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FireSphere

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#1 13 years ago

Today, while my mom was away at work, I noticed a bottle of Jim Beam whiskey haphazardly thrown into my mom's dresser next to her bed. It was half-full. So I dumped it out into the sink. But not before I got the idea to check my mom's other dresser drawers for more liquor. In my mom's underwear drawer, I found three more empty bottles of Jim Beam.

I took all four bottles and put them on the kitchen counter and wrote a note that says[indent]Mom,

So you like the Jim Beam, eh? -Karl (this is my name) PS: Stop drinking!

[/indent]My mom is an alcoholic. She's been that way most of her life. When she drinks, she gets really really bitchy. She goes through these cycles in which she starts drinking and starts getting a negative, depressed, bitchy attitude, and then something happens that makes us send her to the hospital. She gets out acting all "rehabilitated" and alcohol-free, but she soon picks up where she left off.

When I was about seven years of age, for example, I found my mom passed out unconscious on the floor of the bathroom. She had drank too much. A few years ago, she got into a fight with my dad (they fought throughout their marriage, they just got divorced this year) that resulted in the police showing up and detaining her. Now, my dad wasn't exactly the best husband either (he was controlling, cruel, and manipulative), but that's another story. My dad also used to be an alcoholic, but he always got "tired" when he was drunk, unlike my mom who always gets pissed off. This isn't the first time that I've found empty bottles of liquor stashed away. It's gotten to the point where I expect my mom to have liquor hidden in her dresser drawers. She never learns that that's the first place I check! This is basically the environment in which I grew up. Because of this, I am very hesitant to drink, because I know that both my mom's and my dad's side of the family have a history of alcoholism. Any of you also had an experience similar to this?




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#2 13 years ago

I can't say that I've been in your position. Usually I'm the one hiding things, not the other way around.

If you want to get her to stop drinking, you'll have to confront her about it and tell her how you feel. It sounds like you're already doing that, which is good. I wouldn't recommend throwing her booze away, because it will likely make her angry and resistant to discussion. Plus she'll just buy more anyway. Tell her how it makes you feel to see her being drunk all the time, etc. Guilt can be a very powerful tool.

Another important thing is trying to figure out why she drinks, or started drinking in the first place. Obviously people drink because it feels good, but alcoholism usually results from the individual trying to fill some need in their life. If you can find out what drove her to excessive drinking, then maybe you can help her sort out her issues so she doesn't need to rely on the crutch of alcohol.

Getting her in counseling/rehab might be another good idea, if you think she'll actually stay and go along with it.

Best of luck.




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#3 13 years ago

Both my parents are alcoholics. My dad constantly drives us around drunk. He is a big man though, and can take a lot of alcohol. They normally never drink beer, usually just wine.

When my dad is drunk, I like him better then when he is sober. He usually gets in a real cheerful mood, and sometimes when he is drunk he just hands me money out of the blue. Like the other day I told him I was going to the mall tommorow, so he just rips out fifty bucks from his wallet and tells me to get some CD's with it. So yeah, my dad getting drunk is no big deal for me.

However, my mom turns into a complete idiot when she gets drunk. She is real small, and she can't handle it. Usually she will pass out at night after watching TV for a while. They both drink Crown Royal, which is almost pure alcohol that they mix in with Coca Cola. It taste like piss, but whatever. Usually my mom gets annoying, and she just talks constantly about random stuff. Every once in a while she will hit me, but she is weak so it doesn't even hurt and I laugh it off. She gets retarded when she is drunk.

My whole family is full of alcoholics though. All my aunts and uncles drink lots of alcohol, and they have these big get togethers all the time where they play poker and cards and whatever. I actually like my family. They are cool. Especially when they get drunk, then they act funny. No one in my family turns abusive when they get drunk.

I myself will not drink alcohol when I grow up, except for wine on occasions.




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#4 13 years ago

My grandfather was an alcoholic. He was really cool though, but died of alcoholic intoxication when I was about 5. My mom drinks wine sometimes, but she never gets drunk. My dad also drinks, but not enough to get drunk. He got drunk a few times before, but it wasn't a big deal. I usually drink champaigne and wine on the new year's eve.




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#5 13 years ago

Getting her in counseling/rehab might be another good idea, if you think she'll actually stay and go along with it. She's been to lots of psychologists, psychiatrists, counselors, rehab facilities, you name it. She never tells the truth about herself. She tells them that she's fine and she's not drinking, and blames everything on her husband (or at least she used to). While she doesn't drink nearly as much as she did when she was married to my father, this last incident has been a wake-up call to me that it's still going on. I'm hoping that the catching her and throwing it away routine will finally get her to stop, as she's wasting her money on alcohol that she'll never be able to drink (because I keep pouring it out). Granted, it's hard to do this when I'm at college. I can't guilt her into quitting. I guilt her all the time to stop smoking, but she still smokes. She's addicted to alcohol just as she's addicted to tobacco.




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#6 13 years ago

Both my parents are by definition alcoholics. Mostly wine. My mother just turns silly... can only cause embarresment (after enought years you get immune though). My father on the other hand change personality after approx. 3 glasses. He becomes a very loathing, selfhating person. And he turns he low selfesteem towards those around him. Having him tell me most of my youth that I was worthless, surely didn't help my selfesteem grow:( Now I would rather that he had beaten me. Because even though I now recognize that he was just projecting his selfhate onto me, the damage is already done. I can reason that Im just as good as the next guy... but deep inside Im just cant run away from feeling worthless. So you young guys: some of you are still in the age where your selfconscience is shaped... be mindful of it... Dont just say "§§§§ it".. confront it before becomes a part of you not easily recognized! Regarding getting alcoholics to stop drinking: Its my experience that you can confront an addict with their abuse from here to hell... But that doesnt nescessarily make them realize it themselfes! They have to mentally (and some times literally) wake up in the gutter to see how pathetic they have become. You have to make them realize what they are risking. Once my father said something very nasty to me... I told him he was dead to me... didnt speak to him for 3 years... he doesnt insult me anymore. Guess we are a lot of alcoholics children out there... And we can only damage ourselfes by acting crazy brave about it. just my 0.02 $




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#7 13 years ago

Well neither of my paretns ever really drank, just socially, and ive never seen on of them drunk. One of the lucky ones i guess.

This is quite a serious problem. Her drinking can cause depression, and she may just flip one day, and hurt someone. Also, drinking alot can cause problems everywhere. The truth is, unless your mum stops soon, she may not have long to go, and thats the truth. You need to take drastic action or face your mother not being around any more, or in such state she may as well not be.

Talk to her - this is where it starts, tell her youre worried, and offer her help. If she loves you, she will accept. Its only really you, in her life now, that can help her. And it also depends on your support. Amke sure you offer love, and tell her this often. Bring home panphlets, whatever, and try to get her to a rehab center, or something. if she loves you, she will agree. Its not necessarily her fault at this stage, but rater the fact shes caught up in a cycle, one that needs to be stopped. Talk to her, and see what can be done.

Good Luck.




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#8 13 years ago

My grandfather is a alcoholic, it ruined his marriage which was a good one I think. He is still drinking to this day but will he listen? Nope.




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#9 13 years ago

CataphractToday, while my mom was away at work, I noticed a bottle of Jim Beam whiskey haphazardly thrown into my mom's dresser next to her bed. It was half-full. So I dumped it out into the sink. But not before I got the idea to check my mom's other dresser drawers for more liquor. In my mom's underwear drawer, I found three more empty bottles of Jim Beam.

I took all four bottles and put them on the kitchen counter and wrote a note that says[indent]Mom,

So you like the Jim Beam, eh? -Karl (this is my name) PS: Stop drinking!

[/indent]My mom is an alcoholic. She's been that way most of her life. When she drinks, she gets really really bitchy. She goes through these cycles in which she starts drinking and starts getting a negative, depressed, bitchy attitude, and then something happens that makes us send her to the hospital. She gets out acting all "rehabilitated" and alcohol-free, but she soon picks up where she left off.

When I was about seven years of age, for example, I found my mom passed out unconscious on the floor of the bathroom. She had drank too much. A few years ago, she got into a fight with my dad (they fought throughout their marriage, they just got divorced this year) that resulted in the police showing up and detaining her. Now, my dad wasn't exactly the best husband either (he was controlling, cruel, and manipulative), but that's another story. My dad also used to be an alcoholic, but he always got "tired" when he was drunk, unlike my mom who always gets pissed off. This isn't the first time that I've found empty bottles of liquor stashed away. It's gotten to the point where I expect my mom to have liquor hidden in her dresser drawers. She never learns that that's the first place I check! This is basically the environment in which I grew up. Because of this, I am very hesitant to drink, because I know that both my mom's and my dad's side of the family have a history of alcoholism. Any of you also had an experience similar to this?

That really sucks :uhm: I never have been in that postition, but i know you are not the only one. Alot of my friends are suffering the same stuff with their parents. But im sorry dude.




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#10 13 years ago

Thankfully, neither of my parents are alcoholics. They are happily married in a stable relationship. I do offer my sympathies to those who do have alcoholic parents, however. :(




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