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Fetter

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#1 11 years ago

Why dont parents ever take the blame for their childs actions? They always blame somthing in the media, wether it's music (marilyn manson, in coloumbine's case), video games (GTA is violent! let's sue rockstar!), or they blame other children (peer preasure towards drugs and alcohol). But ultimately, it leads back to the parent/authoritary figure in their life. how do the children get hold of M rated games? the parents. how do children get music that's clearly marked EXPLICIT? the parents. and why do children somtimes use drugs and drink alcohol? the parents not explaining the dangers. For instance, I've just started a new class in school (health), and the teacher gave us a syllabus and a 'contract' to take home to our parents. The reason? Some parents dont want their children learning about sex, STD's, or AIDs. And this is in Highschool. If the children havent already learned it by now, who's going to teach them? I just dont understand. maybe when i have kids, i will understand.... but i dont know.....




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#2 11 years ago

In the end its the kid's fault. Beat a woman to death and smuggled drugs? Doesn't matter if you're 17 3/4. You're still responsible - and you should still burn for it.




NeverEndingBattle

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#3 11 years ago

While ^ is correct in his own way. Things like this tend to have to deal with alot of things. The parents can be completely involved and a kid can still fall into drugs, violent video games, and things like that. In the end it is true that it is really the kids decision. Wich is very dissapointed seeing as how children can be influenced very easily. There isn't really an easy answer for this kind of thing.




VOP2288

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#4 11 years ago

Neverendingbattle is right...it's not something that's easy to blame on this or that. Truthfully everyone should be responsible for their own actions...in cases when it fails to blame the media the parents do get blammed...our current system (in America) is basically always to find a possible thing or person or idea to hold responsible and not the person themselves.

Great example...Charles Manson...even though everyone hates him and sees him as a cold blooded killer we still offically blame his actions on things like drugs, hippi-dom, and just the culture of the '60s/70s in general..not actually Manson himself.

I drink underage, I do drugs every now and then, I do stupid stuff and all that jazz and every time I knew what I was doing...my parents had nothing to do with it and neither did any form of media...those instances were my doing and I accept that. It's really time that people as a whole start excepting the responsibility for their actions rather then blamming it on something else




Deanoz

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#5 11 years ago
Fetter_Zickleinmorder;3519106Why dont parents ever take the blame for their childs actions? They always blame somthing in the media, wether it's music (marilyn manson, in coloumbine's case), video games (GTA is violent! let's sue rockstar!), or they blame other children (peer preasure towards drugs and alcohol). But ultimately, it leads back to the parent/authoritary figure in their life. how do the children get hold of M rated games? the parents. how do children get music that's clearly marked EXPLICIT? the parents. and why do children somtimes use drugs and drink alcohol? the parents not explaining the dangers. For instance, I've just started a new class in school (health), and the teacher gave us a syllabus and a 'contract' to take home to our parents. The reason? Some parents dont want their children learning about sex, STD's, or AIDs. And this is in Highschool. If the children havent already learned it by now, who's going to teach them? I just dont understand. maybe when i have kids, i will understand.... but i dont know.....

About the M rated games, drugs and alcohol, and all of that, I don't think that obtaining such things are relevant, but what is is how they are taught to interpret these things and interact with people and all of these controversial situations.

About the school incident, I believe that it is the responsibility of both parents and public schools to teach the things you described, and the responsibility of the parents and the children for learning this information if they are to be contributive young members of the world. Without this knowledge, they place a burdon if ignorance and unsafety on society(pertaining to STD's, etc.)




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#6 11 years ago

Nature or nurture? Many modern psychiatrists believe people are "blank slates" - i.e. they are completely molded by their upbringing. This is the "nurture" theory. I believe this is not true. I've seen siblings - even identical twins in identical environments - becoming completely different individuals.




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#7 11 years ago

It all comes back to the parents, but one parent can be fine with their kid shooting up a cop car in GTA San Andreas and another will send a letter to their congressman. If your a parent, you don't like something, then take it away. It's all up to you, not the providers.




RedDevilXLT

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#8 11 years ago
cc.;3519454It all comes back to the parents, but one parent can be fine with their kid shooting up a cop car in GTA San Andreas and another will send a letter to their congressman. If your a parent, you don't like something, then take it away. It's all up to you, not the providers.

I tend to agree here. I personally feel it's the parents responsibility up to a certain age of the child, ie. 18 in the legal sense. Sure, it is possible for a 15 year old to know the difference between right and wrong or virtual-reality and reality, but still the responsibility of censuring what is played, watched, spoken, and performed in the household is solely on the parents; it's up to the parents to help establish a moral center within the child. As to why many parents today do not own up to their responsibility there could be thousands of reasons, from teenagers with babies who don't know better, parents whom themselves were ignored as children during the baby-booming years, to whatever have you....either way it's always going to be a problem in life...




Quetron

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#9 11 years ago

Look at it like this, say you have a puppy, he chews your shoes up. The puppy grows into a smart dog doing tricks. but say the full grown dog still chews your shoes up. BUT say you had 3 other dogs before and none did that chewing. Whos fault is it that the newest pet now chews? This is why it is hard to blame the parents, and is more logical for them to find a reason. It is just hard to everything perfect when dealing with "individuals"




JohnQPublic84

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#10 11 years ago
Machiavelli's Apprentice;3519450Nature or nurture? Many modern psychiatrists believe people are "blank slates" - i.e. they are completely molded by their upbringing. This is the "nurture" theory. I believe this is not true. I've seen siblings - even identical twins in identical environments - becoming completely different individuals.

Not Nessecarliy nature there. The two identical twins share identical environments, but thier experiences within that environment will never be comepletely the same. One may catch a subtle gesture or elevated stress pattern of speech by thier parent, while the other doesn't. While I do feel that "nature" has a large part to play in how you start out in life, it is invariably affected by the envirnoment in which you grow up...

ANYWAY, all the parent can do is be involved in thier kids' life. Ask questions, invite them to bring thier friends over, check up on them... be encouraging but not overbearing... What really ruins things are those parents that feel they have to be thier kid's friend. Your thier parent, you sometimes have to make them do things they don't want to do...