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#1 11 years ago

Do you believe in teaching your children (or future children) about Santa Claus? I don't. First its a lie. Kids always find out that Santa Claus is fake, and they take it very hard. I want my future kids to trust me. Having them find out that I was lieing to them for 7 or 8 years doesn't seem very conductive to trust. Second, I think that my kids would acctually appreciate knowing that it was my time, effort, money and care that purchased their Christmas presents; rather then Santa Claus who they have only heard about and will never see or meet. So what will you do?




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#2 11 years ago

Interesting question, I don't think it is that bad to lie to a child. I think parents do that all the time to get them to do or not do certain things. Still better than beating them into submission (and no, at a certain age you can't reaon with children). I also don't know how hard children it take to find out that Santa Claus doesn't exit. If the parents do it right the child will feel clever and mature for finding out about such myths.

I agree with your third point though, I also think it is better for children to know where their presents are coming from, even though may be a bit vain as children can't appreciate the things we do for them completly.

The idea of Santa Claus is a nice harmless tradition and fun for children, so I think it is ok to use it.




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#3 11 years ago

You could allways use brown wrapping paper too, where is the fun, toothfairy, halloween, you will only damage kids if all is so blunt, no fun, stuffy parent you must be.




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#4 11 years ago

You bet I will. I never had a problem when I found out Santa wasn't real. It's not like a felt betrayed or anything because I:

a. Knew how happy it made me when I was a litle kid and, b. Saw how happy it made my little cousins to see Santa.

So yes, I will teach my kids about Santa Claus, and various other fake things like the tooth fairy.




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#5 11 years ago
You could allways use brown wrapping paper too, where is the fun, toothfairy, halloween, you will only damage kids if all is so blunt, no fun, stuffy parent you must be.

No kidding, there is such little joy in this world, what is wrong with parents watching the expressions on their kids faces on Christmas day…I once thought the same way as Section before becoming a parent. Your perspective changes if you have any compassion or love for children to see them light up once and awhile. If your intention is to be a stuffy, up tight parent – the consequences will reveal themselves when your children become teenagers; want proof look and the “Vulcanized” children of Jehovah Witnesses – poor kids.

You bet I will. I never had a problem when I found out Santa wasn't real. It's not like a felt betrayed or anything because I:

a. Knew how happy it made me when I was a litle kid and, b. Saw how happy it made my little cousins to see Santa.

So yes, I will teach my kids about Santa Claus, and various other fake things like the tooth fairy.

I was the same way, and being a crafty, educated parent you can help your kids through this phase. My son is currently going through the transition of knowing Santa is in all likelihood mom and dad. He does not feel bitter about it. In fact, it strengthens his belief that mom and dad would go through all the trouble of Santa to make him happy and in his own way I think he is appreciative. As a parent it is an expression of love to want to create a little fantasy for their children. I think it reassures them that make-believe is ok once and awhile and that it is all right to dream of possibilities.




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#6 11 years ago

I actually think it's a good idea to say to your child that Santa Claus brings the presents when they are at a young age. You know why? If you tell them you buy the presents, then they will ask you to buy them presents again, throughout the year. If you say Santa brings the presents, then they know that christmas comes once a year so they learn to appreciate what they get and behave to gain those presents as the myth represents. As they grow older, through friends and society, they will find out themselves that Santa is not real and they will feel mature that they found that out furthermore not getting upset.




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#7 11 years ago

Kids love to make believe that there is something grand out there that connects them with the rest of the world. Santa Clause does that. When mom and dad join in it just makes it all that more real. When a child finds out Santa isn't real its more or less a part of growing up.

The whole idea allows the parents to enjoy their child's excitement by giving them a taste of childhood through their child's eyes.

When you call the idea of Christmas a lie your calling make believe a lie, but for a child make believe is a real and joyous thing. To call christmas a lie would be to completely disregard the world looked at through the eyes of a child. If you completely disregard the way your son or daughter sees the world then your essentially disregarding him or her.




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#8 11 years ago

I won't tell my kids that santa is real. I can't lie to them. I don't want to work them up about this guy flying around the world at mach 100 delivering a million tons of gifts in a single night.

I will keep the naughty or nice part;) If you are being bad, no gift for you!




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#9 11 years ago

Most children I have seen worked out for themselves that Santa wasn't real over time...it didn't do them any harm. Quite the opposite probably. I think it's strange to think of it as just a "lie" that you tell your children for no reason. It's more like a game, or a story, both of which are important to young children.




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#10 11 years ago
Bob L. Scrachy;3435645Kids love to make believe that there is something grand out there that connects them with the rest of the world. Santa Clause does that. When mom and dad join in it just makes it all that more real. When a child finds out Santa isn't real its more or less a part of growing up. The whole idea allows the parents to enjoy their child's excitement by giving them a taste of childhood through their child's eyes. When you call the idea of Christmas a lie your calling make believe a lie, but for a child make believe is a real and joyous thing. To call christmas a lie would be to completely disregard the world looked at through the eyes of a child. If you completely disregard the way your son or daughter sees the world then your essentially disregarding him or her.

Excellent...just excellent - YOU will get green rep for this. Very well put.