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DavetheFo

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#21 14 years ago

'yes that' does not really constitute a post, so please post more than that.




Sh0wdowN

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#22 14 years ago

It's quite normal, so you shouldn't have any worries. I'm quite the quiet person myself, although I do reply normally, and don't get nervous. I must say I'm the kind of person like Donovan, I like to observe and 'think', as he put it. The only way to deal with it is kind of to confront it and try to calm yourself, thinking what makes you feel uncomfortable, is it something about your friends or something they do? I'm not sure if it will help, but I've found to review the situation is a good place to start when it comes to solving a problem.




samman

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#23 14 years ago

Me, too. you could almost think of it like this: THE JAWBREAKER THEORY You are a jawbreaker, dull white on the outside, bright colors on the inside. New people see your quiet outside layer. as they start to lick (get to know you), they get to the bright colors on the inside, and eventually to the middle (the real you).




Dot Com

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#24 14 years ago

Yay...me and Magic Mushroom are the same age! *high-five* ;)

Uh...anyway, no you're not alone. I'm exactly how you describe to stangers. However, once I see certain people over and over every day at school, I get to know them better and be more comfortable around them. I still make the mistake of saying stupid stuff in front of people I don't know, and I may hurt their feelings/beliefs/religion in some way. I'm in the university life and I'm still shy to women! (is that wrong? Am I too old to be that way?) It's that feeling that you never say the right thing in front of them...hehe. :uhm: :D

Well..I've rambled on long enough. I hope this helps (makes you feel better). Good luck! :)




Elem3nt

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#25 14 years ago

Welcome to social anxiety, I have it as well, I am loud and upfront with people I am comfortable with. When I meet new people though I barely talk at all, and I feel really awkward. If it really bothers you, you can get medication for it, but to me all that does is cause a whole other batch of problems. I was on em for a while and they worked great and I could talk to girls no problem at all, except the drugs caused me to go impotent:uhm:. When you feel panicky just use rational thought to talk yourself out of worrying, it works for me.




colonel_bob

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#26 14 years ago

Wow, that sounds kind of like me. Especially Mushroom's first post.




-Ghost-

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#27 14 years ago

I've got a similiar problem. I'm outgoing with friends or even people I just know, but with strangers, I kind of freeze up, and can't speak as smoothly with them. Stranglely, I can speak fine with girls most of the time, unless they're extremly hot or something. A trick to getting people to open up is to make 'em laugh. After saying something funny, its easy to slide into a comfortable conversation.




NiteStryker

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#28 14 years ago
Μαjïç MushrøøMoutlaw, you are not alone. I am exactly the same way, in that I am very stoic and reserved around people I do not know and more outspoken with people I know.

Im the same way exactly. I dont talk around people I dont know. But i am very outspoken with my friends.




demonized_outlaw

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#29 14 years ago

about the drunk thing, im kinda a diabetic and if i have alchohol, i will go into a diabetic coma....




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#30 14 years ago
demonized_outlawabout the drunk thing, im kinda a diabetic and if i have alchohol, i will go into a diabetic coma....

If you have serious case of diabeties yes, I have a few diabtec friends who drink on the regular.