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Exploder

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#1 13 years ago

OK, to cut a long story short, I had a lot of social, peer pressure, and trouble getting a girlfriend problems lately, and recently I happen to discover one of the reasons I'm constantly hampered by all these is because I happen to be nerdy. Yes. By my school standards, I am actually very nerdy. For one, my interests differ from others by a lot. While they're interested in music, anime, entertainment and sports(For the boys), I'm interested in military stuff, firearms, general knowledge, and intellectual, or nerdy stuff others just won't be interested in. I also used to be not really interested in making more friends until early this year, when I suddenly felt a very, VERY dire social need. I just felt so different and couldn't fit in. And ever since then, I've been pressing and forcing myself to get into everyone else's interests and trying to abandon mine. This explains why I have been inactive on GF for so long. In addition, I am also rather sensitive(Sometimes thinking others are wrong when you yourself actually are), irritable, talk too loudly(Yes, that gets people alienating and ostricizing me), wear glasses and have certain bad habits one might consider unhygenic. Are these the attributes of being nerdy? And the main question: Is there something with being nerdy in my situation? If there's some info I left out you can ask me to add it in.




Inara

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#2 13 years ago

No matter what anyone ever thinks of what you enjoy, you should never change the way you are. Eventually you will meet people who are into the same things as you. Are you rather social, or do you consider yourself to be somewhat shy? Also, theres nothing wrong with being nerdy, I consider myself to be pretty nerdy too, and I have several really good friends who are interested in nearly the same 'weird' things I am. What really sucks is moving from one school to another, or one area to another. I remember I moved in the summer before I started high school (worst time) and had to remake friends all over again. Although I stayed in touch with my old friends, I can't see them nearly as much because I live pretty far away from them now. Anyway, it took me quite a while to even find the right 'niche' if you will in my new school. I didn't change at all, thinking, why should I change my interests just to find some people to hang out with. You can be friends with someone without having the SAME interests, right? I never changed the person I was, or my interests throughout highschool, but I still found people who were cool to be around, and now that I'm in college, I have found several people who are into a lot of the same things as me, and we've become pretty good friends. I guess what I'm trying to say here is, just be who you are, don't change, be 'weird', and just be friends (or socialize) with people who just seem nice in general. Who knows, maybe you could get them interested into some of the things you like.




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#3 13 years ago
Exploder have certain bad habits one might consider unhygenic. .

Just curious what you mean by that?




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#4 13 years ago
Exploder Yes. By my school standards, I am actually very nerdy. For one, my interests differ from others by a lot. While they're interested in music, anime, entertainment and sports(For the boys), I'm interested in military stuff, firearms,

if your school thinks that is nerdy, by god, they do suck.

firearms and war are anything but nerdy. kick a small kid's ass if you need to show how tough you are. (im kiddin, kickin a small kids ass doesnt get you anywhere. they need to be much bigger because that helps your street cred. again, kiddin!)




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#5 13 years ago
ExploderOK, to cut a long story short, I had a lot of social, peer pressure, and trouble getting a girlfriend problems lately, and recently I happen to discover one of the reasons I'm constantly hampered by all these is because I happen to be nerdy. Yes. By my school standards, I am actually very nerdy. For one, my interests differ from others by a lot. While they're interested in music, anime, entertainment and sports(For the boys), I'm interested in military stuff, firearms, general knowledge, and intellectual, or nerdy stuff others just won't be interested in. I also used to be not really interested in making more friends until early this year, when I suddenly felt a very, VERY dire social need. I just felt so different and couldn't fit in. And ever since then, I've been pressing and forcing myself to get into everyone else's interests and trying to abandon mine. This explains why I have been inactive on GF for so long. In addition, I am also rather sensitive(Sometimes thinking others are wrong when you yourself actually are), irritable, talk too loudly(Yes, that gets people alienating and ostricizing me), wear glasses and have certain bad habits one might consider unhygenic. Are these the attributes of being nerdy? And the main question: Is there something with being nerdy in my situation? If there's some info I left out you can ask me to add it in.

If people abuse and tease you, all the while not excepting who you are, thats just down right low. Any pressuring of a person isnt accepted. Im born into a military family and I represent my area in clay shooting, they'd love me eh?smilie.gif All my time through Primary school (kindergarden - year 6) and my first year of highschool I was a total ass, I paid total attention to my work and hated being with people. At the beginning of my 8th year I changed dramatically. My behaviour and everything, I dunno how it happened though. Maybe its just to think before you talk and stuff. So in my opinion, you dont sound nerdy at all, ignore them, they honestly dont sound like the right people to be around.




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#6 13 years ago

From what I can tell what I read here, you almost sound like an average kid on the block. Nerdy, nah, not that I can read. Maybe the looks, but hey that can be changed ;)




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#7 13 years ago

yeah, not that nerdy. i know quite alot of nerdy people. you just don't sound like one to me. don't worry about it.




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#8 13 years ago

Never change who you are, I went through almost the exact same thing: while i was more inrested in gaining knowledge and having serious debates my classmates would rather talk about sex and sports all day long. So at one point when i told them they should grow up and act mature and stop talking about sex 24/7 they turned me into an outcast, it was a very hard time for me but in the end they were the ones who changed, became mature and stopped being so obsessive about sex etc. You are just more mature then they are, some people will never mature. Be who you are and live the life you want. There are people out there who think like you, it might be harder to locate them but they are out there. Keep on being the person you are and in the end you won't regret it. Playing a "fake" life will only hit you back in the face later on, don't do it! Oh and personally i wouldn't call your behaviour (or mine) nerdy, nerds are those who will stick into math books 24/7 and do not like watching a bit of television or other enterainment. Real nerds are rare and even they are who they are, there personalities might not fit with the avarage Joe out there but that doesnt mean they dont earn respect. Every person is different.




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#9 13 years ago

you'll be fine, as a matter of fact you have a good start. technology is the future. stay in it. all thoes jocks are gonna need you to calibrate the new louisville 50000 baseball bat when it comes out. but seriously....the world is alot bigger than your school/town. so stick with what you like. be the best at it, and when you meet people that have the same intrests as you. you are already DA MAN at it!!!! P.S. hygiene is pretty important though so look in to that...




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#10 13 years ago

No, there's nothing wrong with it. Only if you think there is. Usually "nerdy" means smart, and how can that be a bad thing? ;)