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Time2KILL

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#1 11 years ago

There is this girl that I like and am very secure with. I think she's secure with me too. Anyway she always says stuff to me like "I love you" (she isnt one of those girls that says it all the time) and she claims that I'm her best friend. We have fun together all the time. In fact me and her went out of the way to sit in the front row of our auditorium at chool just to make fun of the principal at an assembly. We didnt get in trouble but it sure as hell was the most fun I've had in months. So basically I want advice as to wheather I should ask her out or not. You see, the rest of my family hates her (well at least my sister) she kinda "betrayed" her as a friend and my sister hasnt let it go yet. I know my parents wouldnt tolerate me publicaly going out with her (there is a shit double-standard in my house between me and my sister) This girl also talks to alot of guys besides me but she keeps saying to me that I'm special to her.

My point is that I've made a similar mistake in the past. I didnt ask this one girl out and I deeply regret it. Now I'm so sure what I should do. My family hates her and she talks to lots of guys besides me, yet she always tells me I'm special to her and occationaly she tells me she loves me. I mean she looks foward to hanging out with me all the time. Actually when I was talking to her on AIM before I left for work she told me that her highlight of the day was just "chillin with you 'Time2KILL "') no that is not what she called me assholes so shutup, I'm not using my real name.

So I'm at a point of indecision, help me out!




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#2 11 years ago

I hate to tell you, but this is only for you ti decide. I don't know her. She might see you as her best friend, and doing this might put a rift into your relationship. Or she might actually allready "love" you as in being attracted to you.

as friends you probably often go out. Try to find out there, somehow.




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#3 11 years ago

Time2KILL;3681819There is this girl that I like and am very secure with. I think she's secure with me too. Anyway she always says stuff to me like "I love you" (she isnt one of those girls that says it all the time) and she claims that I'm her best friend. We have fun together all the time. In fact me and her went out of the way to sit in the front row of our auditorium at chool just to make fun of the principal at an assembly. We didnt get in trouble but it sure as hell was the most fun I've had in months. So basically I want advice as to wheather I should ask her out or not. You see, the rest of my family hates her (well at least my sister) she kinda "betrayed" her as a friend and my sister hasnt let it go yet. I know my parents wouldnt tolerate me publicaly going out with her (there is a shit double-standard in my house between me and my sister) This girl also talks to alot of guys besides me but she keeps saying to me that I'm special to her.

My point is that I've made a similar mistake in the past. I didnt ask this one girl out and I deeply regret it. Now I'm so sure what I should do. My family hates her and she talks to lots of guys besides me, yet she always tells me I'm special to her and occationaly she tells me she loves me. I mean she looks foward to hanging out with me all the time. Actually when I was talking to her on AIM before I left for work she told me that her highlight of the day was just "chillin with you 'Time2KILL "') no that is not what she called me assholes so shutup, I'm not using my real name.

So I'm at a point of indecision, help me out!

Ok you have just told all of us what you think we should know and want us to know.This talking to other guys, seems to be an issue that makes you wonder or ponder your trust in her...WHY?? Explore this.

A. your family hates her and she talks to a lot of other guys. You like her and she likes you BUT BUT Do not confuse like with comittment.

BOY TOY , comes to mind PLAYING YOU LIKE A DECK OF CARDS is also questionable. Consider .

Also consider:

Why does your family hate her ... Is it for the following reasons (many may apply)

a. the girl has a bad reputation b. the girl is seen as loose c. they dont trust her D. A blatant and dry given, the sister ordeal...elaborate with the above letters. Consider that off the bat.

Now secondly it is important that you realy know this girl if you are considering having feelings for her...love. If you just want in her pants you dont need to consider these but if you do not want to get hurt by misplacing your feelings, pretending it is love when it may not be then CONSIDER

A.How well do I actually know this person B. How well does this person actually know me C. Why do other people hate this person D. What has this person done so that I can trust her E. Does special to her mean just a line to get into your pants?? F. Boy toys? Does she have them is she at all serious about relationships.

We do not know the girl but it is important that you know her. So think beyond the clouds and deceit. And consider your feelings and actual relationship with this person. Imagine how serious she realy is and if this is the person you want to go out on a limb for with your most serious and personal feelings.