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coolduderyan07

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#1 13 years ago

Hey guys, I have a big problem and dont know where to look. Im 14 and I have a girlfriend.She has 2 younger brothers 1 is a baby the other is 2 years old, she also has a sister who is 2 years younger than her. Her parents leave at 4 right after her and her sister get home from school. They go out drinking smoking etc.. This has been going on every night for at least 4 years She has been watching a baby since she was 9. She has tried talking to her parents but it is no use. They come home and babysit for 5 hours untill about 9 or 10 o clock, and thats when they come home. during this time they cant be with friends, ( at least me) or do homework study etc. They cant do anything Its really not fair. If they give any crap to their mom or dad about babysitting thye just get grounded. Half the time there isnt any food in the house for them to eat. Their parents dont even make supper lunch or anything. The only time they do make food, its just for themselves. I would appreciate it very much if you guys would give me an Idea of what to do...




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#2 13 years ago

a sticky situation, add some paragraphs and i might be able to work on a solution. social services could be one point of call if a lack of food is a problem.




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#3 13 years ago

call the authorities? sorry, but that's serious neglect.

I can understand though if you wouldn't want to do so, but I'm afraid there is nothing much you yourself can do to make the situation any better.


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#4 13 years ago

*off* to the pub.




Aphotic One

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#5 13 years ago

When you said "GF" thought you mwant Gaming Forums from the title.

Hell, talk to your girlfriend about making some calls to friends and neighboors that may be able to help. They may know what to do, or who exactly she needs to contact. If not, visit a Police Station or somesort. They're gotta be something that she can do. But she's got to understand, she'll probubly get moved to a Foster Home.




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#6 13 years ago

you have a gf at 14? wow, that is pretty good :) anyways, try asking your parents about it, they will know what to do




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#7 13 years ago

From your position, you don't want to be directly involved. Best thing to do, I think, would be to try to get your girlfriend to call Child and Family Services or something like that. I DON'T suggest doing it yourself-- the family would be in for a serious reform. You're 14, only a knowing adult or a member of the family in question should get that involved and call of Social Service. DON'T directly try to fix anything yourself. good luck.




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#8 13 years ago
coolduderyan07Hey guys, I have a big problem and dont know where to look. Im 14 and I have a girlfriend.She has 2 younger brothers 1 is a baby the other is 2 years old, she also has a sister who is 2 years younger than her. Her parents leave at 4 right after her and her sister get home from school. They go out drinking smoking etc.. This has been going on every night for at least 4 years She has been watching a baby since she was 9. She has tried talking to her parents but it is no use. They come home and babysit for 5 hours untill about 9 or 10 o clock, and thats when they come home. during this time they cant be with friends, ( at least me) or do homework study etc. They cant do anything Its really not fair. If they give any crap to their mom or dad about babysitting thye just get grounded. Half the time there isnt any food in the house for them to eat. Their parents dont even make supper lunch or anything. The only time they do make food, its just for themselves. I would appreciate it very much if you guys would give me an Idea of what to do...

It's not neglect, i've had friends who cooked their own food (I mean real food, not microwaved shit) when they were like 8. It's a good skill to learn. But not having food makes it hard to learn. And what's so bad about some family time, either? Don't take any of this as a personal insult, just why do you have to view it negativly?




EON_MagicMan

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#9 13 years ago
Delta ForceIt's not neglect, i've had friends who cooked their own food (I mean real food, not microwaved shit) when they were like 8. It's a good skill to learn. But not having food makes it hard to learn. And what's so bad about some family time, either? Don't take any of this as a personal insult, just why do you have to view it negativly?

If it happens for 5 hours everyday like he says-- it's neglect, no matter how rough yours or your friends childhoods were (my mom had a nervous breakdown when me and my 2 brothers were 10 and 12).




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#10 13 years ago
EON_MagicManIf it happens for 5 hours everyday like he says-- it's neglect, no matter how rough yours or your friends childhoods were (my mom had a nervous breakdown when me and my 2 brothers were 10 and 12).

After rereading that post i've decided her parents seem more like a bunch of people who'd rather be at the club scene than at home, with their children. Does she live in some ghetto somewhere (I've lived in a place very close to a ghetto, those are some bad places), if not than she needs to get her parents some legally induced help. If she does live in a ghetto (or violent home) it's better that she just keep it the way it is, rather than risk destabilizing conditions further (like the US in taking out Saddam). You need to think about it very carefully.