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Steakboy

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#1 13 years ago

I have somewhat of an emotional problem, I was hoping someone might have some suggestions as to how to fix. Though I know it isn't an easily solved problem, no matter now simplistic the obvious alternative to my current state may be.

I'm too drained at the moment to try and re-explain it, so I'll copy my entry I made earlier

Steakboy's Deli Coner MSN MyspaceBeing the left-brained person that I am, I tend to favor my logical, cold, scientific side of my brain instead of using my emotional side. I typically don't have much use for anything less than blantant emotional states that I can "put on" rather easily. Feelings of passion such as rage or hate are easily displayed, as they're closer to the surface, but the more gradation of an emotional state, the less compitantly I can display it. This usually doesn't present me with a problem as I get into relatively few situations in which displaying my emotional state is advantageous, and am able to use my logical, analytical, knowledgable side to analyze myself and apply it to other people. Yesterday however, it presented a situation to me that I would have rather gone without. I was working with Candace and she became rather ill. She was telling me about it and I told her I hoped she got to feeling better. At that moment, I could hear myself speaking, not in a general, audio sense mind you, but it was as if it wasn't really me speaking at all! It sounded, felt, and actually was incredibly automated; it sounded overly prerehersed, something that I have often accused my mother of (Amy if you figure out how to read this not a word to mom about any of this, she really dislikes it when I bring that up). I couldn't display my sympathy (or concern as the case ended up being later) with any sign of convincingness, even though they weren't fabricated emotions. I spoke to her a few more times with the same result. I started to get exceedingly frustrated with myself and she started getting more ill, as she went in the back and just hung her head down and was feeling quite cruddy. The only emotions I could feel radiating off of myself that were apparant were frustration and even fury at myself for being incapable of showing how I felt, and a deep seeded anger at the other servers for being rude and unsympathetic for her condition as they started to get rather upset with her (I don't think thye like her very much for some reason). At 17 I should think that something more than my primal, passionate feelings would be able to bleed through to the surface to a degree of authenticity, but I just can't understand how that can be done. Learning to feel at 17 years of age . . . it just makes me feel like a sociopath, I know I'm capable of feeling, so why can't I show it? I've often been yelled at (in good humor mind you) for not smiling when I'm feeling fine, I have people who shout at me for being cold and unfeeling, while others simply think I'm not feeling well. For all my knowledge and all my mental strength, to be beaten by this simple feeling is infuriating, and yet, I have no way to fight back. There is no emotional counter attack to be made . . . . Crossfade's "Cold" is playing on my music at this moment, the irony of its application, while somewhat intoxicating, is less than ammussing to me . . . .

I'm so used to emotional detachment, I'm not sure how to reintegrate them into my life. Anyone have any advice?




KoЯsakoff

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#2 13 years ago

I've had such a period not long ago... Like 3 months ago. No smile to be seen in a thousand miles. I got more and more irritated by little things. Then my holidays began, I went with some friends, spend 3 weeks completely relaxt, no back home worries. Then there came a new woman in my life... I've never felt better ever since.. Now I dont care about things that could piss me off... I hardly get angry, only at myself for being stupid sometimes. You know what they say, behind a strong man, there's a strong woman, so thats taken care of too. If you know you can feel and you do from the inside, there's nothing to worry about. There shouldn't always be a smile, there shouldn't always be a angry face. Just explain it to people on how you work from the inside.

Btw, you listen to good music ;)




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#3 13 years ago

I have a similiar problem, it must be a side-effect of usually holding almost all emotion inside, except for the occasional outburst of anger, sadness, etc.




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#4 13 years ago
SteakboyI have somewhat of an emotional problem, I was hoping someone might have some suggestions as to how to fix. Though I know it isn't an easily solved problem, no matter now simplistic the obvious alternative to my current state may be. I'm too drained at the moment to try and re-explain it, so I'll copy my entry I made earlier I'm so used to emotional detachment, I'm not sure how to reintegrate them into my life. Anyone have any advice?

Dude, you're a teenager, and the time spent in this period usually sucks to a large degree. Don't worry about it much, seriously--get outside, be a bit more social, talk to people, try to have a little fun, and meet a few people with whom you can really connect. (All teenagers have some type of "emotional problem"--it's part of the whole deal--and most of these fade as you get older.) Basically, this junk passes in time--except when you brood over it, then you magnify it and make it seem worse. :D