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E10101

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#1 12 years ago

Well, for most this will be a waste of time to read, but some may identify with my little identity problem. I've been gaming since I was 10; that was 12 years ago. It began with DOOM -nonstop, over the modem and single-player, day and night,as well as designing tons of levels, and then DOOM2. This craze lasted for years, until the miracle game Duke3d came along. Lol I still think it's one of the best 3d shooters ever. I would play this game till sunup with friends over my 14.4k modem for years. I was obsessed with gaming and deathmatching and anything computer related. I was designing web pages and programming in BASIC by the time I was 11. And now, at 22, I'm still an avid gamer, online as well as on my Xbox, and still hooked on my PC, while currenly living with my g/f for the last 3 years. I'm at a stage where I know I spend too much time invested in gaming and computers, and I should be focusing on more long-term goals like family, money, a good job, etc. However; I can't shake the 'gamer' side of my personality. It's the side that keeps me lying around messing with the comp instead of getting a decent job to save for a decent future. Hell, I fantasize about owning and LANing like three computers together to chill with friends and game. So, yeah, these two lives are clashing. Gaming and computers have always been a part of me, always the number one hobby, and it's tough trading comfort for ambition. Anyone have the same kind of problem? Speak up if you do; I'd love to hear what u think.




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#2 12 years ago

This seems like something you're just going to have to either man up about and deal with or take the easy route and continue to let gaming rule your life. There is no simple way to secure a good future; it takes hard work and determination. I'm not saying that leisure has no place in a successful lifestyle, but it has to be balanced with work ethic as well.

I have some experience with this: gaming is also a very large part of my life that has to be balanced with schoolwork, wrestling, and band. There is a happy medium somewhere in there, though, and I manage to get good grades and be near the top of my class as well as enjoy a few lazy afternoons with the PC. That's my two cents, and I hope it helps.




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#3 12 years ago

I may only be 16, but I understand what your going through. I would spend all day (sometimes even all night) playing Battlefield 1942 and Call of Duty- to the point where my grades began to fall drastically, I began skipping band practice, and I got fired from my job at Subway. I had no money and still had to pay the monthly car insurance. Hell, even my social life decayed as I began to choose more often to stay home and vegetate in front of the PC rather than hang out with my friends and party, like a normal teenager. I loved gaming, my true passion in life, but it slowly dawned on me that I was throwing my golden years away.

Sounds to me like you need to set your priorities straight. Sure, gaming is fun but do you want it to control your life forever and possibly ruin your future? I hate to say it, but how long do you think your girlfriend is going to stick around if you don't get a decent job and take up some responsibilities?

Go and get a job. There's no reason why you still can't play video games, but you just have to make a personal sacrifice and cut back your gaming hours. It's going to be tough at first, but once you realize the fact that you have responibilities now, the urge to play video games will lessen. Plus, after you save enough money for the essentials in life you can buy those three computers and kook up that lan system.

I hope that didn't sound too harsh, it wasn't meant to be. And don't worry, I'm sure there are thousands of other people out there who have the same dilemna.




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#4 12 years ago

least you enjoy your average day. i work for 14 hours a day. now THAT is a meaningless exististance.




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#5 12 years ago
E10101Well, for most this will be a waste of time to read, but some may identify with my little identity problem. I've been gaming since I was 10; that was 12 years ago. It began with DOOM -nonstop, over the modem and single-player, day and night,as well as designing tons of levels, and then DOOM2. This craze lasted for years, until the miracle game Duke3d came along. Lol I still think it's one of the best 3d shooters ever. I would play this game till sunup with friends over my 14.4k modem for years. I was obsessed with gaming and deathmatching and anything computer related. I was designing web pages and programming in BASIC by the time I was 11. And now, at 22, I'm still an avid gamer, online as well as on my Xbox, and still hooked on my PC, while currenly living with my g/f for the last 3 years. I'm at a stage where I know I spend too much time invested in gaming and computers, and I should be focusing on more long-term goals like family, money, a good job, etc. However; I can't shake the 'gamer' side of my personality. It's the side that keeps me lying around messing with the comp instead of getting a decent job to save for a decent future. Hell, I fantasize about owning and LANing like three computers together to chill with friends and game. So, yeah, these two lives are clashing. Gaming and computers have always been a part of me, always the number one hobby, and it's tough trading comfort for ambition. Anyone have the same kind of problem? Speak up if you do; I'd love to hear what u think.

Why don't you try to combine both and get a job in the gaming-industry?

Otherwise I'd suggest that you just force yourself to game less. Take your gf to a holiday far far away from computers, televisions and similar stuff. After one or two weeks you will probably not even miss gaming anymore.




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#6 12 years ago

I think you'll find that any time-consuming hobby will preoccupy most people. Everybody would rather do the thing they enjoy the most instead of work. All it takes is willpower to have a little self-control.




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#7 12 years ago

As much as I like gaming, I dont do it very often. there was a time where I fucked up an entire semester playing SoF2 and CSS.. at the end I looked back and saw that I acclomished NOTHING, expect for a number 1 rank on a CSS server, which, quite frankly is nothing either. Pull yourself together, you are 22 for god sake, get a life, job, and use the computer in your spare time. You will enjoy your computer time a lot more that way. + you get a future. I honostly cant believe your g/f has been putting up with your lifestyle for over 3 years.. :vikki: Gaming is a hobby, youll have to have a future to get somewhere in life.




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#8 12 years ago

Ok dude, so you have a problem, well why not turn it into a solution, you say you have been designing websites since you were 11, well why not design professional website and sell your design, this could be a way you could make money out of your hobby, in the end look for a job which does involve your hobby but is also out of cyber space.

good luck




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#9 12 years ago

What EE suggests is good, along the lines of what I was thinking, too. You are 22 years old, so I'm guessing about to be finished in college? What is your major/degree program? Because, if you are an avid gamer with programming skills and knowledge of game mechanics, I'd say you could shoot for http://www.zingtech.com/features/gamedev/eainternship.htm#getting Either research possible internships online, or post a resume in places like http://www.monstertrak.monster.com/jobseeker/?WT_srch=1 And see what you can do. It will depend on your education, ie what you majored in, grades, etc, but this looks like the best bet for a fusion to create a job that you would be interested in while allowing you to back off from an addiction that could cripple your chances of leading the lifestyle you want.

There are a lot of articles out there giving tips on how to get internships in the gaming industry. It might be wise to follow their advice.

Quick search turned up these:

http://www.craigslist.org/ Stuff like -http://orangecounty.craigslist.org/med/172318951.html -http://orangecounty.craigslist.org/med/172358453.html -http://orangecounty.craigslist.org/med/171988194.html

(Again, not sure where you live)




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#10 12 years ago

I was addicted to gaming when I was 12. I'm 17 now, almost 18. It really is an addiction. But like any addiction, you have to be mentally tough about it. I haven't touched a computer game in about a year. The only games I ever play are on the Super Nintendo and N64.

Withdrawal sucks.




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