How Guys Think? Tell me if I'm right or wrong 33 replies

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Jill

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#1 12 years ago

There was this guy that was upset that his girlfriend dumped him. He seemed to want advice. It really made me feel bad on what this girl was putting him through. He made several statements. It got me really thinking about how guys think. I wrote him this in an email:

This really makes me feel bad. It proves to me that guys are sensitive. I wish every girl could see this. Now beneath that rough exterior and macho face is a sensitive guy, more than we girls can imagine. So to protect themselves they put up these huge inpenetratable walls. Guys act tough because they have to. Now here is one mystery that was reveiled. Once guys fall in love, they let their guard down. They are completely vulnerable just like what just happened to BLANK . We girls have complete control over their emotions. We will be the only thing that matters to him in the whole world. Now here is the tricky part. If we burn the guy at this time and he know he is played and was in love, he will be ruined forever. There is no way in the world is he going to let his guard down again. This made so much sense to me after reading what BLANK wrote. Now girls, how many guys have you come across that had a big chip on their shoulders about girls. Obviously they where played at one time in their life just like BLANK .

Jill

I was trying to be sincere as possible. Tell me if I'm wrong about how guys think.

1. Guys are sensitive (See above)

2. Guys are problem solvers. My thoughts - Guys are natural problem solvers. they attack their problems head on. They are not like us girls that use the back door approach on dealing with matters. They want to assist the situation and solve it as fast as possible. Example: If a guy has a problem with another guy, it is attacked head-on like with a fist-fight. He wants to solve the problem fast and to the point. On the other hand if we girls face this problem, we use the back-door approach. We fight our battles in a-round-about way instead of straight toe-to-toe battle. We spread rumours and spread insults where you know it will get back to the person you are dealing with. True or false?

3. Guys are logical. My Idea - Guys don't waste as much time thinking about things as much as we girls. They look at a situation, weigh the pros and the cons, and they go for it. It is simple yet they do it. You may think they are putting their fate in the wind, but they know this going into it. It is part of the risk they take. They accept it and feel ....if it happens, it happens. True or False?

4. Guys have different priorities in life. Guys think different, therefore they have different priorities. They dwell and dream about certain things that most girls could care less about. Some might call them hobbies. Others theri life's ambitions. Example: Some love cars. They can spend a lot of time and money with these vehicles of transportation. They baby them and build them up. It is important to make their rides perfect. They take pride in the work they do. Speed demons tweek their cars to go faster. 4wd guys get big tires to climb hills, rivers and big mud pits. True or False?

I'm just really curious on how guys think. I'm I even close or way off?

Jill




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#2 12 years ago

Sensitivity depends on the guy, although most will probably claim that they are. Problem solving, yeah, probably, I'd say we're more direct about problems. Logic depends on the person, I don't expect high level thinking from someone who isn't very smart, and priorities just depends on the individual, gender aside.




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#3 12 years ago

From my personal experience as a guy, I'd definitely agree with 1, 2 and 3. 4, I'm not so sure about. I really don't think guys "love" their cars to that extent. It's really just a hobby.




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#4 12 years ago

The first three, as stated, are spot on. The fourth is more a case of having built something from the ground, having done a lot of work for it etcetera. It's ofcourse frustrating if something ruins it then.




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#5 12 years ago

Yep, I think you're pretty spot on there, just look at Rocky Balboa. Big strong man, takes a few punches and cries like a baby: ADRIANNNNN! :rolleyes:




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#6 12 years ago

Well i agree, there's no faffing around when it comes to a problem for most of us. Like you said, it's just identifying the problem, hitting the person with the problem and carrying on knowing that there is no longer.. a problem.

Riot

Edit: Sorry i meant guys in this case. (the hitting part).




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#7 12 years ago

Well, the thing is, you can't generalise too much. You'll meet your stereotypical guys, who are macho, like cars, sports, and think of females as things, not people to be respected. Then you'll see some who fit some parts (mostly everything except the women part), then you'll see guys like me, who can't seem to make up their mind.

I can be the most apathetic person you'll ever see, or I can be very empathetic, and undersanding. I don't care what people think or say about me, so I don't act macho, nor do I try to BE macho. I'm just myself. I really don't care for cars, or watching sports (although I enjoy playing a few). All females have a chance with me. I treat them with kindness and respect at first, but I find out they are a slut, my respect for them is lost.

True, most guys (including me) have a head-on approach, but my approack isn't quite the way you describe. I'm more like, "Let's get this done right, as simply as possible". It's also true that most of us are logical, but I do wonder about things, and think very deeply about some things.

My point is: you can't really group everyone together. Some fit the mold, some don't, and some (like me) will fit the mold one day, and be completely different the next. But for the most part, you got it right.




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#8 12 years ago

JillI was trying to be sincere as possible. Tell me if I'm wrong about how guys think.

1. Guys are sensitive (See above)[/QUOTE]

Guys can sense emotions in others as much as females can but how they allow the decisions and emotions of others to effect them varies greatly. I for instance feel very little of what my classmates feel, they get all torn up when people dump them, or when bad things happen, and ridiculously overly happy when their team wins at football or something like that. It's, strange, it also makes them very easy to manipulate.

Jill2. Guys are problem solvers. My thoughts - Guys are natural problem solvers. they attack their problems head on. They are not like us girls that use the back door approach on dealing with matters. They want to assist the situation and solve it as fast as possible. Example: If a guy has a problem with another guy, it is attacked head-on like with a fist-fight. He wants to solve the problem fast and to the point. On the other hand if we girls face this problem, we use the back-door approach. We fight our battles in a-round-about way instead of straight toe-to-toe battle. We spread rumours and spread insults where you know it will get back to the person you are dealing with. True or false?[/QUOTE]

I prefer a solution that's going to be effective. Rumours etc aren't really going to do too much. A group of people turning up and beating the crap out of them on the other hand is going to solve the problem pretty permanently. It's not that we're less subtle, indeed that we can swing such a large amount of communal force behind ourselves when we need to relies in part upon our subtlety. It's just that our solutions aren't so much about 'I hate you. Boohoo' as they are about 'Never bother me again or you won't be able to walk.'

[QUOTE=Jill]3. Guys are logical. My Idea - Guys don't waste as much time thinking about things as much as we girls. They look at a situation, weigh the pros and the cons, and they go for it. It is simple yet they do it. You may think they are putting their fate in the wind, but they know this going into it. It is part of the risk they take. They accept it and feel ....if it happens, it happens. True or False?

Everything is a calculated risk and life is a gamble, pick the best hand and throw the dice. Girls, it seems to me, tend to overcomplicate issues and spend a lot of time going around in circles rather than accepting that something is the best soloution they're going to get and then running with it.

[QUOTE=Jill]4. Guys have different priorities in life. Guys think different, therefore they have different priorities. They dwell and dream about certain things that most girls could care less about. Some might call them hobbies. Others theri life's ambitions. Example: Some love cars. They can spend a lot of time and money with these vehicles of transportation. They baby them and build them up. It is important to make their rides perfect. They take pride in the work they do. Speed demons tweek their cars to go faster. 4wd guys get big tires to climb hills, rivers and big mud pits. True or False?

I know some girls who make money their priority, I know some guys who make money their priority. I know some girls who spend most of their time with computers, I know some guys who spend most of their time with computers. Girls tend to think about fashion and the like more I suppose but that's probably an effect of their sub-culture rather than their biology.




Jill

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#9 12 years ago
Red RebelMy point is: you can't really group everyone together. Some fit the mold, some don't, and some (like me) will fit the mold one day, and be completely different the next. But for the most part, you got it right.

You are absolutely right. No two people are the same. I was thinking more about guys in general. I myself don't act like most girls I know. I'm sort of a weirdo...:lol: But I can't help it.;)




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#10 12 years ago

We need three things:

1.) Sex 2.) Beer 3.) Food

And possibly television too. ;)