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Young_Pioneer

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#21 13 years ago
OverwatchDivorce should not be legal. I think if you've made the decision to marry someone, you have to live with the decision, just like abortion.

Yeah, the best way to prevent marriage in the first place :lookaround:. No sane man/woman would risk something like this. Eternal love is as real as Utopia.




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#22 13 years ago

Heh, its just another thing in life that people do. There are those out there that are afraid of commitment, and are worried what the other might think if they put for the divorce after already saying "I do" I dont really know what to say and im probably not making sense. Anyways best of luck, and I hope things work out for you.




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#23 13 years ago
OverwatchLast time a checked, marriage was expressing your love to someone through commitment.

Nooo it's not. It's a way to get tax breaks.

There is no rush to get married

There is if you want tax breaks!

and according to what basically the entire world agrees on, 'true love' is eternal and all of that corny stuff

:lol:

No it's not. And I doubt you'd get the whole world to agree with you on that either!

Try for one second ignore the fact there is an option of divorce and think it through

Nobody sits there when pondering the decision of marriage and says, "Oh well, I can just get a divorce if I don't like it after three weeks!". Most people think that their marriage will work. Otherwise they wouldn't do it -- marriage is one of the most expensive things you can do these days, you know, it's not something you do on a whim. And that's even if you don't get a divorce at the end of it!

Like dysfunctional is saying, it's becoming difficult for him, marriage is something to fall back on...

And as his wife is obviously saying, she would have been miserable if some ignorant know-it-all came along and forced her to stay married to him for the rest of her life. Do you even understand what a 'free society' is all about anyway? And I'm pretty sure that Dysfunctional wouldn't want her to be with him if he knew that the only reason she was staying was because the aforementioned know-it-all was making her do it.

wait, I'm 16 that made no sense......well I've got news for you people, Doogie Howser was a doctor by my age, and I bet he had an opinion. And Dysfunctional I'm sorry if I've offended, this is just my opinion.

Isn't Doogie Howser a (bad) fictional character?

Beef doesn't respect your opinion on this matter because you obviously have no experience on this matter, as evidenced by the fact that you think 'love' is 'eternal', and that you seem to think that love is the only thing that is important in a relationship. The fact that he seems to have continual contempt for anybody younger than him isn't really the issue here. That you then take this ill-informed opinion and use it to arbitrarily decide that people should be forced to stay together no matter how miserable it makes them, without even thinking about the consequences, is even worse.

And to be honest, no offence intended, but if Dysfunctional is 21 years old as his profile indicates, I really do think that that is still too young to be marrying people. Too many major life changes going on at our age to be sure if you can commit to somebody for the rest of your life.




Overwatch

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#24 13 years ago
Mr. Mattyou seem to think that love is the only thing that is important in a relationship

Err, can you please explain what else is meant to be in a relationship.

And no beef with beef flaps, but i found it very ignorant to dismiss my opinion on the grounds of my age. I've expressed my views in the most mature way I could. Which is more than I can say about the replys.....but enough, I'm sure Dysfunctional doesn't wanna hear us quarrel




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#25 13 years ago
Young_PioneerYeah, the best way to prevent marriage in the first place :lookaround:. No sane man/woman would risk something like this. Eternal love is as real as Utopia.

I thought I would never say so, but due to finding out the hard way, I have to agree with you :(

good luck with everything dis, if there s anything youd like to talk about you can add me on msn ;)




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#26 13 years ago

OverwatchErr, can you please explain what else is meant to be in a relationship.

And no beef with beef flaps, but i found it very ignorant to dismiss my opinion on the grounds of my age. I've expressed my views in the most mature way I could. Which is more than I can say about the replys.....but enough, I'm sure Dysfunctional doesn't wanna hear us quarrel

You can love somebody and not get along with them at all. You can love somebody and have absolutely nothing in common (certainly not a good thing when you're talking about spending the rest of your life with them). You can love somebody but find that the bedroom activities are severely wanting. You can love somebody but find that over the long term your personalities simply aren't compatible. You can love somebody even if you think they are mistreating you in some way, be it not paying you any attention, not doing their share, not respecting you, demanding too much of you, etc. You can love somebody but be driven away from them by things like alcoholism, bad tempers and the like. You can simply... fall out of love, possibly as a result of these (and other) things, or possibly just because you've (or they have) changed since you met them. To name but a few factors (if you want more, take a psychology class, I'm not bloody covering every aspect of the human psyche in this post). If you have just a couple of these things in your relationship, its continued existence can be brought into question. A life time is a long time. And marrying young, as Dysfunctional (apparently) has, can cause problems as people can still change quite dramatically when they're 21.




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#27 13 years ago
Young_PioneerYeah, the best way to prevent marriage in the first place . No sane man/woman would risk something like this. Eternal love is as real as Utopia.

People just take marriage less serious these days. How many people got divorced 50 years ago? Even 20 years? I think people do stay in love for their whole lives. Take my Grandparents for example, they married when they were 15, and are still together and happily in love at 70. Sure, they argue, and do silly old peole things, but I know if one was to pass away, the other would not be far behind. Life without one another is not life, to them.




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#28 13 years ago

People got divorced less 50 years ago cause it was either not possible to do so or socially unacceptable. That being said, I do think people take relationships less seriously these days.

We've taken "more fish in the sea" to heart too much, and it seems like people don't really think about what they're getting into a relationship for. I can't say much more, I don't think that a lifetime of relationships will give me any more wisdom than the ones I have had now already do.




Force Recon

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#29 13 years ago

shit man,I was thinking a couple of days back about a situation like these.The man in that imaginary incident was myself.I was thinking what I would like be I was divorced.I would feel the same as you most probably. Its hard but you are still young and can find someone better. May God and good luck be with you.




styphon

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#30 13 years ago

OverwatchDivorce should not be legal. I think if you've made the decision to marry someone, you have to live with the decision, just like abortion. You have made the commitment to that person, and just cause you 'change your mind' doesn't mean you can leave them. Look at Hollywood marriages, its not a case of if its a case of 'when' and that just goes to show how pathetic we all are with commiting. When it comes down to violence and abuse, that'd completely different, and adultery.[/quote] Why should two people be misserable with each other just because they made a mistake. Divorce can be a good thing. Although people always talk about the destructive effects it has, look at how destrcutive a disfunctional mariage is to everyone involved? Think about the concequenses of your ideas before sticking to you guns.

[quote=dysfunctional]Oh, I definitely know there's a problem here. It's just at the moment I've got too many things I need to take care of before I can start to take care of myself. At the earliest I'd have to wait until my next pay period to seek a counselor. For now I'll just have to rely on the helpfulness of my friends.

Forget everything else. You can't take care of anything else until you've taken care of yourself first. I've through some pretty heavy shit in my time and counceling helped me a lot. It can be tough work at first, but even just talking about things, how you feel and the such can help. The only advice I can offer though, is if conceling isn't working, try a different counceler. I went to 2 different councelers, the first didn't help but the second worked miracles.

Either way, good luck with the future and I hope that you manage to sort things out.