Oh man, need advice please, ive done it this time! :S 16 replies

Oh shit, i feel sick inside, i dont want this to go wrong... Heres what happened... I have a girlfriend, but tbh im not sure if i fancy her anymore, weve been going out since last christmas... Anyhow, a VERY good friend of mine, just got dumped by the girl he was seeing, (weve known each other since about 5 years old, were now 15). She was pretty upset, so was my friend, and today at school me and her were txting each other like all day, ( she is on work experience ). My friend seemed quite dismissive and off with me, so he texted her, asking her, if she was texting me, and that if she liked me... She said yeah she was, and that yeah she does like me (in THAT sort of way), Nows the dark part, i really like her too, but i dont want to lose a best friend over it, im too scared to talk to him, thats just the way i am, but atm his name on msn is along the lines of: "you think your my friend? just STAY AWAY!!"... I dont know wether its aimed at me, because maybe he got really pissed off that the girl he fancies likes one of his mates... Oh man, please help me guys!

you should talk to him, thats really the only thing you can do. talk to him and try to work it out. if it comes down to the girl or your friend, you just have to decide who's the most imporant to you, i wouldnt know what else to do.

Just ask him, simple as that. And if he gets pissed off at you, then you know and you can work something out. You gotta make the choice..

Have to say, don't do it mate, at least not now. Give it a bit of time - wait to see how your friend reacts. If he cools off, and lets it go, you can start talking to him about it, and then perhaps do something. But if you just steam in and pull her at a party or something you'll have cheated on your girlfriend and with your best mate's ex at that.

I'd say get rid of your girlfriend too - I know you're just 15, so you're not expected to be madly in love, but if you fancy someone else not only will you feel like a wanker all the time for lying to her, but also you're mate's ex might cool off, thinking you're not interested.

Sorry, its not the best advice, but I have to say the priority is your mate. When I was your age my friends always said 'mates before girl', and that's sound advice. It doesn't mean nothing can ever happen, but if you give them both time to sort out what's going on, then you can keep your mate, perhaps get with the girl, and not have fucked anything up.

Acomba MikeHave to say, don't do it mate, at least not now. Give it a bit of time - wait to see how your friend reacts. If he cools off, and lets it go, you can start talking to him about it, and then perhaps do something. But if you just steam in and pull her at a party or something you'll have cheated on your girlfriend and with your best mate's ex at that. I'd say get rid of your girlfriend too - I know you're just 15, so you're not expected to be madly in love, but if you fancy someone else not only will you feel like a wanker all the time for lying to her, but also you're mate's ex might cool off, thinking you're not interested. Sorry, its not the best advice, but I have to say the priority is your mate. When I was your age my friends always said 'mates before girl', and that's sound advice. It doesn't mean nothing can ever happen, but if you give them both time to sort out what's going on, then you can keep your mate, perhaps get with the girl, and not have fucked anything up.

:nodding::agreed Go with that, he's got the right idea.

Acomba MikeHave to say, don't do it mate, at least not now. Give it a bit of time - wait to see how your friend reacts. If he cools off, and lets it go, you can start talking to him about it, and then perhaps do something. But if you just steam in and pull her at a party or something you'll have cheated on your girlfriend and with your best mate's ex at that.

I'd say get rid of your girlfriend too - I know you're just 15, so you're not expected to be madly in love, but if you fancy someone else not only will you feel like a wanker all the time for lying to her, but also you're mate's ex might cool off, thinking you're not interested.

Sorry, its not the best advice, but I have to say the priority is your mate. When I was your age my friends always said 'mates before girl', and that's sound advice. It doesn't mean nothing can ever happen, but if you give them both time to sort out what's going on, then you can keep your mate, perhaps get with the girl, and not have fucked anything up.

very good advice. go with this, its a lot better then mine

All is fair in love and war. I was in a similar situation myself years ago. Except it was my friend that had made his interest in my girl known. We parted ways (girlfriend) and after a week or so after I cooled down. He came up to me, explained that he was sorry that we split and expressed his own feelings towards her. He actually asked me if I minded him going out with her, was it OK by me?, as he didn't want to loose me as a friend and that if I said no, he wouldn't go out with her. Since he asked me, and I valued him as a friend, I said that she was not my property and I didn't mind. We are still friends after 23 years and he eventually married her, I was best man! So wait a week or too, let things cool and then ask him. If he says no, then he is not a real friend and has only his own feelings/pride/image at heart. If he says yes go ahead, you win both ways. Just don't rub it in his face with public displays of affection. I think she may be playing you against him to hurt him, so be careful, take your time. If she is playing you she will loose interest in a week or so. Mike will learn that in his middle to late 20's "mates before girls" goes out the window pretty quick..LOL wait and see Mike!:naughty:

Lol I'll bear it in mind... ;)

Just hope I did give some good advice - let us know how it turns out.

If it were me, and I am being honest here, I would tell my "friend" to grow the hell up. If it is a case where he was really in love with the girl, I would back off her. If it was a he broke up were her situation though, it is his own damn loss.

I'll sleep on it, thanks for the advice, thing is, she told me that she liked me, earlier today... And what really makes me feel - <===This small is that i told her i liked her too... As Mike said i think i will just kind of stay out of his way for a few days, then speak to him, probably lose the girl aswell, its not doing me any good. I cant even talk to my G/F on msn, it makes me feel bad :(