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N88TR

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#1 13 years ago

I'm not like David Hasslehoff good looking, but nor am I a Ron Jeremy. I try to keep fit and I'm a tall guy with dark red hair and glasses. I know I'm a real opinionated guy but I keep that to myself. I'm that guy that never went to a birthday party, sleep over, baseball game, camping, hung out with friends, was on the baseball team, etc. I don't think I've spoken to a girl about anything other than school. I don't think I've ever talked to a girl on a social level. I don't think it's because I'm afraid, I just feel like everyone has an alterior motive. I don't trust many ppl or care about them either. I kinda use ppl as tools for my own personal gain. I don't screw them over, but I never form bonds or really good friendships. I go to a medium sized college and ppl there are from all walks of life, some are young and just out of highschool, some are from the armed forces, some needed to find some guidance, some are a little older like me [20] and need to get some good training for their careers, and others still are coming out of the workplace to get better pay with a better education. I see lots of jocks, nerds and the goths [I think most are a few years younger than me] with GFs on their arms, just kinda hanging out. [Ppl can hang out and just be friends, like boy and girl right?] I can't imagine myself in that position. I always feel that if I somehow managed to get a GF or boyfriend [just a male friend. I'm not gay.], I'd kinda always feel like I'm doing something wrong or I'm not fullfilling some need they have, or just in short that I'm not up to par with the other guys they could have. I know I think things through a lot and am a real planned out and meticulous guy, but I'm not a freak. I can cut loose some days and just go with the flow, but I like things orderly. I just can't imagine myself in a relationship with another person of the opposite sex. There's been ppl I've been interested in, like if I was to see them socially, but I don't think they're pure. I see all these girls with tattoos on the small of their backs, pierced tongues and crap and I just kinda feel like they've been ridden. I don't know why I care, I mean, everyone gets taken for a ride now and again, but I think ppl lose a lot of innocence after that. Not like they wither like a weed, but they're so different. I've seen it happen to a bunch of old highschool girls that now go to college where I do too. It's so strange and I feel like I don't want to have anything to do with them. The nice girls that look like they have it all together, either they have BFs or they don't look socially inclined to invite a relationship. I'm not into sex or kissing or anything, but how do I just hang out with a female for company and to talk about interests we have in common like writing, literature, computers, art, etc?




DavetheFo

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#2 13 years ago

Hahahahaha. You have red hair.... Oooh the drink.




Flatline_Construct

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#3 13 years ago

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[/color]I just feel like everyone has an alterior motive. I don't trust many ppl or care about them either. I kinda use ppl as tools for my own personal gain. I don't screw them over, but I never form bonds or really good friendships.[color=DarkGreen] you sound like a bit of a sociopath, or paranoid. girls like that. roll%20eyes%20%28sarcastic%29.gif j/k seriously just get out there talk to some people, socialise, get down, let your soul lead the way. live a little ffs. **dammit my txt wont stay bold if i quote...fix it!!!** [/color]




MrFancypants Forum Admin

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#4 13 years ago
Captain Amerikahow do I just hang out with a female for company and to talk about interests we have in common like writing, literature, computers, art, etc?

Practice. Keeping a smile on your face will also help. If you find it difficult to start you could look for some interesting sport. That is always a good opportunity to get to know people.

As to the rest of your post, you seem to be intelligent but lack some social skills. First thing you'll have to do is to think what you want. You write a lot about how negative relations are these days but this is ultimately only an excuse to make up for your own short-comings. Think about the problems you have and work on them. For example, being meticulous and accurate can be very annoying to other people. This doesn't mean that you have to change it, it only means that you have to respect other life-styles than your own. So work on yourself (this is NOT easy and will take time and willpower) and try to admire the good parts about others instead of thinking about their bad characteristics (which are in many cases directly related to your own problems).

Also, be critical whenever accepting advice. Especially if it is about girls and comes from a gamingforum ;)




CorT VIP Member

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#5 13 years ago

Paragraphs turn women on.




KoЯsakoff

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#6 13 years ago

Not really general discussion.. :moved: to the Pub.




Shadowfire67

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#7 13 years ago
CorTParagraphs turn women on.

It always does roll%20eyes%20%28sarcastic%29.gif




Grimme

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#8 13 years ago

I find a great place to meet new friends [male or female] is at partys. Since everyones so blind drunk, you can talk and look like crap!




PropheticKarma

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#9 13 years ago
Captain AmerikaI'm not like David Hasslehoff good looking, but nor am I a Ron Jeremy. I try to keep fit and I'm a tall guy with dark red hair and glasses. I know I'm a real opinionated guy but I keep that to myself. I'm that guy that never went to a birthday party, sleep over, baseball game, camping, hung out with friends, was on the baseball team, etc. I don't think I've spoken to a girl about anything other than school. I don't think I've ever talked to a girl on a social level. I don't think it's because I'm afraid, I just feel like everyone has an alterior motive. I don't trust many ppl or care about them either. I kinda use ppl as tools for my own personal gain. I don't screw them over, but I never form bonds or really good friendships. I go to a medium sized college and ppl there are from all walks of life, some are young and just out of highschool, some are from the armed forces, some needed to find some guidance, some are a little older like me [20] and need to get some good training for their careers, and others still are coming out of the workplace to get better pay with a better education. I see lots of jocks, nerds and the goths [I think most are a few years younger than me] with GFs on their arms, just kinda hanging out. [Ppl can hang out and just be friends, like boy and girl right?] I can't imagine myself in that position. I always feel that if I somehow managed to get a GF or boyfriend [just a male friend. I'm not gay.], I'd kinda always feel like I'm doing something wrong or I'm not fullfilling some need they have, or just in short that I'm not up to par with the other guys they could have. I know I think things through a lot and am a real planned out and meticulous guy, but I'm not a freak. I can cut loose some days and just go with the flow, but I like things orderly. I just can't imagine myself in a relationship with another person of the opposite sex. There's been ppl I've been interested in, like if I was to see them socially, but I don't think they're pure. I see all these girls with tattoos on the small of their backs, pierced tongues and crap and I just kinda feel like they've been ridden. I don't know why I care, I mean, everyone gets taken for a ride now and again, but I think ppl lose a lot of innocence after that. Not like they wither like a weed, but they're so different. I've seen it happen to a bunch of old highschool girls that now go to college where I do too. It's so strange and I feel like I don't want to have anything to do with them. The nice girls that look like they have it all together, either they have BFs or they don't look socially inclined to invite a relationship. I'm not into sex or kissing or anything, but how do I just hang out with a female for company and to talk about interests we have in common like writing, literature, computers, art, etc?

To quote someone on this forum: "Dude you're asking for relationship advice on a online forum. You've got no chance in hell." laugh5.gif Seriously, you have to go for it. Just get out more, try to find somewhere that has something you're intrested in and if you see a girl strike up a conversation with her, if things go well ask her to go for a drink or coffee depending on the time yeltongue.gif. If not ask her if she'd like to do something another time, just because she's busy then doesn't mean she's saying no. If she won't give you her number then she's saying no. Even if the first try doesn't work try, try, try again. You're not going to get them all at once or at all if you give up after one try. There are plenty more girls that don't know you that probably would like you. Good luck. coolx.gif




Oblivious

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#10 13 years ago
CorTParagraphs turn women on.

:lol:

There's no secret or mysterious answer to starting/having a relationship.

Just be respectful to others, listen when someone speaks, and most of all, be confident in just being yourself.

I do have one hint though: If a girl changes her hair, you damn well better notice it. ;)




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