 year old girl staying while her parents move to a foreign country for any reason, to be honest, least of all for a high school crush. Long distance relationships don't work, so you're best off not complicating things and part on a high.




mentalmagic

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#4 12 years ago

Well if you tell her you love her the worst thing she could do is turn you down and If you don't tell her you'll never know and regret it. So go for it!




groddy VIP Member

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#5 12 years ago

im thinking this is more pub material :moved:




Griffin_NL

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#6 12 years ago

Well, assuming that the girl isn't much older than 13 (As J.C. Denton is), I don't think that she might stay.

Anyway, yeah, tell her. You will feel relieved and you will be glad you finally got that of your chest. Also, don't just think you are going to tell it; but really do tell it. I don't know how courageous you are in that area, but just do so.

Well anyway, good luck!




Jackthehammer

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#7 12 years ago

Dont tell, youll get over it. she wont be able to stay anyway. So, either way, youll end up hurt

#1 she loves you too, but has to go #2 she hates you




Chris

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#8 12 years ago

jackthehammerDont tell, youll get over it. she wont be able to stay anyway. So, either way, youll end up hurt

#1 she loves you too, but has to go #2 she hates you

But at the end of the day, I thought possibly getting it off my chest might help...

Clearly not from your point of view.




Griffin_NL

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#9 12 years ago

Well, you've got to consider the possibility that she indeed might not stay and that it will never work; but I do think getting it of your chest will help. Believe, it will.




mentalmagic

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#10 12 years ago

Are you mates with this girl? Becuase it can ruin the friendship if you ask her out and she turns you down.