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Shintsu

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#1 12 years ago

Ok, there's this pretty woman I've seen on an almost daily basis at the mall in the food court, but I've never talked to her. I've heard her talk to some of her friends but thats all. One thing I never really could get the hang of, was how do you ask someone if they already have a boyfriend or not? I've tried thinking of several ways and I can't think of a good way thats not just overly direct or requires more eavesdropping (Which I'm actually not that good at). Any suggestions on what sort of thing I should say or how I should introduce myself (Yeah, my old GF asked me out...don't laugh)?




Aeroflot

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#2 12 years ago
Shintsu;3262350Ok, there's this pretty woman I've seen on an almost daily basis at the mall in the food court, but I've never talked to her. I've heard her talk to some of her friends but thats all. One thing I never really could get the hang of, was how do you ask someone if they already have a boyfriend or not? I've tried thinking of several ways and I can't think of a good way thats not just overly direct or requires more eavesdropping (Which I'm actually not that good at). Any suggestions on what sort of thing I should say or how I should introduce myself (Yeah, my old GF asked me out...don't laugh)?

Not sure...

I just met this one girl at a church bible study (kind of ironic for me, huh? :p) & I asked her what year of college she was in. She said freshman year, so I assumed that there was a very good chance that she wouldn't have a boyfriend in the one month since college began. I also assumed that she wouldn't have a boyfriend at home; I could tell by just observing her that she wasn't the type of girl to be going out with boys all the time.

Basically, I hadn't a clue if she had a boyfriend or not. I just took my chances. Now we both are going mountainbiking on Sunday. I'm glad we two have tons in common.




Flash525

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#3 12 years ago

Such a small world, there is always someone with the same problem as you. In my case, a girl at work, I like her, don't know if she likes me, though I've gotten smiled (but that could be simple niceness). Haven't a clue if she is single or taken (I've heard she "may" be taken, but that may be old news) - The kid who told me that said that he knew from a while back, thus the relationship she *was* in she may no longer be. Nevertheless, what I plan to do (this should work with anyone) I suppose it may help if you get some attention from her. She ever smiled or looked at you or anything? If so, you continue (one of many possibilities) - Go over, and simply say "are you by any chance seeing anyone"? - You could add something before or after depending on the circumstances too. Then, if she says no, you take it from there (act a little cheesy maybe and ask her if she'd like to). On the other hand, should she say that she is in a relationship, DON'T whatever you do just walk away. Continue the conversation, ask how long they've been together or something and how they met (something to keep the conversation going). You do this for two reasons. 1) She doesn't think you are a weirdo. 2) You don't think yourself stupid. Walking away after she says she is taken is only going to end up you later thinking "I should have said this" / "I should have said that" - You can't go back, thus make the most of the opportunity. Good Luck ;)




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#4 12 years ago

Get good at listening on converations. That is how I do it. I don't waste my enegry asking them that kind of question. Eavesdropping is enjoyable. Listen to other people complain about their problems and get a few good laughts out of it.

Just try listening to the TV or someone talking while you do some work. It will take some time, but you will get good at it. I had a good time overhearing some converations.




~Sadie~

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#5 12 years ago

Its a good conversation peice just ask her right out if she is single.




Shintsu

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#6 12 years ago

Well, I've not really gotten her acknowledgement or anything (via smile, looking at me, or anything) so what is something you can do to let them know you are interested in them without staring like you're a perv or that you think they're a goddess and could make you do anything they wanted? I do also have another scenario I'm trying to decide about how to approach it. I have a friend, who has a friend and their cousin is here from Germany (At least for a few years) but I don't know my friend's friend. Now, I like her too, but she is very quiet and to herself, as I'm sure she's a bit confused by english at times. My friend has talked to her, and I'd like to talk to her but I'm not sure how exactly to approach her, being she's from a different country and all. Can you recommend anything to do there?




Captain Speirs

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#7 12 years ago

You could always try the Borat approach...

'I like you, do you like me?!?'

borat_narrowweb__300x495,0.jpg

Works everytime.




Flash525

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#8 12 years ago
Shintsu;3262979Well, I've not really gotten her acknowledgement or anything (via smile, looking at me, or anything) so what is something you can do to let them know you are interested in them without staring like you're a perv or that you think they're a goddess and could make you do anything they wanted?[/quote]Walk past, make eye contact and smile at her? - Do that for a while, and hopefully you'll get some back, and in time, she may be the one smiling first, therefore you have her noticed you and then you can proceed.
Shintsu;3262979I do also have another scenario I'm trying to decide about how to approach it. I have a friend, who has a friend and their cousin is here from Germany (At least for a few years) but I don't know my friend's friend. Now, I like her too, but she is very quiet and to herself, as I'm sure she's a bit confused by english at times. My friend has talked to her, and I'd like to talk to her but I'm not sure how exactly to approach her, being she's from a different country and all. Can you recommend anything to do there?
Ok, let me start by saying you need to decide which one you'd rather like to be with. Having two isn't helpful, you really need to concentrate one a single person. I know I am different in my opinions (aren't we all), but you shouldn't need a "backup". if you decide you like this German girl, then just talk to her as you would any other. Ask her how Germany is and why she moved or something? As it's been said to me countless times, people can give you all the information and advice that you want, but when push comes to shove, you are the one that has actually got to "do it". You are the one who has to smile, or speak whatever, we aren't there to edge you on when you don't have your computer with you. ;) [quote=Captain Speirs;3262988]You could always try the Borat approach... 'I like you, do you like me?!?' borat_narrowweb__300x495,0.jpg Works everytime.

Hmm.. I don't think this will work for him, but you get Rep for that nevertheless ;)




Aeroflot

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#9 12 years ago
Shintsu;3262979Well, I've not really gotten her acknowledgement or anything (via smile, looking at me, or anything) so what is something you can do to let them know you are interested in them without staring like you're a perv or that you think they're a goddess and could make you do anything they wanted? I do also have another scenario I'm trying to decide about how to approach it. I have a friend, who has a friend and their cousin is here from Germany (At least for a few years) but I don't know my friend's friend. Now, I like her too, but she is very quiet and to herself, as I'm sure she's a bit confused by english at times. My friend has talked to her, and I'd like to talk to her but I'm not sure how exactly to approach her, being she's from a different country and all. Can you recommend anything to do there?

Dude, you're lucky. This is the time for you to strike.

Here's the situation (I know the situation, because I hang around with lots of foreign chicks :p) She is shy, so she probably hangs out with her relatives a lot. She won't try to make a lot of new friends, since she seems to get confused with English, plus she is in a strange country. Trust me on this, she will cling to anybody who will try to talk to her.

Now, go start making conversation. Ask her simple questions about Germany, because that is something she won't feel nervous talking about. Make sure to think about what you say to her. Don't use difficult words. Keep your sentences short & simple.

When I was in Croatia last summer... or it could have been two summers ago, but whatever. There was this hot German girl (it's always a hot German girl, right? :p ) who one of my friends introduced me to. I spoke to her using my extensive vocabulary of 800 words (:rolleyes:) ... so I had to speak to her in English sometimes. She spoke some English, but she said that she focused on French instead of English in school (& she was speaking mostly in German.) So I had to be very understandable. I talked slowly & used German words whenever I thought she wouldn't understand the English equivilent. We talked & talked for about an hour, surprisingly, right? You never knew you could say so much with so few words.

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Then, there was this Czech-chick, who spoke much less English than the German girl, but this Czech girl was SUPER - FUCKING - HOTT. On the the scale of one to ten, she was a fifteen. I swear, I almost pissed myself she was so hot, & I had her all to myself, yet I was too scared at the time to ask her out. -- Excuse me for a second...

FUCK SHIT COCK MOTHERFUCKING GODDAMN STUPID ME

I should have asked her out, but I was in a similar situation as you. I didn't know much about foreign girls at this time.

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The point I'm trying to make is: go for her. Foreign chicks in strange countries = prey.




DarkstuareZ

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#10 12 years ago

I know what ya mean, try asking her friends when she's not around or something.