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Biggest F-ing A-hole 2010

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#1 13 years ago

Ok been gone alot latly (to the pleasure of many, and the displeasure of some), because of my new job and this girl there.

I like her alot. I have dropped subtle hints here and there. I think she likes me too. She calls me at least every 2 days and we talk on the phone for around 3 hours every time. (And its real conversation, not both us watching TV and then asking what the other one is watching).

This past Saturday we went and saw Get Rich or Die Tryin. I brought her a rose and I paid for her ticket (She went to the ATM while I was in line, she gave me money to buy her ticket, and when she came back, I gave her her 'change', and she counted it and realized it was all there and asked if I got her a ticket, and then I told her I paid for her, so she seemed kinda charmed by it). We went to a store and she bought me a CD (she wouldnt let me pay for it, she insisted on payin for it). Im not sure if this is a 'date' or not, but thats not the problem.

She has a boyfriend.

He now lives 600 miles away in Airzona. He moved there awhile ago (bout 4 months). And from what I heard from her friends, hes a total bro.

She has mentioned that he got mad at her once because he thought she was activly cheating on him with me. She hasnt, and I wont let her. I told her that I wouldnt ask her out while she has a boyfriend, but that has been the only mention of 'asking out' from either side.

So, what should I do? Im feelin out the situation to see what the chances of her breaking up with him are. She has mentioned they having problems. She also said (when we first met) they she would be moving out there to be with him in December, but now she has mentioned that she prolly wont.

What should I do?

Inyri Forge VIP Member

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#2 13 years ago

You're wooing a girl with a boyfriend? Isn't that like a social no-no?

If you have any sense of honor, you'll have to wait for them to break it off. And it will almost certainly happen. In an ideal world, long distance relationships work fine. In the real world, they don't. But unless you want to be a total jerk, you can't just go after her while she's "seeing" someone.

I suppose you could talk to her about it. Just don't go behind the guy's back. Even if he's a total jerk, it's still not right. If you're going to do something, come clean with everyone about it after you decide.

The whole rose and movie ticket thing was really sweet, though... If she doesn't truly appreciate that, she's an idiot :lol:

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#3 13 years ago

Yeah, you shouldn't really push your luck too far. I'd suggest you wait for it to break up, because if you ask her and she doesn't want to break up with him things are going to turn sour.


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#4 13 years ago

Don't worry, Arizona will taint anything they ever had. Give it time.

Yeah, just wait and see what happens. They prolly will break up and then you won't feel bad if you caused the break up.

What does " hes a total bro." mean?


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#5 13 years ago

Big Retarded Ostrich?

...sorry i couldn't help myself.


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#6 13 years ago

Can you beat the other guy up? Is he an asshole? If either of the questions have a yes answer, go right ahead.


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#7 13 years ago

ouch ;)


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#8 13 years ago
Inyri ForgeYou're wooing a girl with a boyfriend? Isn't that like a social no-no? If you have any sense of honor, you'll have to wait for them to break it off.

Ha, girls with boyfriends are great fun, adds a little challenge to women, go for it Nightstryker. There is nothing unhonorable about it. What is the point in being in a relationship when there is someone else you are interested in. You should only have a boyfriend/girlfriend, when you like them so much that you would never want to have sex with anybody else. Shouldn't force yourself to have a relationship with someone if it isn't true.

Force Recon

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#9 13 years ago
girls with boyfriends are great fun, adds a little challenge to women, go for it Nightstryker.

umm...Nite why do girls with boyfriends always want you?There was a similar incident ,right?

Admiral Donutz VIP Member

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#10 13 years ago

Well it isn't "right" to go out with a girl when she is having a relation with sombody else. You can hang out with her, chat, make her feel comfortable and that she know's she can trust you as a friend. However you can't go much further unless she decides to break up.

Long distance relation can work, they very well might not unless both partners trust eachother fully and remain in touch. If he indeed is a yerk (it's only rumored by her friends!) then it probably won't last for long, if he doesn't trust her, is inrespectfull to her and doesn't seem to try to stay in touch with her she probably will decide to break up. But don't persuade her into that though.

She seems to really have appreciated your actions though (but like Iniry said which girl wouldn't?) so she might have special feelings towards you aswell, but it will be up to her to break up and hint back (or make it clear she wouldn't mind a relation with you).

Good luck but don't push it! I wish I was in your shoes, I never have been able to show a girl I was really font of her :( .