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Admiral Donutz Advanced Member

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#11 15 years ago

Seeing we can't see how "bad" the situation is she would be best of starting at the bottom of the ladder: consulting family and friends, optionally she could talk with teachers (her mentor/mentrix/tutor) at school. If they fail to be able to do anything or find it more serious they can contact authorities (any state organ that looks after the social well being and protection of children in your country).

But as I said she would be best of talking with family about it (uncles and aunts, grandmoms and grandpa's). They might be able to correct her parents behaviour. If that wouldn't help (or it wouldn't be possible) she could talk with a teacher so she atleast can tell her story to somebody who most likely has dealth with simular incidents before.




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#12 15 years ago
GreatGrizzlyyou have a gf at 14? wow, that is pretty good :) anyways, try asking your parents about it, they will know what to do

Haha, I had a gf when I was 12. Either way, who knows what could happen if she tells them anything, who knows what they're capable of.




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#13 15 years ago

Thanks lot guys.. Im am just really worried for her.. every day i talk to her she breaks down crying,.. telling me how she hates her parents.. Her house is not in the best of shape either. she lives about 2 miles away from me, its not like the ghetto at all. About the babysitting, I mean its not like some 6 year old kid baby sitting,... its a baby.. something that needs to be under close watch every second. I dont want her taken away I just want her parents B1tch slapped a couple times... Set em straight.. Each night the parents come home and treat them like garbage.. saying "Why are you guys moody" "Start treating us like you parents" "Ohh we never get to spend time with each other, its not like you guys put any effort into babysitting anyway" It makes me soo mad... I cant take it.. Ive tried talking to my parents but they think I am exagerating and think nothing of it...:mad:




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#14 15 years ago

A pretty good rule of thumb is don't snitch. Living in a almost-ghetto, and suburbs with gangs, i've learned that whatever you can get from snitching is offset by getting shot, knifed up, or beaten with a metal bat. However, you could put some coke in her parents room, call the cops and say you think someones run a drug op out of there, than sit back and watch the fireworks. Or she could beat herslef up (I did it once to get my bro in troble) and say her parents did it, the medics always buy it, even if everyone denys it. That's guranteed to work.




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#15 15 years ago
Delta ForceA pretty good rule of thumb is don't snitch. Living in a almost-ghetto, and suburbs with gangs, i've learned that whatever you can get from snitching is offset by getting shot, knifed up, or beaten with a metal bat. However, you could put some coke in her parents room, call the cops and say you think someones run a drug op out of there, than sit back and watch the fireworks. Or she could beat herslef up (I did it once to get my bro in troble) and say her parents did it, the medics always buy it, even if everyone denys it. That's guranteed to work.

Ever heard of such a thing as consulting family, friends, teachers, authorities (police etc.)? :uhm: Try to find a way out with words first befor you reach to such desperate actions (it's better to avoid them all together in my opinion, talking should *always* be of aid).




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#16 15 years ago

If someone has to worry about the welfare of three other children like that, then something needs to be done immiedietly. I'd talk with your parents about the situation, I think they would be able to better handle the situation. I can't really see you being able to accomplish anything on your own by confronting her parents or something like that, with the attitude they have displayed it probably wouldn't even faze them.




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#17 15 years ago

Alright please get the guns and knives and flashbangs out of your head this is not the ghetto!! my god! you would not get shot doing anything in my area unless you shot up someone elses property, killed someone..., inhumane things.. Her grandparents family etc is kind of split up and they dont really talk to each other let alone care about whats goin on.. so that is out of the question.. A teacher at school.. Idk about that.. My dad is a cop but like I said he doesnt think its as bad as it is.. I mean her dad doesnt beat them... soo... She has an older sister too moved out about 200 yards away in another house.. she has tried dealing with her parents since she was little too.. she also had to babysit.. (watching my gf and her younger sister as babies) And it isnt all that new to her.. she has tried talking to the parents but they pulled the "get off my property, out of my house" deal...




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#18 15 years ago

Yes,if it happens that often with such young children it is neglect.If it is breaking her down,then there is a problem.Other reliable family members should be notified,if it gets worse,her counsler or the proper legal authorities.




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#19 15 years ago

If the authorities are contacted I risk her being put ina foster home.. Not ever seeing me again.. I am not taking that chance... no way...




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#20 15 years ago

Uhm there are far more solutions then having her put in a foster home, that would be one of the last solutions of everything else failed. More over even if authorirtis would fail to find any solution A) You would still be able to stay in touh with her via phone and the internet, she might not even move far B) It would be for the best, if authorities see no other option then to "evaquate" her and her brothers and sisters something is REALLY wrong.