Resynchronizing with RealitySorry, You're Not a Winner
18th April 2006
I'm bored. Time to create a discussion.
Just how much do you think people actually create their own identities? We like to believe we are unique and we value those people who are "genuine" or are "themselves", but how far is this really the case? Do people more often than not project themselves as they wish to be seen (or indeed, as they wish to see themselves), and, if so, is this always a contradiction of how they actually are at heart? People also acquire preferences about what they like and dislike, how they behave, what they talk about, from the society they keep. Interests and values evolve all the time depending on friends and social groups. How far is it possible to truly "be yourself"?
In my opinion, being yourself isn't one big tangible thing - but we can try to make sense of it by attaching it to tangible things, such as our interests etcetera. It is inevitable that you can never be your true self in all situations - it's just the way life is, but then again, whatever your "true self" is is debatable. Being genuine can only really be measured by your levels of happiness and contentment, or how you perceive others - it is often noticeable if somebody is not being genuine, or if the person themselves is not being true to themselves.
To me; there are two factors in determining one's uniqueness. One is sociological (identity), while the other is psychological (personality). They are somewhat interwoven, but lets assume that the sociological factor is the effect of the environment on the individual and the psychological factor is the part of personality that is determined by nature (assuming that nature accounts for the major part of our personality).
We have a "natural" personality and an "altered" identity that is the result of outward influence. We have no control over our natural identity, but we can alter and be altered by our environment. In sociology, this is called socialisation, or the life-long processes involved in learning the culture of a particular society, with learning meaning "adapting". While an individual doesn't always literary adapt to its society, refusing to "adapt" to one's society is also the result of the existent society, and therefore is also socialisation.
In my opinion "not being yourself" does not exist. From a natural point of view, we are always ourselves. Similarly, our environment affects us in such a way that we sometimes act differently than we are expected to act. This is, however, the result of the society around us and thus we are not voluntarily not being ourselves. Even if we think we voluntarily resist society, this is the result of a combination of genetic factors and environment factors that have led to this thought, and thus is not a voluntary decision. In contrast, when we react to the society in such a way that it works against our natural personality, the act could be taken as a variant to "not being ourselves".
What are your thoughts and/or opinions about this? Forgive me if you think I'm rambling or being overly digressive.
Personally, I think we are always ourselves. We are who we are, and regardless of what we do, what we say and such, you are still the same person, living your life how you wish to live it. Every decision that you make has en effect on your life, it is though, still you that is making the decision. Everything that you do or say is who you are, it is what makes you 'you'. Everyone is unique in their own way I think, granted some people are Assholes, but even they must have something that is unique about them (maybe they are more of an asshole than the other asshole, who knows). Regardless of which, no two people are the same, even twins are different on the personality level. I hope this answers your question, and I hope I have understood the question being asked. :)
Voice of joy and sunshine
26th May 2003
There is nothing behind the mask. We learn the roles we are to play, and we play them out in enviromentally determined chains. There is no active part of the human identity to be itself everything is a reciprocal reaction.
I didn't make it!
In my opinion a person's true self is what he does in private, and what he thinks in his head, then theres what that person acts like to impress friends
Keep honking im reloading
19th September 2006
I think a person can BE one person and ACT like another. Someone is usually themselves around their friends, family, and people they trust. However around people they're not sure of, they will act like who they think that particular person wants them to act in order to get attention from them.
Unless someone is VERY confident with their appearance and personality, they will almost always change how they act, whether slightly or severely. There will always be fake people though. Always.