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#1 10 years ago

I've just gotten a big, scathing lecture from my mother.

It's probably - no, absolutely definitely the most insulting one I've ever had. After the whole thing, I've come to the conclusion that my mom doesn't know me AT ALL. She probably knows motherfucking Bruce Willis better than she knows her own son.

I can accept lectures if they do indeed make sense. This one did not. Not a chance in bloody hell it did.

Enough of my ranting. What is it about? In summary, my mother pretty much told me that I'm am outright fucking useless sorry sack of shit because according to her:

- I don't know how to cook, wash clothes or do any labour. Admittedly I've made a bit of mistakes in the past, and that I can only make quick noodles and fried eggs, but she's exaggerating it to such epic proportions that I will be unable to live by myself. In my honest opinion, I can do physical work far better than I can in her wildest dreams. I simply do not do it so much, and I don't because I have no need to.

- I don't know how to talk to people and that I'm anti-social. She drew this conclusion from the fact that I mostly hang out with only one friend of mine, and other than that, I talk mostly to foreigners online such as you guys. The thing is, though, is that I get the impression she wants me to make friends for the sake of making friends and absolutely no other reason. And the truth is, I have far more friends in school than she can imagine, they are simply not the kind I like to hang out with to go watch movies and other stuff, only the one friend I regularly meet is. So again, The Queen of Crock is overblowing this issue as if it were supposed to be on CNN.

- I don't know the real world, I'm in the fucking Matrix, because I look at too many cars, my main interest. I like cars a lot, but she believes that that's all I talk about around everyone and that I try and shove it down their throats, simply because I bring up cars occasionally in a conversation. Currently, if I bring up cars in any discussion at all, she will go into a terror fit about how DISCONNECTED I am with 'the real world' because I look into cars too much and don't care for anything else.

-And because of all of the above, I can't work. I can never make money.

Forgive me for all of my cursing, but after insulting me like I was a goddamn freak, she hypocritically said I am not allowed to scream or yell to express my anger or she will slaughter me.

I know my mother loves me, but such incidents make it incredibly hard for me to see that.

EDIT: I should note that I plan on becoming a car journalist. Also, I currently have second thoughts about taking care of her when she grows old. Of course, not for the reasons she said.




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#2 10 years ago

You might not like me saying this, but I've not been one to beat around the bush. Your mother's a complete bitch.

I get the impression she wants me to make friends for the sake of making friends and absolutely no other reason.

So she wants quantity of friends rather than quality? She's stupid. I have only two real friends outside of MSN and forums like this. I haven't had time to see these two for a year, but my internet friends are just as real as they are. Just because there's new technology around, doesn't mean we shouldn't use it. Here's a tip to work around it. Ask for the phone number of the friend who lives furthest away (for me, it's New Zealand). Call him/her and talk for as long as you can. Then, when your mum gets the phone bill and yells at you about it, tell her you were getting to know your friend off the internet, like she suggested. :lol:

Forgive me for all of my cursing, but after insulting me like I was a goddamn freak, she hypocritically said I am not allowed to scream or yell to express my anger or she will slaughter me.

Screw her. Swear at her, yell at her, anything you want. The fact that she specifically said that proves that she knows she's being incredibly moronic. If she kicks you out of the house, go to your friends house. People don't need parents like that.




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#3 10 years ago

Parents are just people in the end, and they will sometimes say things they haven't really thought about, and say things that are just plain wrong and totally unfounded.

You said she loves you still, and that's what is important even if you can't reason with her. Learn to live with the comments, stay calm and be to the point when you decide to argue, if she doesn't want to listen to reason, simply be quiet and let the storm pass. The problem may be with her and not you.




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#4 10 years ago

First of all, I use to be a frequent receiver of such lectures.

About the chores and cooking, maybe take some time off to, without being asked, cook and do housework. As you said, you probably won't find the need to but show her that you can actually do it. Prove her wrong through the actions you carry out, not simply by words.

The anti-socialism - question her about her problem with hanging out with only one friend. Explain to her the other friends you have at school and tell her why she doesn't see you hang out with them (such as their personalities, etc.) Compare yourself with an example of a kid that is maybe too popular - you know, partying, doing drugs. Tell her how she should be happy to have a son (I'm guessing) that isn't into that kind of stuff (right?)

Explain to her about your hobby and fascination with cars and your wishes as a car journalist for a future job. She might want you to pursue some other career but tell her its the career you'd be most happy in so you can happily skip to work everyday unlike some others out there who drag themselves to work because they have no apparent interest in the things they do.

Most of all, keep calm when talking to her in such situations. Wait for her to finish. Speak in a normal tone, do not become aggressive, swear, shout. This will only heat her up. Also, in order to hear your soft tone, she'd have to quiet down, wont she?

If you are in a position where you can talk to your father, sit down and talk to him too. Usually, parent to parent conversations can help a lot.

She loves and still cares about you - That is why she has such conversations with you. In the midst of anger, people can say stupid things that they will probably regret later on (eg. slaughtering you) so just try shrug it off. Even if she does kick you out of the house, it might be nice to take a break from each other so see it as a 'recovery period' of some sort.

Well hopefully everything goes well with you. I'll leave it at that.




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#5 10 years ago

Exploder;4118847I've just gotten a big, scathing lecture from my mother.

It's probably - no, absolutely definitely the most insulting one I've ever had. After the whole thing, I've come to the conclusion that my mom doesn't know me AT ALL. She probably knows motherfucking Bruce Willis better than she knows her own son.

I can accept lectures if they do indeed make sense. This one did not. Not a chance in bloody hell it did.

Enough of my ranting. What is it about? In summary, my mother pretty much told me that I'm am outright fucking useless sorry sack of shit because according to her:

- I don't know how to cook, wash clothes or do any labour. Admittedly I've made a bit of mistakes in the past, and that I can only make quick noodles and fried eggs, but she's exaggerating it to such epic proportions that I will be unable to live by myself. In my honest opinion, I can do physical work far better than I can in her wildest dreams. I simply do not do it so much, and I don't because I have no need to.

- I don't know how to talk to people and that I'm anti-social. She drew this conclusion from the fact that I mostly hang out with only one friend of mine, and other than that, I talk mostly to foreigners online such as you guys. The thing is, though, is that I get the impression she wants me to make friends for the sake of making friends and absolutely no other reason. And the truth is, I have far more friends in school than she can imagine, they are simply not the kind I like to hang out with to go watch movies and other stuff, only the one friend I regularly meet is. So again, The Queen of Crock is overblowing this issue as if it were supposed to be on CNN.

- I don't know the real world, I'm in the fucking Matrix, because I look at too many cars, my main interest. I like cars a lot, but she believes that that's all I talk about around everyone and that I try and shove it down their throats, simply because I bring up cars occasionally in a conversation. Currently, if I bring up cars in any discussion at all, she will go into a terror fit about how DISCONNECTED I am with 'the real world' because I look into cars too much and don't care for anything else.

-And because of all of the above, I can't work. I can never make money.

Forgive me for all of my cursing, but after insulting me like I was a goddamn freak, she hypocritically said I am not allowed to scream or yell to express my anger or she will slaughter me.

I know my mother loves me, but such incidents make it incredibly hard for me to see that.

EDIT: I should note that I plan on becoming a car journalist. Also, I currently have second thoughts about taking care of her when she grows old. Of course, not for the reasons she said.

What happened to make her say this?




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#6 10 years ago

and I thought my father was a pain to live with, I now see I'm sort of lucky




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#7 10 years ago

Just be cool, and demolish each of her points, methodically and completely. Explain that people can make tons of money doing the most random things, if you can, go to a store that has a large magazine section, and count how many of them are automotive. Or, see how many pages are devoted to cars in your newspaper.

Of course, once you've defeated her, don't be a dick; if you do it right, she'll not be too pleased with herself, you rubbing it in her face will just end badly for you.




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#8 10 years ago

well.. show her? stop being a lazy ass and get out there.. hell Im sure you already are.. but such creatures never stop untill they actually sees it.




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#9 10 years ago

Rich19: She started when she saw me using the computer.

That's the problem. She believes everything I look at on the Internet 'isn't important'. Cars, Wikipedia, politics - how do those matter when you 'don't know how to do anything else?'

The fact that there is actually a major exam coming up for me at the end of next year may have contributed.




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#10 10 years ago

Go on revision sites. She'll be forced to concede that that's important. Otherwise, she wants you to fail this test.