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Fear-No-Evil

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#1 10 years ago

Next week I head off to university, and quite frankly I'm terrified. Mostly of actually meeting new people... without having someone I already know to use as a springboard. See, whenever I meet someone new it's through someone I already know. It's just natural. You sit down with your friend at a pub or whatever, and you meet their friends, and their friends friends, starting a nice cycle of infinite friendship-starters. But at Uni, for the first time in about 15 years, I'll be completely alone. How the fuck do you meet people on your own? There's no excuse to start a conversation with a random person. It's just weird.




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#2 10 years ago

Well, you can guess you aren't the only one. Just walk up to some random guy and say 'Hey, wanna come back to my dorm?'. If he answers positively... :naughty:. That's a joke. Really, if you wanna meet someone new, just walk up to them and ask what drink they are having/what music they listen to. If they say 'fuck off', their an asshole and nothing good was lost.




Rich19

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#3 10 years ago

"Hi, what degree are you doing?" "Hi, where are you from?" "Hi, I'm X!"

Everyone will be in the same boat in freshers week. Assuming you're living in halls, you could try going over and knocking on the door of the person across from you or next you you, introduce yourself, and let things go from there. Apparently you'll meet so many new people that you won't be able to stay in contact with them all - if you're having a conversation and hit an awkward silence, just say that you're off to introduce yourself to some more people and leave.




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#4 10 years ago
Fear-No-EvilThere's no excuse to start a conversation with a random person. It's just weird.

Its not as hard as you might think.

Just look for people who seem to have similar interests as you, and make a simple comment about it, or something they are doing that interests you. Just introduce yourself to people you meet. That will usually get people talking, and before you know it, you will have friends there.

Hell, just making small talk with people you see often even works. You don't have to have a long conversation with them at first, just a minute or two is long enough.




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#5 10 years ago

I wish there were pubs where I live... :( Then it would be just like this... Except full of drunks... Maybe it isn't so different :p.




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#6 10 years ago

If you smoke, that's a good way to meet new people, whenever you're outside having a cig, just spark up a conversation with someone who's out there. That's how I've met about 15 people in the last 4 weeks. If you don't smoke, good for you, don't start. Instead, just talk to someone next to you in class, or join some sort of club/group at your University, that's another great way to meet new people, and you know you'll have something in common if you're in the same group. I just found out about this capture the flag thing some people at my shchool do, we met last night at the student union building and had about 35 people playing capture the flag across the whole campus, it was loads of fun.




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#7 10 years ago

Hopefully your dorm/floor has a facebook group. My floor had a facebook group, and that is how everyone on my floor got to know each other. Once we all moved in, we got to know each other much better. If you are not living in a dorm, find a way to move into one. Dorm living is the best way to get to know people. You are around each other for at least 6 hours a day.

If you are living in a dorm, get an xbox 360 and Halo 3. You will make many friends that way.




Fear-No-Evil

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#8 10 years ago
Pethegreat;4577944 If you are living in a dorm, get an xbox 360 and Halo 3. You will make many friends that way.

Done and done. I'm betting Rock Band may come in handy too :) All great responses, thanks people.




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#9 10 years ago

I wouldn't try to rely too much on video games, at least to begin with. There will be about a million societies you can join, parties to go to and people to meet in freshers week. Try not to spend too much time cooped up in your room.




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#10 10 years ago

You've all just arrived at university; you share a common interest in making new friends and getting along. You don't really need an excuse to introduce yourself. Almost everyone else is in the same boat as you are, the good thing is they don't bite - well much. =p

A few things that spring to mind:

  • Leave your door open and stick some decent music on. Holler at people as they walk past, 'Hey up I haven't seen you before, you just get here? I'm X by the way.'
  • Go down to the student pub and just ask people how it's going.
  • Invite yourself to others parties.
  • Wander past others rooms and introduce yourself.
  • Wander around the halls with a beer glass in hand or a bottle of Jack or something and see what happens.
  • Play pool with random people.
  • Follow the sounds of computer games.
  • If you don't know pool then learn to play it with random people.
  • Join some societies and clubs.
  • Go drinking with the people in your tutorial groups.
  • Don't take offence if you get blown off by a few people.
  • Use the people you've just met to establish wider friendships.

Really there's a thousand and one ways to meet people, practicing an open door policy works wonders but the main thing is to talk to them. If you're talkative and don't sit there with your door closed all the time people essentially come to you.

You don't need an excuse. If a few people blow you off just shrug on and move on to the next group.