How about relax and don't think about it. Don'r try to impress girls, just be yourself. You may be bored of hearing that, but guess what. Its the right thing to do. Just remember girls are not that different. Sure they may have boobies but they are still as normal as me or you. Don't fear girls, they are just people. Edit: Now this is getting annoyin :)
I didn't make it!
recentlly i have been having some issues with girls mainlly i cant get 1 but its not that i dont have the looks (i think so) i mean i have red hair no acnne lots or freckles but no girl the main problem is that i dont have the worlds best girl skill and i think i get a little nervous around them i im saying this so that mabey u being a girl and all could try to tell me a least how girls like them im not asking for an opera answer (u can if u want) but just tell me a way to fix that nervous problem of mine or tell me wat girls like or tell me both and no im not a nerd im more of a prep plz respond back i need some help with this problem badlly!
Okay, Dr Elizabeth-James in da hizouse! Number one, you have all the pieces to the puzzle, you just need to get organized. Heres how: When you look at a girl, dont think about Miss September (who you recently wanked to..jkjkjk), look at her as a really awesome friend, who you want to get with. Lol. As soon as you see them as something not to fear, then you are in the clear. remember that one hun...And please, dont be all nervous, be chill....Stressing is a number one mistake...If you have more personal questions, PM me , and ill gladly help you...
I would die without GF
29th November 2003
*moved to The Pub*
I completely agree, as hard of a concept as it is to concentrate on(believe me, i've been in your shoes brother). And yeah these fucked up threads are getting on my nerves... its a hodge-podge!
bigred192recentlly i have been having some issues with girls mainlly i cant get 1 but its not that i dont have the looks (i think so) i mean i have red hair no acnne lots or freckles but no girl the main problem is that i dont have the worlds best girl skill and i think i get a little nervous around them i im saying this so that mabey u being a girl and all could try to tell me a least how girls like them im not asking for an opera answer (u can if u want) but just tell me a way to fix that nervous problem of mine or tell me wat girls like or tell me both and no im not a nerd im more of a prep plz respond back i need some help with this problem badlly!
Most of us don't have l337 girl skills. You acquire them. You learn by watching others, thinking, and experiencing them yourself. Mac Daddy and Ms. Elizabeth-James, Ph.D., explained it pretty well by first treating her as a person (really, it's amazing how many guys forget this) and second treating her as a friend, because a relationship based on lust isn't going to last very long. Also, most women want to know they can relate to someone interests them, or better yet, excites them. Don't you like to be around people who are novel, exciting, and fun? If yes then I believe it's not hugely different from how women feel. But there are also other considerations. I'd say it's important to make a good first impression. You can usually tell with one look at another person whether you're likely to get along, attracted, self-confidence, wealth, social status, fitness, etc. All this info is delivered in a split second, in that one look, and you judge people, consciously or unconsciously, based on this. First impressions are hard to shake off until you know someone really well. You definitely want to get to know the girl well and that means you need to survive the gauntlet, to say to her, Hey, I'm worth knowing--take a gamble on me. Even if you've got the physical looks, your appearance--the sum of your clothes, accessories (watch, etc.), face, hair style, etc.--is still important. People see your outside first, and then hopefully your personality inside. Yet how you dress says who you are. Your clothes and bling-bling send off signals about your personality. Dress comfortably, dress well, dress to express yourself. Girls will react to this. They have their taste in men, and some will simply reject you or not bother with you if you don't fit their type. No problem. How often do you hear guys saying, "I like blondes, redheads, brunettes." Same thing for women. There's nothing wrong in not being their type; and there's nothing wrong with them for rejecting you. But I think it's important to identify women who you think you'd be more compatible with--not just all the ones who interest you. In conversations, nervousness can take many forms. You might stutter, you might look away a lot or look at the floor, you might fiddle, or you might not approach her to start the conversation (which is the worst of all). Simply relax. Easy to say, but it requires practice. We did mention skills, right? And skills take practice and experience. There are the basic guidelines we hear all the time: look her in the eyes, smile, and try to talk with her, about things you like, about things she likes, and find some common ground. Connect with her--on every level, in every way. Physically, emotionally, and intellectually. Again, let me bring up looking her in the eyes and smiling. This can make or break an encounter. Everyone looks better when they smile and it makes you friendly and approachable. We're strangers until we smile. When you lock eyes with her, she sees into you and you see into her. It shows confidence and consideration; it says you like her, you are paying attention, and you have more than a passing interest. Also, talk with a lot of women, even ones who you'd not normally be attracted to. You will gain more experience and ideas as you interact with more women, so you better understand the diversity of people out there. Last thing I want to touch on is being memorable. To be memorable is to be unique and important. Show her you're worth remembering. Be creative, be daring, be unique. Give her a hint of who you are and invite her to discover the rest. I don't think most guys bother with this. Most pretty women have a hundred guys chasing after them. You need something to set you apart, to set you above the rest. Most of the time it won't be a clever or generic pick-up line (I never bother with them; I think they're cheesy), but it will be something that deeply characterizes some aspect of you you want to show her and to pique her interest. Discover what works for you.