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Admiral Donutz VIP Member

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#51 13 years ago

Please children let's not argue about how our staff handles certain situations in public. You may either talk it out in private or if that doesn't help you may contact a superior (forum admin in this case).




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#52 13 years ago

I've got news for you pal, you are a druggie. You talk like a druggie. You act like a druggie. You sure as hell have the attitude of a druggie. Her parents obviously love their daughter and want to keep her safe. Judging by your attitude and openess, I would say that reservation is well earned by you.




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#53 13 years ago
If you want help, first and foremost you need to find it within yourself to change and accept ridicule.

On the contrary. No one has to accept ridicule. I won't. Even more so he's new to the forums and may not be familiar with the rules to enjoying a healthy debate.

It was entirely within your intelligence to direct him to the appropiate link.

"Las personas nunca intenden a quienes odian" short version...Dont' hate.




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#54 13 years ago

As we are a rather tight knit group of people here, we are always going to knock on the new guy. Especially if he acts like trash.

If he wants us to lay off, then he should act in a mature manner. Not like a dope.




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#55 13 years ago

You are going to most of the time have to accept what seems like ridicule to someone in order to change their ways.




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#56 13 years ago
Saquist It was entirely within your intelligence to direct him to the appropiate link.

It is not beyond me to do that.

"Las personas nunca intenden a quienes odian" short version...Dont' hate.

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#57 13 years ago
WiseBoboI am not about to forgive drug users who when confronted about what they have done choose to forget. I have personally seen what drugs can do to a person (if you wish to further discuss this with me, go ahead and send me a PM) and what effects it can have on friends, family, and even kin. Don't go talking to me about fairness when obviously it can well indeed fuck many things up. I do not blame his girlfriend's parents from keeping him away from their daughter, given the nature of things that can happen. It is not a matter of experimentation but responsibility. He is the one who smoked/rolled the joint/bowl, and as a result, his girlfriend's parents don't want him around, regardless of when this occured. That's called good parenting.

By no means was I saying that he should forget about his past, but instead learn from it. Yes, talk is cheap, actions are what count. That is why, were I in the position of the parent(s), I would, if the conversation I would have turns out with acceptable results, only allow him to date my daughter if he could consistently prove that he was still avoiding the abuse of drugs. If I suspected otherwise, I could immediately terminate things again. It's not just about forgiving or forgetting, it would be about redemption by giving him a chance.

I honestly wonder, do you feel that a person such as him doing drugs for a certain period in his life leaves a permanent black mark upon him as a person that can never be made up for? I don't deny that these things have horrendous effects on the users, but I think it's unfair to deny the individual the opportunity to learn from his past and redeem himself. He hasn't committed a murder; he's done harmful things to his own body, and if he is able to learn from those mistakes and make up for them in the furture by preventing them, why should he not be given the chance to do so?




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#58 13 years ago

WiseBoboGo ahead and fuck yourself dude, which is all about you can do since your girlfriend's parents know when to spot a loser. The fact of the matter is that you did drugs, and now you are trying to run away from the consequences. Go ahead and keep living your life like that you stupid fuck. Go ahead and see how far it gets you. Obviously her parents didn't fall for the "I'm clean and never do it again" bullshit, no matter how clean you may be. You did drugs and her parents don't want their daughter around a user, regardless of when this was done so early in your life. You made a bad decision and here you are on an internet forum displaying how you do not have the balls or the gusto to face your past, yet you ask for advice. You even dated Mary Jane while in a relationship with your girlfriend, you fucking loser. You have no respect for yourself, your girlfriend, or your relationship with her even though "breaking up isn't an option". Help yourself you fucking pot head.

I am not about to forgive drug users who when confronted about what they have done choose to forget. I have personally seen what drugs can do to a person (if you wish to further discuss this with me, go ahead and send me a PM) and what effects it can have on friends, family, and even kin. Don't go talking to me about fairness when obviously it can well indeed fuck many things up. I do not blame his girlfriend's parents from keeping him away from their daughter, given the nature of things that can happen. It is not a matter of experimentation but responsibility. He is the one who smoked/rolled the joint/bowl, and as a result, his girlfriend's parents don't want him around, regardless of when this occured. That's called good parenting.

Couldn't agree with you more...

This Brabbet dudes Girlfriends parent's are smart thinkers....If i had a daughter, i would not let her get anywhere near a druggo, or a "former" druggo....Regardless of what their background is.

I don't care if your "clean"...the fact is that you were immature and irresponsible to do drugs in the first place and I would never wan't my kids to go out with someone who is not responsible enough to relise how fucking dumb it is to do drugs.

What if you wanted to marry this girl? Her parent's would kick your arse...I sure as hell would. Not responsible to know what's right is not a healthy start to a LIFETIME commitment.

Good on her parents. They are smart....You took drugs, you deal with the consequences, and too fucking bad if you love her. I'm stumped how she still "loves" you. Unless she is no better.




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#59 13 years ago
Gauntlet19 = ninthteen. Yes, it does.

The older you get, the less it means infatuation.

As for my opinion, I work in an organzation that has no tollerence for drug use (the organization is called "The South Pasadena High School Drama Company"). If your found to be using drugs, we imediatley kick you out of the company. We will however accept you if your presently "clean." But drug use in the past (if it's known to other people that you've done drugs), will always affect the way in which (responsible) people look at you.

What would expect her parents do to? Do you really think that her father would allow his daughter with someone he knows has done drugs, ever? I doubt her parents would allow it. Personally I think that it's a good decision.

You made a stupid decision, that has some conseqences, get over it.