Girl Trouble, want to help? 15 replies

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#1 13 years ago

Yeah, well I had nothing else really usefull to really post, so I wanted to bring up this question in my life: I am 17 years old turning 18 in june. This girl I really like just turned 18 around 4 days ago. The problem, we have been friends for over 6 years now...and I dont know how to really go into this situation. She is a really great person, and I dont want to lose a perfect (friend) relationship, but I would like to have more than that as well... I dunno really what she really thinks of me as...all I know is she got over this 18-19 year old. And she wants to take me and a few friends camping this summer...take in mind this is a 6 year relationship. Let me know what you think, please only post if you have an issue similar, or have a resolution to my worries, kudos!




candice

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#2 13 years ago

Well, as I write this I am waiting to tell a very dear friend that I have deeper feelings for him.

My advice is seize the day. To quote someone or other (not sure who), "To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing."

At the end of the day, if she's really that good of a friend there will just be some awkwardness between you for awhile. Write her a letter if you're too afraid to say it in person. Personally I'm going to deliver my little speech over the phone so I can have it written out and in front of me. Let her know that you don't want there to be weirdness between you, and you hope that you can still be friends. Also let her know that you understand if she needs time to think it over...and that she can just let you know when/if she wants to talk about it. She's more likely to feel less cornered then.

Other than that, all I can say is good luck. Life is nothing without the risks. I wasted too many years being afraid to speak up. I'm still afraid, but I'm doing it regardless. My suggestion is that you do the same. :) And once again, good luck.




madmanfrommars

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#3 13 years ago

My girl friends would probably laugh in my face if I told them I liked them (but thats okay because I don't actually like them anyway.)

If you don't tell her, you'll probably regret it for a long time and you will hate yourself for never trying.




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#4 13 years ago

I had two experiences like this....

First time she thought I was a fool....and then just forgot about it

The second time was when I gave a flower, when she asked who I had a crush on....and she still hates me :( So both of the girls didn't like the idea

I am not a good person to advise you, but I havn't been lucky with girls....ever....




Sh0wdowN

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#5 13 years ago

I don't know why, but I picture you (matyast) as the guy in your avatar, and now you made really scary pictures in my head.

And JanitorFox, I were in a similar position some years back, I didn't do anything about it and she drifted into a bad community; she's a drug addict and a prostitute now. I still wonder if I could have done something to prevent it, but I'm not haunted by it. I guess if you love her you would probably torment yourself, I wasn't in love, just thought she seemed interesting. Give it a thought.




SteVen

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#6 13 years ago

im pretty much screwed ive liked this girl since 6th grade im in 9th and just the other day somekid told her i liked her she never talked to me,looked at me,or even walk by me anymore!!!! I JUST WANT TO CRY!!!




[11PzG]matyast

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#7 13 years ago

Well, I am not like Otto von Bismarck..... Anyway....what kind of pictures are you having in your head?




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#8 13 years ago

Janitor.....Do what Nike does...."Just Do it"




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#9 13 years ago

thanks guys and girls... seeing as half say to do it, and the other saying that they did, but suffored from it, Im not sure if its worth it though. What the first reply said really touched me though, and its true. Life is useless without taking those risks...but having a risk of losing someone I really want to hang around with for 6 years is a real kick in the nuts. Im not "stalker obsessed" yet, so I would rather keep a friend relationship, than nothing at all. Why is it so hard for things to work out like this? Emotions make it so difficult to do any of this. I really wouldnt mind if someone said they liked me, It would make me feel so much better if they were the one saying it cause I know my feelings...I just dont know what her feelings would be if I said it. Is there any kind of non-toxic solution that can make a person say if they like you or not? Alcohol dosent always do the trick by the way = P keep posting...confidence is slightly rising!




Nusentinsaino

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#10 13 years ago
JanitorFoxYeah, well I had nothing else really usefull to really post, so I wanted to bring up this question in my life: I am 17 years old turning 18 in june. This girl I really like just turned 18 around 4 days ago. The problem, we have been friends for over 6 years now...and I dont know how to really go into this situation. She is a really great person, and I dont want to lose a perfect (friend) relationship, but I would like to have more than that as well... I dunno really what she really thinks of me as...all I know is she got over this 18-19 year old. And she wants to take me and a few friends camping this summer...take in mind this is a 6 year relationship. Let me know what you think, please only post if you have an issue similar, or have a resolution to my worries, kudos!

I have the same situation, However this girl and me were only best friends for a month or so. We both liked each other more then friends at first, but we both decided to stay as friends because that way it will last longer than relationships. It sounds similar to me of what you are doing with her, She wants you to go camping this summer while my best female friend wants me to go to mrytle beach this summer... I know how you feel. Im sorry to "hijack" this thread, but the girl right now isnt calling me now... I saw her last night and unfotunaly i was drunk... again... and she seemed like she thinks i was weird, she was with her friend and she told me she will sit "over there" and she did not talk to me all night at the game :( so im kind of worried as hell.




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